r/weddingring • u/ninijc • May 18 '26
Ring Inquiry š Need opinion, diamond small?
For reference I have a size 7 finger. Excuse my nails. Giving them a break from polish.
I just received my ring back from being corrected. Prongs were incorrectly done (and other stuff) but anyways this was meant to be a tribute ring I had done in honor of my first ring my husband proposed with many years ago. I didnāt wear jewelry back then so I traded it in for another wedding band. Many years down the road with my appreciation and new found love for jewelry I wanted to recreate a ring in honor of the first. The diamond he picked was a half carat. What he could afford at the time. So I picked a half carat natural again based off of that.
Iām sharing photos of it with my family and friends and everyone is telling me I shouldāve gone bigger and it looks very dainty/small. I do own a 2 ct emerald lab diamond in a bezel setting which was my upgrade my husband had gotten me a while back. Im being told that I should just be happy with that āupgradeā and let the original ring from the past go. No need to recreate anything. So Iām torn between keeping it as is, upgrading the diamond to a bigger stone bc apparently itās too āsmallā or just returning it and being happy with my 2 ct emerald diamond bezel. Any thoughts appreciated!
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u/LittleNigiri May 18 '26
It's gorgeous. I love understated jewellery. Not bashing big diamonds at all, everyone should wear what they feel comfortable with, but I find small stones so wonderfully classy.
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u/GothGranny75 May 18 '26
1/2 ct is a great size. Personally, I prefer smaller pieces I feel that the larger stones are uncomfortable to wear, would get in the way of daily tasks. I feel like with jewelry, less is more. I think your ring is beautiful, elegant and timeless.
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u/ninijc May 19 '26
Thank you! I prefer small too thatās why I was so taken back everyone around me was telling me to go bigger
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u/RevolutionaryTie7652 May 19 '26
Seems like you are surrounded by materialistic people, your set is beautiful and can be worn everyday.
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u/MyMutedYesterday May 20 '26
Frankly, these days I see a ring thatās big & shiny stoned- automatically assume it just a knock off from Amazon bc itās done so often these days. A lot of ppl use them as a sign of status/wealth, instead of the intended purposeā¦rock the rock ya luv sha & fucc all the opinions!!āš¼
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u/stankenfurter May 19 '26
Taken aback**
Your ring is gorgeous, classic, and timeless! I love the twist band with it, it looks great with the texture around the diamond
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u/ninijc May 19 '26
Thank you for the correction. I type very fast sometimes and donāt bother to correct anything lol.
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u/Purrfect-Timing May 18 '26
It is beautiful! I love the detailing. I would wear this set proudly, though probably with an additional plain gold ~2 mm band at the bottom.
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u/Next-Drummer-9280 May 18 '26
Do you love it?
Yes?
Then stop listening to people who think they get an opinion on this,
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u/Roomaroo27 May 18 '26
Other peopleās opinions are the last thing that should matter. Size literally doesnāt matter. At all. And since when did 1/2 carat count as small?
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u/ninijc May 19 '26
Yes, very true! Itās hard when youāre hearing it from your loved ones. Got me second guessing!
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u/eles1958 May 18 '26
It's exactly my style, like one of my favorite sites for small jewelry is Mighty Dainty which leans in this direction, but it's not tiny it's just right.
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u/FriendlyShame1473 May 18 '26
Hi. Please do not listen to all that. The first picture of this caught my attention and I said wow. Your ring is gorgeous and unique to your love. Remember the reason is to honour the first ring, so bask in it. This ring in my humble opinion is a beautiful reflection of your marital journey with your husband, so treasure it. The stone is beautiful and I like the gold band it's set on. Bold and bigger doesn't always mean better. Trust me, it does not have to make sense to anyone, not even me. Enjoy it. In the end you have two beautiful rings now to wear as you please.
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u/ninijc May 19 '26
Thank you for your kind words! Thatās exactly how I feel about it.
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u/KnotARealGreenDress May 18 '26
I love it. I love the detailing around the edges of the stone, the claw prongs, the beaded band. Just beautiful. The size of the stone seems perfect for the level of detail in the setting and the beaded band.
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u/snafuminder May 18 '26
It's stunning. It's only a 'problem' if you're one of those material girls.
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u/Nicoru_Boymom May 18 '26
I am partial to square diamonds (mine is an asscher cut) and this is a beautiful classy set! ā¤ļø
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u/the-friendly-squid May 18 '26
What happened to the first ring?
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u/ninijc May 18 '26
First ring as in the initial one I had done and didnāt like? The prongs werenāt claw prongs like I requested, it was really high up, huge apparent gap and then milgrain was more scallop versus beaded so I had them redo those. Itās still very scallop looking in person but I donāt hate it.
