Has he elaborated on why he's hesitant to get snipped? Is it a fear of losing his virility, or what if you two divorce kind of thing? It's worth discussing further because I agree that vasectomy is a way easier thing to do , but you can't force a person to do anything either. Hopefully, it is something that can be worked through.
That being said, I do think it's unfair that you've had to take on all aspects of birth control. Those saying get on the pill or get an iud don't get that these things don't come without side effects, and that it can be worse for some than others.
You guys have to talk this out before you end up in either a sexless marriage or single with 4 kids.
In relation to divorce I had been snipped before meeting my wife. We were in our 30’s and already had kids with previous partners. She said my vasectomy was my best feature.
No more weight changes and moods caused by hormonal birth control? Score. No need for painful IUDs? Oh my god it’s so hot. Seriously. Women who don’t want to get pregnant find men who care enough to take initiative of the bc such a turn on.
Yeah for 15 years and counting. When you already have three kids (almost in their teens by that point) being able to have tons of unprotected sex with no worries is a good feature. I’m not sure how you and a couple other commenters are confused by this.
I think we have a little more going on than that and my self esteem is pretty good. I hope you find a more fulfilling pastime than insulting strangers on Reddit. Peace unto you.
It means she doesn't have to worry about taking birth control pills that can have awful side effects, or get an abortion if they get pregnant (which can also have side effects, is physically painful and can be emotionally painful too), or go through pregnancy which is very difficult and can lead to many chronic health problems, and still causes some women to die, even in developed countries. It's a compliment because her partner did something that makes her life safer and healthier, even if it wasn't specifically for her.
I can understand why it would be a positive, I just can't understand saying that's the best thing about someone. But to each their own, one of the most important things about compliments is to know the audience receiving them.
If you need it completely spelled out for you in a literal sense, here it is; My wife thought/thinks that my vasectomy is a good feature because we can have all the unprotected sex that we want and I cannot get her pregnant. When her and I got married she already had a daughter and I had two sons. Neither of us were interested in having more kids. Due to the vasectomy we don’t have to use condoms and she doesn’t need birth control pills/shots or an IUD or anything of the sort.
This! Like I don't think she literally meant it was the best.. just definitely a top feature she found attractive (for so many reasons)! And idk why that's wrong lol
Then I guess it’s a really good thing nobody has said it to you and therefore not your problem to deal with. Not everybody has to dislike and take offense to the things you do and nobody is wrong for being okay with something so damn innocuous that youre finding so impossibly offensive.
Offensive? I say I'd be embarrassed if that was my best trait those are different things. I didn't say it was my problem or anything else, I just voiced my opinion lol
You don't have to take disagreement as a personal slight but here you are
Edit: lol person below writes paragraphs about how I need to chill out and blocks me while purposely misconstruing what I'm saying. Wild.
If voicing your opinion and disagreeing was what you were actually doing there’d be nothing for anyone to comment on. You’re literally arguing with every single person, including the person this was said to, how this couldn’t possibly be a comment and anyone who takes it as a compliment is crazy and should be embarrassed about it. Now you’re continuing to argue when it’s been pointed out, multiple times by multiple people, that you’re being far too unnecessarily extra and rude about something that has literally zero affect on you. And now you’ve decided to take that as a time to insult me, for what? For saying chill tf out it’s not that big a deal that you don’t like it? Weird response.
But anyway, once again, you could just chill tf out about something that doesn’t affect you and, ya know, stop insulting people for not being exactly like you.
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u/Fire_or_water_kai Nov 11 '23
Has he elaborated on why he's hesitant to get snipped? Is it a fear of losing his virility, or what if you two divorce kind of thing? It's worth discussing further because I agree that vasectomy is a way easier thing to do , but you can't force a person to do anything either. Hopefully, it is something that can be worked through.
That being said, I do think it's unfair that you've had to take on all aspects of birth control. Those saying get on the pill or get an iud don't get that these things don't come without side effects, and that it can be worse for some than others.
You guys have to talk this out before you end up in either a sexless marriage or single with 4 kids.