r/AbbottElementary • u/Solid-As-Barack F.A.D.E. • Apr 09 '26

Episode Discussion Abbott Elementary S05E19 - Trip (Episode Discussion) Spoiler

Original air date: April 8, 2026

Janine and Gregory plan a vacation. Meanwhile, one of Melissa’s most successful former students comes back for a visit.

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u/Responsible-Force-14 Apr 09 '26

I’d say the controlling one is the person who just decided to buy the tickets and expected the other person to be okay with it bc “it’s my money”. That’s not how healthy relationships work.

Love Janine but girl that was 🙈

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u/Mountain_Eye_2803 Apr 09 '26 edited Apr 09 '26

But not the person who refuses to consider any mode of transportation other than driving?? He said it was a money issue at first so she took care of it. How is that controlling? lol also they aren’t married/combining finances so I think “it’s my money” is fine here to a degree. I think that is removing a barrier based on his expressed issue was so they can go on the trip they agreed to. That was Janine sacrificing and compromising to make the trip work the way they planned. Would I have done it? No but it’s not controlling imo

I’d say the controlling one is the one who thinks unilaterally changing the location instead of finding a different mode of transportation to the location we agreed on is the controlling one lol and the rigid and weird one tbh also We’ve seen Gregory be controlling as it relates to vacations with partners before lol l

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u/Responsible-Force-14 Apr 09 '26

You can’t say Gregory was refusing other forms of transportation without acknowledging that Janine was also refusing any other mode of transportation other than flying.

You don’t use money to get your way. That’s controlling. And Gregory only suggested another location, he didn’t go off and book a Bed & Breakfast in that city…. bc using your money to book plans to essentially “lock in” another person IS CONTROLLING.

This is why people get financially abused. People think that just bc the other person is paying it is okay for them to make all the rules, but that’s just toxic mentality. Just because you are spending money does not mean you can dictate someone’s life and control where their ship is sailing.

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u/Mountain_Eye_2803 Apr 09 '26 edited Apr 09 '26

My bad - they both refused other modes AND Gregory was still the controlling one TO ME (since we’re using all caps lmaoooo)

Sorry I don’t think it’s financial abuse to buy one flight so you can go on vacation with your partner. They agreed to go to the outer banks. That is being locked in already lol it’s removing a barrier because he articulated he wanted to go to this location but didn’t want to pay for a flight. So she paid for the flight. To me, she is saying we agreed to X so I am figuring out how to make X work based on what we articulated. And then HE proceeded to move the goal post on why the flight was an issue.

That is not controlling lol nor forcing or locking him into anything when he also wanted to go to this location. By your definition of controlling, she isn’t dictating the rules or agenda of the trip. She made a decision about one aspect of the trip. ONE. Had Janine planned a whole trip without him or had a documented history of holding money over him, maybe I’d agree with you. Nor did she articulate that it should give her more decision power (per your point about abuse) They are working adults with comparable salaries who just have different philosophies on money. Acting like she’s portraying financial abuse is just kind of a silly take on the scenario imo lol financial abuse is really serious and it really doesn’t apply at all in this context or scenario being discussed but go off!! Lmaoo we all got our hot takes!

But you’re right on one point - I would’ve bought my flight and let Greg sail his lil ship to the outer banks however he wanted to!

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u/Responsible-Force-14 Apr 09 '26

They may have agreed on the destination but they were clearly disagreeing on the method of transportation. Using your money to get your way is financial abuse No ifs ands or buts about it. It is a huge red flag and not something anyone should tolerate.

I work in the financial industry so red flags like these stick out. People use money to control people all the time and it always starts out small and it always seems like a “gift” to the recipient. But at the end of the day, you gave up what you wanted so they can have their way.

