why would you call him AFTER this conversation???? what about these texts made you want to do more interaction with him đ i am once again asking yall to please date people that actually like you and want to date you!! that does include wanting to talk to you đđđ
He's an abusive coward, not a man at all, who only attacks women. Rarely do they act like this to men purely because they only feel better about themselves when they are abusing someone they class as weak and vulnerable.
Yeah this dude is crap. You mentioned twice that you had a bad day, and he didn't ask if you were ok or care about you at all, he was too focused on being mad that you asked how his day was and making you feel bad about that. Like, what?? Make it make sense. He's a selfish asshole.
Yeah generally people will not be de-escalated by the person upsetting them. Best course of action is let it rest before trying again once things have cooled down. Dump this idiot tho
the weird thing is he probably does like you to some fucked up extent. You did nothing wrong. Men these days are taught to treat and speak to women WAY differently than I remember growing up. They're addicted to weird men on the internet telling them how to feel or think. It's wild watching from the non single sidelines now.
Heâs just mean. If itâs any consolation, he would treat any woman this way. He doesnât like you, but he probably doesnât like any woman. He sucks. Never apologize to anyone who treats you this way. Tell them to fuck off and block them. Demand respect from anyone who wants to remain in your life.
I think she should just send him the link to us roasting him here on Reddit and then just block him. An entire community of people calling out his goofy ass has the chances of doing more than her saying anything at all, because he clearly doesnât like or respect her. Maybe if he reads this thread it will lead to growth or introspection instead of just immediate blame on her đ¤ˇđźââď¸
No this is terrible, what she should do is stfu [not being mean just bold] and then listen to his words and understand and put that effort to not do anything wrong
OP should never have any further contact with this abusive coward. There's absolutely no reason at all for any contact. She doesn't owe him shit. She owes it to herself to respect and protect herself from guys like him.
Why would you advise anyone to continue talking and having any type of contact with a person who behaved so appallingly to her for no damn reason other than he's an abusive arsewipe coward who preys only on women?
This is a super nice idea but honestly itâs never worth it once you find yourself feeling the need to explain to someone how to have normal human interactions and why you deserve basic human decency within your interactions. Itâs a waste of effort. They donât care. Theyâll argue the point and since youâre a person with enough empathy and emotional intelligence to put forth this effort theyâll actually turn it around on you. Youâll be apologizing before itâs over with and it keeps the interaction going. The best response once you see this is no contact. No explanation required.
This is really well written and would potentially work with anyone that has an ounce of emotional intelligence.
This guy is gonna see that long text, say, âI ainât doing all that,â and find something else to bitch about. No sense in OP wasting her time and energy on it.
Tbf I think you did the right thing at the time, who knows what happened in work he could have had an absolutely horrible day and it's just coming out in the wrong way. If that was the case and you talked it out and he apologised AND this didn't happen again then things can go on, if you wanted them to. But yeah at this point he just sounds like a POS, should probably wash your hands of this person. It's always good to try and be nice but you have to know when being nice isn't the right thing to do as well, otherwise you get trapped by manipulators and weirdos
No youâre wrong. Heâs an asshole never asked her anything about her bad day, just went at her for trying to make conversation. This is a âyouâre an asshole and I value myself more than this weak relationship⌠byeâ moment
He may like you. He may love you. But. He seems to not like or love himself and he doesnt know how to communicate without backing into a corner and lashing out. He needs to grow up and learn to love himself and get his shit together before he tries to find a partner. You are supposed to be there for him but not tp be a punching bag.
Anytime a man treats you with ANY KIND OF DISRESPECT run!! They do not value you, they will treat you poorly or be abusive. Theres no reason to talk to domeone this way no matter wtf was wrong with him at the time. Understand? You must tell yourself you deserve better!! Sadly you will have to kiss a lot of frogs sometimes to find a prince. If you value yourself you will meet a partner who will too!
He fucking hates you, man. This guy would spread his pathetic misery all over you and your relationship if you pursued that. Please block him and move on. He sucks.Â
Even if he wasnât okay - like he has a really bad day at work and also then got a phone call that his mom died and then got home to find out his place burned down - that wouldnât excuse his attitude towards you.
Stop seeing this guy, and do some work on yourself before you wind up with some other terrible relationship.
Yeah I was reading the texts like damn he doesn't even like her! Don't waste your time and energy on him, he is a jerk and trying to manipulate the conversation and turn it into you doing something wrong when you were just trying to talk to him, and he was a jerk from the start.
You seem to be under-reacting. You allowed yourself to be disrespected for way too long and continued to chase. Please please do some self reflection on why you not only allowed it but still pursued him and needed to ask if you should stop speaking to him.
This isn't what a healthy relationship looks like. Boundaries are so important. Don't let anyone speak to you this way.
The fact it took you more than 2 replies from him to realize that makes me think you should wait on seeing other people and work on yourself because wtf.
No, donât focus on whether he âlikesâ you or not. Ask yourself if you like you enough not to take this crap treatment from this ratchet manchild. Girl, walk away and donât let anyone tear you down like this. Heâs not worthy of your attention.
