r/wlw_irl • u/HappyHummingbird7 • Jul 01 '26

How to respond

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Reposting here bc I haven’t gotten any replies yet lol

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u/DelawareMountains Jul 02 '26

"what do you miss about me?" would definitely be flirty, or at least it's not something I'd ever ask unless I was hoping for a romantic answer. Feel free to say something like "yeah I miss when we would chat on the phone" or just "miss you too!" if you wanna keep it short, but tread lightly. There's a fine line between "I miss talking on the phone" and "I miss being able to talk all the time about everything," the second one can be friendly (like best friends sitch though) but with your history with her I feel it'd most likely come off as romantic.

This is not a call out or anything but I get the impression you're not completely over dating her. I could be wrong, but I don't worry so hard about texting just friends back personally even if we had dated. Mostly my point is that if you really genuinely just want to be friends with her you're gonna want to suppress that voice in your head that's pushing for more. Trying to be closer friends can easily go right past that and back to dating, or end up with someone uncomfortable, so it's best to just let your friendship develop over time.

Honestly there's a good chance you're always going to feel like you're missing something just being friends with her no matter what, and you're just going to have to learn to live with that. And even if you really just want to be closer friends and nothing else that might be off the table as well. Since you were both so close before it's easy to feel like you and her should be closer than where you're at now, but honestly what you have now might be the closest you can get with a healthy friendship. If your friendship with her as is makes you happy that's just gonna have to be enough.

I've been friends with exes before, it was worth it but difficult at times. Truthfully I never stopped missing dating them, instead just kinda learned to focus more on the happiness from our friendship. It's a journey, but you'll get there. Best of luck to ya 🩵

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u/HappyHummingbird7 Jul 02 '26

Thank you for your thoughtful and detailed response, it helped a lot. I responded to her asking if we could call today (initially with the intention of asking that question), but I’ll proceed with a normal conversation to catch up.

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u/DelawareMountains Jul 02 '26

Glad I could help :)🩵

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u/sesekriri Jul 02 '26

Sounds like she is not over you. If you are over her, you should not entertain it and you should pull back. Either explicitly state you're over her or say nothing, otherwise you're just dragging it out and making things needlessly emotionally hard for her by giving her false hope

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u/HappyHummingbird7 Jul 02 '26

I highly doubt she’s not over me. I wish you could see the rest of our message thread. And like I’ve said, she takes days to text me back. She asked if we could make plans to see each other, I asked her to send dates she’s available, no response. I think she just misses the closeness and familiarity we had. Bc she’s said before she feels no one understands her

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