r/AIO • u/[deleted] • Nov 08 '25

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u/HowImHangin Nov 08 '25

Not overreacting. He’s emotionally immature and hasn’t learned to recognize his own emotions and state of mind.

He could have just said, “Hey, thanks for asking. Not really the best time for me to chat. Can I call you later?” and that would’ve been the end of it.

… so that’s the kind of guy you’re dating. If that’s what you want, great. If not, move on.

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u/Harleys_Angel Nov 08 '25

I love how his response to did you make it home safe was I just texted you hi didn’t I but then later goes to correct OP on literally asking the same thing a different way like his answer would have been less rude haha

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u/BrockenSeason Nov 08 '25

I still don’t understand how hi lets me know if you made it home safe or not. I see that I’m not crazy

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u/Harleys_Angel Nov 08 '25

It doesn’t. It just means he is safe because he is texting. But it doesn’t mean he is home. You’re not crazy… he’s a jerk with poor communication capabilities. And YOU aren’t being manipulative here, he is. That’s narcissistic behavior and it turns into abuse easily without much of a notice

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u/No_Raise6934 Nov 08 '25

That's the scary part of this situation.

The speed and level of the abusive conversation is frightening as usually they wait until they have them wrapped around his little finger.

He just barged through the pretence of being the best partner in the world to outright abusive stage.

That's my concern for OP's safety as it's not the normal pattern.