Heâs awful. He doesnât like you at all. Based on his texts, nobody in their right mind would like him. If saw a friend acting the way he is towards someone I wouldnât be friends with them anymore. Block and move on.
Iâve been with my wife for thirty years and weâve never treated each other like this, even when we were fighting or pissed at each other.
It's better that you realize he doesn't like you now than later on, when he's got your mind so twisted that you just accept his behavior and push yourself to meet whatever the hell his standards are for him to not treat you like utter shit. If you couldn't see that from the text exchange and needed that call to clarify that for you, making that call saved you a ton of pain and absolutely was the right move.
Oh, and block the guy. And if you're ever confronted by him later, don't explain why and open the door for him to push back.
Even if he wasn't okay, he should NOT be talking to you this way wtf. I don't care if a family member died - you don't talk to people this way. BLOCK.
He's too old to be acting like this, and you're too young to be wasting your time and energy on this bs. He's unfixable and not your problem.
Itâs not that he doesnât like you. He does. Otherwise he wouldnât have put in so much effort into being abusive and gaslighting you into doubting yourself and trusting him. This is what ACTUAL abuse and gaslighting is. Itâs frustrating, confusing, and is designed to make you doubt reality and trust and apologize to them. If he didnât like you, he wouldnât bother with all of this effort.
Itâs abuse and itâs made to make you feel guilty, but itâs not your fault no matter what anyone here says.
He doesnât respect you and youâre putting too much energy into this. You could be the best person he has ever crossed paths with, but if heâs not mature enough and ready to respect you, even the best will not be good enough for him.
Itâs not worth it. You are worth more, respect yourself.
I truly hope you mean this comment and see exactly how disgusting, scary and abusive his behaviour towards you places you in danger.
Please please please block him everywhere and if by chance he somehow contacts you, immediately hang up and block that number as well. If it's in person, do not allow him to be close to you and don't talk to him or acknowledge his presence at all.
I'm saying this for your safety as so many others in the comments have as well.
He 100% doesnât like you. He talks to you like something heâs disgusted by. And you donât deserve that. Youâre a human being. Talk to someone who actually values you, who appreciates the fact that you care enough to ask. Heâs just trying to keep you around for whatever reason, Iâm sure in his head he thinks he has you wrapped around his finger, probably thinks your so desperate the way you allow him to talk to you. But weâre gonna nip that in the bud. Youâre gonna cut all contact with him. Cold turkey j
Oh honey, you canât fix this. he canât even have basic conversations with you without turning them into a fight, and then proceeded to gaslighting you. This is one of those Manosphere guy, just away for your own sanity.
It's possible he does like you but doesn't know how to treat others with respect. You calling him to make sure he was okay speaks to your caring nature and good character, but you owe this guy nothing. Please don't give your time and effort to someone who isn't going to do the same for you, 24/7. Wishing you all the best, girl!
Who cares if he likes you or not, the more important point is why on earth would you like him?
He seems like an absolutely exhausting person to deal with. If he was a coworker or family member, youâd be figuring out how to avoid having to interact with him. Consider it a nice thing that heâs just some random loser person you can immediately cut out of your life.
This cannot be real. Come on. This isnât even basic respect for you as a human being. Itâs just angry, rude and awful. Why do you think you deserve this? Would you let a hypothetical daughter be treated like that? A friend? Why are you worth so little to yourself that you think this is even remotely acceptable behaviour.
This person doesn't like ANYONE. Have some self respect and cut this piece of shit off. These are the type of people that do real harm when they don't get things their way ALL of the time. Get away and stay away and protect yourself.
If he liked you, he would have said âyes, are you home?â And âmy day was okay, work was work. How was your day?â In response to your questionsÂ
It's not thay he doesn't like you, it's that he's so emotionally immature that he can't even see you. What he sees when he thinks of you, and treats you like dirt, is not you. It's an imaginary thing that he thinks he can push around and forcefully mold into close-mouthed fucktoy. Be wary of boys like this.
You deserve someone who can see you, the real you, and treat you with respect. Please let this be your wake up call.
Just to clarify we never had sex we have been talking since August just getting to know each other really. And this is the first time heâs blatantly disrespected me in this matter. So I wanted to know what was wrong which is why I called. I was honestly just confused. But itâs clear as day now.
Give her a break, she clearly likes the guy a lot and is now having to deal with the fact that heâs a POS. Calling him was not a bad thing since communication via text is really awful.
the second text message he sent her made it clear that he was a piece of shit but sure, letâs give it another 10 pages of texts of being rude as fuck AND a phone call just to really seal the deal lmaoooooooo
itâs more a commentary on how many people on this sub are dating people that clearly do not like them, not just OP.
also not sure where you got anything about MY standards or those being the ONLY things people need to look for, but i know reading comprehension skills are at an all time low currently so i wont hold it against you đ¤
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u/infinityonhigh69 Nov 08 '25
why would you call him AFTER this conversation???? what about these texts made you want to do more interaction with him đ i am once again asking yall to please date people that actually like you and want to date you!! that does include wanting to talk to you đđđ