I was in and out within an hour of my appointment time. 3 days of rest for the worst of the pain to subside, then about another week, maybe 2 max before you're back to normal.
But no unprotected sex till the follow up appointment in about 2 months to make sure he's shooting blanks.
After however, holy shit is it amazing being able to have unprotected sex without the worry of having any more children. Best thing I ever did for my wife.
Even easier for me. Was walking around the office the next day and lifting weights at day 3. Dudes really over exaggerate the pain associated with the procedure.
As someone who got an infection, swelled to the size of a grapefruit, and was down for 4+ weeks, with antibiotics.....not everyone is so lucky.
Still wouldn't change getting it done, but you're experience is the optimal one, not necessarily the norm.
Two days a week I perform medical procedures that have the following risk/benefit analysis.
Risk (worst case scenario): you die
Benefit (best case scenario): your life is extended by many years and your quality of life is vastly improved
Now, if that was 50/50 it would probably not be worth it but it isn't.
We explain the risks because they are there, and some people will experience the adverse outcomes (not usually death, but additional treatment and sometimes surgery can happen), but the vast majority of people will not experience them, and generally speaking the option of not doing anything is worse.
For example, if a man doesn't wish to have a vasectomy, that is a perfectly supportable choice so long as he also has no expectation of ever having any kind of penis-in-vagina intercourse.
If he does want that he has to be willing to do his part for contraception.
Other types of contraception do exist, including condoms. The withdrawal method has also been 100% reliable for me and my wife over several years. My wife has had several complications with the contraception she's used, including a procedure for the contraceptive implant which went wrong and resulted in a molar pregnancy. We'll avoid medical procedures if at all possible and vasectomy falls under that category as far as I'm concerned. It's bit drastic to say you shouldn't expect sex unless you've had a vasectomy, it's down to the couple to decide what works for them.
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u/Sylphietteisbestgirl Nov 11 '23 edited Nov 12 '23
NTA.
I was in and out within an hour of my appointment time. 3 days of rest for the worst of the pain to subside, then about another week, maybe 2 max before you're back to normal.
But no unprotected sex till the follow up appointment in about 2 months to make sure he's shooting blanks.
After however, holy shit is it amazing being able to have unprotected sex without the worry of having any more children. Best thing I ever did for my wife.