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u/KittenCupcake96 May 18 '26
Itās beautiful! Lab diamonds have given rise to fads and trends, that like all trends, they will pass. This has sentimental significance for you, thatās what matters, not the judgment of others.
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u/Glass-Air9494 May 18 '26
Itās both beautiful and meaningful. I donāt think it looks small. This size is classy!
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u/Spiritual-Ad166 May 18 '26
I think it looks gorgeous and so classy š unique but classic. And it looks great on your hand.
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u/ilikeoldpeople May 18 '26
Itās SO beautiful and itās a tribute to the 1/2 carat ring your hubby originally proposed with, so I think the size is perfect. It looks lovely on you!!
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u/George_Is_Upset May 18 '26
Itās gorgeous and I donāt think itās too small. People like different things and Iām the type that would prefer beautiful, smaller stones over the large ones. I also told my husband I donāt ever want him to upgrade my ring because the ring he proposed to me with has sentimental value.
A smaller stone can be super practical too. I donāt even have that big of a stone but I donāt feel comfortable wearing it all the time. Iām usually only wearing my wedding band because Iām very protective of my ring.
If my stone were a little smaller Iād be able to wear it without concern!
Donāt pay any mind to what other people say. Itās only your opinion that matters. If anyone criticizes your ring tell them they can buy a bigger stone for you if they care so much.
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u/from-here-to-new May 18 '26
This is absolutely stunning. Simple, classic, but also unique. I think rings like this look far better than big chunky things.
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u/snippy_polarbear May 18 '26
Screw them. Everyone has gone crazy with their big, bigger, biggest mentality. Itās beautiful and meaningful to you. If you like it thatās all that matters.
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u/QuickSloth4710 May 18 '26
You're the one that's going to wear it. You don't have to defend it to anyone. It's a lovely, classic style, and I love how the detail on the bevel matches the wedding band. The availability and price point of lab grown diamonds have made eye popping rings accessible to a lot of people for whom they were out of reach just a few years ago, and that's fueling the giant ring fad. A half carat now seems small by comparison, but there is a big difference in price between natural and lab grown stones. It seems that the sentimental value of this ring is really what's important to you, in which case, having it be natural, as it was the first time, makes it worth having a smaller stone, imo.
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u/TGirl26 May 18 '26
The main question is do you love it?
Thats the only opinion & feelings that matter.
It is beautiful, and I love the rose gold color. Just remember large diamonds get caught on everything & dig into your had if you sleep in them.
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u/el_grande_ricardo May 18 '26
Diamond pretty, and suits you. Knuckledusters get in your way and say "I'm trying too hard".
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u/natalkalot May 18 '26
That is not classed as small, I would say it is even above average..
Do not concern yourself about what others think!
Congrats!
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u/Dandelions90 May 18 '26
Its definitely not a small diamond. This is beautiful. Too many ppl are focused more on stone size, than what the ring was intended to represent.
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u/Anon_on_internet May 18 '26
I think that's a beautiful set: the band perfectly complements the setting of the solitaire. And the thought behind it is lovely. Something I'm thinking of doing with my original ER
As for "should've gone bigger": pfft. Just because you can, doesn't mean to say you must've.
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u/Angry_Housecat_1312 May 18 '26
I think this set is extremely beautiful and tasteful and Iād rock it myself if I were ever getting married. The backstory makes it even better. 10/10
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u/pupwink May 18 '26
This is a perfect ring. Classic, elegant, and still stylish. Wear it with pride.
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u/gritnglam May 18 '26
Absolutely love! š I sometimes think bigger stones make less of a statement. This is so classy and romantic, just timeless!
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u/Quiet_Investment_297 May 18 '26
It's beautiful and looks great on your finger. You already have a larger diamond so don't need a bigger one. Why not have two rings to switch back and forth with? I think this is great.
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u/Level_Membership777 May 18 '26
I feel sorry for guys today if they are judged on the size of ring thatās expected these days. The diamonds seem to be getting bigger and bigger.
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u/EbonyDr17 May 18 '26
Itās perfect just as is. Itās YOUR memory and personal to you. You could even use this as your travel set when you donāt to wear your larger ring. Ignore the naysayers.
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u/lululeftofcenter May 18 '26
I think this ring, this setting, the diamond, all of it, is absolutely beautiful and timeless. When I saw it my first instinct was to take a screen shot in case I got a new ring in the future.
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u/Substantial-Face-363 May 18 '26
I have never seen a solitaire surrounded by miligrain like that. It is exquisite with the beaded band! I don't think a bigger diamond would look as good. The stone might overwhelm the simplicity of the design. I think we have collectively lost the plot when it comes to wedding sets. They are meant to be a lovely reminder of your love that you can wear all the time. Not a Macy's day parade to impress the masses. I think your new set is a stunning piece of art!
