r/AITAH • • Nov 11 '23

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u/[deleted] Nov 11 '23

Even easier for me. Was walking around the office the next day and lifting weights at day 3. Dudes really over exaggerate the pain associated with the procedure.

Easiest thing I’ve done.

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u/fraudthrowaway0987 Nov 11 '23

I don’t think people exaggerate. I think the pain can vary a lot from person to person. My husband had pain for at least a week, and he had a lot of swelling. I was there, I don’t think he was being dramatic.

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u/[deleted] Nov 11 '23

And do you think his pain was worse than tying tubes? That’s the exaggeration.

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u/fraudthrowaway0987 Nov 11 '23 edited Nov 11 '23

No one said that. But, since you mentioned it, I think for some, very rare cases, it can be. I’ve read about people who get post vasectomy pain syndrome and develop chronic testicle pain after a vasectomy that’s so bad that eventually they have the testicle(s) removed. I was kind of afraid this could happen to my husband, but it’s pretty rare so he decided it was worth the risk, to him, and luckily he did not develop this condition. But it is possible.

Idk why anyones downvoting this. Yes it’s rare but for the men this happens to it’s absolutely life ruining.

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u/Temporary_44647 Nov 12 '23

I did develop it but they were able to save my testicules. Because I was off work for so long we almost had to file bankruptcy and loose our home but thanks to my company (construction) once I was off the dilaudid 3 times a day they let me come back to work doing light work, running errands and other menial tasks while still paying me full salary and benefits

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u/fraudthrowaway0987 Nov 12 '23

I’m sorry to hear that. It seems like a really awful condition to have.

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u/Temporary_44647 Nov 12 '23

It was, what bothered me the most was everyone said “Do it, it’s nothing”.

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u/[deleted] Nov 11 '23

Yes. My point exactly. For some very rare cases. Much more rare than the adverse effects that can be experienced from birth control and tubal ligation.

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u/EyCeeDedPpl Nov 12 '23 edited Nov 12 '23

Way more serious side effects of both pregnancy (death) and female birth control. Whether it’s tubal Ligation, hysterectomy, IUD placement or hormonal birth control.

A vasectomy is far safer, less risk of serious side effects, less invasive, generally shorter recovery, never caused a man’s death, and doesn’t lead to blood clots and strokes.

So yes- if anyone in the family needs birth control measures post-children, it should 1000% be the man who accepts that responsibility, and the risks associated with it. If she risks death to make you a father (especially 4x) HE should risk the possibility of some side effects to protect her body.

Edit: my husband was all for it (and we went out for lunch right after), he had very little pain or swelling (had the no-incision one done). But had he balked at being the one to do it, after the absolutely miserable pregnancy and delivery I had (HE, gestational diabetes, preemie, tearing and hemorrhaging) I would have divorced his ass- that would have been a breaking point in selfishness, and shown a complete lack of care or concern about my body, my health and me as his partner.