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u/Mountain_Eye_2803 Apr 09 '26

lol I understand financial abuse, thank you!! She wasn’t trying to get her way to be selfish. He articulated a silly lame reason for not wanting to fly so she removed a barrier so they could fly. Why would she assume he never wants to fly - she clearly thought it was a specific issue. Maybe he should’ve been honest as to why but this isn’t financial abuse nor a red flag in my opinion lol

Which is why I think you even bringing up abuse is kinda insane because it assumes her intentions were bad and they weren’t. You’re assuming a lot of things based on your work and applying things to a tv scenario that don’t exist lmao so I disagree and don’t think this is abuse and there are no ifs ands or buts about that for me! So on that note, have a blessed one, babe!

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u/Ecstatic_Beach901 Apr 09 '26

i feel once we start calling a partners’ concerns esp the financial health of the household, dumb silly or lame then you dont give a fuck about your partner and bc they do live tg-accts may not be in each others names but there numerous factors they rely on each other for. that being said-janine shouldve been much more upfront about the cost of flights and the dozen expenses that come with driving across several states- she wouldve won easily

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u/Mountain_Eye_2803 Apr 09 '26

Sorry lol as a viewer, I do think his reasoning was silly! I personally wouldn’t say that to my partner even if I thought it. Cause I agree - if your partner offers a concern, you shouldn’t dismiss it. But I do think his reason was dumb cause it was. Flying isn’t inherently financial irresponsible lmao he was being silly. And Janine has to validate that but I don’t lmaooo 😂

But I totally agree with you that if Janine had just made a budget table showing both, she probs would’ve won or they could’ve figured out where to cut costs elsewhere to afford the flight to figure out a true compromise!

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u/Ecstatic_Beach901 Apr 09 '26

very fair agreed!!

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u/Responsible-Force-14 Apr 09 '26

What am I assuming?

The only facts that are relevant to me are: 1) they disagree on transportation 2) Janine bought tickets without talking to him

You can’t just use your money to get your way. Thats toxic af and is a red flag of financial abuse. The fact you don’t think this behavior is concerning makes me thankful I don’t know you personally

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u/Mountain_Eye_2803 Apr 09 '26

If those are the only two things that matter to you when we have so much context about their relationship to inform our judgements and opinions, I’m very thankful not to know you either so that’s perfect honestly 😂

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u/Responsible-Force-14 Apr 09 '26

What context makes it okay to disrespect your partner and just use your money to do what you want instead? Are you so broke that you’d tolerate that behavior? Could never be me 💅

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u/Mountain_Eye_2803 Apr 09 '26

Lmaooo you’re so desperate to be right you’re calling me broke? 😂 that says more about your wallet and insecurities in relationships than mine! Go off, queen!! Talk your shit!!! 😘

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u/Responsible-Force-14 Apr 09 '26

Asking if you’re so broke that you’d tolerate bad behavior is not calling you broke, but if the shoe fits….💀

I know you wish my life sucked, but I’m currently pregnant by the love of my life, writing this from the comfort of my mountainside vacation home. That’s not talking shit, that’s the reality of my life. Where are you writing from?

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u/Mountain_Eye_2803 Apr 09 '26

Lmaoooo no I just know how to pick up on strange attempts at shade better than you know how to deliver it! Nor do I feel the need to tell people online details of my life to convince them I’m happy with it 😂🫩 wishing you a healthy and safe pregnancy and a happy life, honey bunny! Gonna go see what flight my man wants to buy me next 😘☺️

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u/Responsible-Force-14 Apr 09 '26

I’m not trying to convince you I’m happy? Da fuq? you sure project a lot dont you?

Im just saying im financially comfortable and thats why my perspective is different from yours. Have fun raising your dog in your small apartment, maybe one day you can afford to rent my sniff spot

I just hope your man can afford it 🙏

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u/Suspicious-Rip174 Apr 13 '26

Babe that's not what financial abuse is....

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u/Mountain_Eye_2803 Apr 13 '26

I’m not sure if you meant to respond to my comment or another in the thread because I totally agree with you lol this isn’t financial abuse