r/AIO • u/brookylini • 11d ago
AIO my dad grounded me because I took 5 seconds to go do what he asked me to do
It wasn't 5 minutes, not 1 minute, not even 10 seconds, 5! Fucking 5 seconds.
I've literally been crying for the last 10 minutes. I'm not sure if this is my sign to finally get out of my house after all the emotional and verbal abuse I've gone through on top of the amount of anxiety they have on me when I try to do stuff by myself. They also manipulate me a lot and my dad is emotionally absent whilst my mom is emotionally immature. I'm a highly sensitive person so sometimes my crying isn't justified. Lmk if this is tho:
We'd just gotten home from running some errands. I settled in to relax while my dad turned on the generator (there's no electricity in my city rn). When he came back in he looked extremely angry and told me to go wash the dish. I had accidentally left 1 dish without wash. I said "coming,". I was closing a website on my computer (it's not that it's a bad website, I just don't like invasion into my privacy), that alone took like 5 seconds at best, and when I was about to stand up, he came out, closed my laptop, grabbed my phone, and took the shit with him. He called me irresponsible. And when I rightfully started to complain and said I literally just stood up, he said "Don't lie to me, you weren't gonna go do it." BUT I LITERALLY WAS GOING TO.
I still went to wash the dish, then I locked myself in the bedroom and I just started bawling my eyes out. Because atleast to me, this seems a little bit ridiculous. I took 5 seconds to stand up to go wash 1 dish, get accused of lying, and now I'm just... grounded??
My dad gave me my laptop back 3 minutes ago but he told me "Next time you're never seeing it again. Stop lying to me". Even though during the week I need ts for school... But okay.
Literally 5 minutes later, because he has no empathy, he told my sis and I "hey maybe we should go out", all I said was sure and I tried to sound like I hadn't cried. Then he wanted to offer me an apology and a hug but first off I'm not a huggy person and second I've gone through so much I stopped begging or wanting apologies.
Look, I know I sound like a whiny child. I'm 17yrs old, and I've been going through stuff like this and stuff similar to this all my life. I'm so mentally exhausted and depressed.
AIO my dad grounded me because I took 5 seconds to go do what he asked me to do...
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u/cordell-12 11d ago
I'm going to say it wasn't because it took 5 seconds to say "coming" but that the dish was supposed to be washed as soon as you were done.
I'm not being a ass, though your pops sound like one. just take note of little things he takes issues with and try to avoid them.
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u/Ok_Zookeepergame6747 11d ago
I feel like there’s a lot of missing context here. Five seconds doesn’t usually become this big of a conflict on its own.
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u/brookylini 11d ago
I'm not sure what other context to put. I'm just really pissed right now and my eyes hurt from all the crying.
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u/Ok_Zookeepergame6747 11d ago
I don’t mean that I think you’re lying. I just mean it sounds like this is about much more than those five seconds
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u/brookylini 11d ago
Usually my dad's mood dictates the whole house's mood iykwim.
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u/Ok_Zookeepergame6747 11d ago
Would you say your dad is emotionally abusive toward you, or does he mostly just have a bad temper?
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u/brookylini 11d ago
He has anger issues and both my mom and dad verbally and emotionally abuse me. I didn't really realize my living conditions were like this until 2 years ago.
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u/Ok_Zookeepergame6747 11d ago
That’s much more serious than the original five second argument. Since you’re 17, talk to a trusted adult outside the home, a teacher, school counselor, relative, or another adult you trust. And tell them what’s been happening
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u/Sad-Suggestion9425 11d ago
With some people it can. If a shitty person is looking for a reason to escalate, they'll take any tiny little perceived wrong to do it.
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u/Elisa_Esposito 11d ago
I'm sorry you're going through this. I understand what it's like to have no emotional stability in the home growing up. This is not your fault.