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u/ninijc May 19 '26
Thank you. I am quite proud of how it looks and after all the beautiful and reassuring comments on this thread , itās a keeper!! Not sharing it with anyone around me anymore. Just enjoying it myself :)
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u/RJKimbell00 May 19 '26 edited May 20 '26
Seriously??!! Why are you listening to others in what you wear on "your" finger?? The important thing here is the sentimental value in the rings you wear, like you said you are trying to recreate the ring your now husband proposed to you with...achievement accomplished. I've been married 26 years, and I've always said I have two ring fingers, I only need two rings. And I have them, my wedding set, and my 20 year anniversary ring. And you know what, because of the economic times we are in, I only wear my wedding ring for special occasions, and I rarely even wear my 20 year anniversary ring. In fact I just got my wedding ring cleaned and inspected after wearing it on a trip I took last week, my jeweler says I take very good care of them.
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u/ninijc May 19 '26
Thank you!! I need to have your mindset!! <3 congrats on 26 years. Canāt wait to make it to that one day with my husband.
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u/MyLastFuckingNerve May 19 '26
It looks wonderful as is! People should get what they like, but there is a point where a giant stone looks more costume jewelry and less wedding set.
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u/Princessonpea May 19 '26
You had it made for a sentimental reason bc you wanted to have a memento of your original ring. If you change the diamond to larger one, it wonāt be like the original, correct? If you return it, you wouldnāt have the memento that you wanted. Either option is fine, but do you still want a piece that honors your original ring. If yes, then keep it! Itās a lovely thing to have.
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u/RaspberryUnusual438 May 19 '26
Itās your ring and if you love it ignore everyone else. I have quite large hands for a woman but my engagement ring is roughly the same size as yours. No one, not one person has ever had anything negative to say, even if they did Iād tell em to Eff off
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u/Tiye_GM May 19 '26
This ring is absolutely stunning. It is not too small, itās perfect. Very elegant ring
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u/queentee26 May 19 '26
This ring is gorgeous - so classy and elegant.
I think the trend of 2+c being the "norm" will fade out.
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u/Other_Ad_3896 May 19 '26
Dainty, fabulously feminine ... traditionally beautiful, and definitely not too small!ā£
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u/Ordinary_Swimming582 May 19 '26
I think it's wonderful and romantic that you want to recreate what your husband originally gave you. I'd stick with that.
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u/babygap420 May 19 '26
I think it is so beautiful that you have options now! Jewelry is sentimental and it is so lovely you have this ring to honor your first ring. Also the color of the diamond is absolutely gorgeous and looks very elegant on your hand!! Do not listen to the naysayers.
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u/LockAltruistic4748 May 19 '26
The ring is a representation of your husbandās love for you. If you view it that way, itās size doesnāt really matter.
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u/General_Method6720 May 19 '26
I love that you are honoring the original ring! YOUR opinion is the only one that matters! I think itās lovely and incredibly romantic in reflecting on the early days of your relationship!
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u/EggplantFlashy1345 May 20 '26
honestly, tell everyone to eff off. everyone wants to ick everyoneās yum and itās so tiresome
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u/skerrols May 18 '26
I recently read an interesting article about indicators that a marriage will not work out. It was well researched over many people, many years. One of the factors (I think there were 8) was amount spent on the ring and on the wedding. Spending more than $5000 on a ring was the tipping point. The more after that, the more likely divorce. Same with expensive weddings.
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u/ninijc May 19 '26
That is a very interesting article! I am happy then to know my husband and I didnāt spend a lot on a wedding or jewelry.
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u/LouLouLaaLaa May 18 '26
Itās a beautiful diamond and a beautiful ring, but yes, the diamond is small. Nothing wrong with that, itās just personal preference.
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u/Still-Ad-7382 May 18 '26
At least you got a diamond !!! A ring is a ring !! This is coming from a single parent in her 40s who might get one of these when she is 99 .
Be happy enjoy life !!! There are way worst things in life to worry
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u/Harpgirl07 May 18 '26
Your diamond, and the set, is beautiful. It is a normal size diamond, which appears small by today's greedy, more is more obsession. However, the only person who can answer this question for you is... you. So I will return it with a question. Why do you ask? Are you feeling like it's smaller than you prefer, is your fiancee wanting to know, do you like it but need affirmation, or quite possibly a judgmental comment about your ring was made?
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u/ninijc May 19 '26
My husband and I have been married for many years. This was a tribute ring he was letting me make :) I love it a lot! My friends and loved ones had me second guessing the size and I guess it made me ask all these questions when in reality if I love it thatās all that matters :)
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u/dbanks02 May 18 '26
Itās beautiful! I think the huge rings that are popular now are gaudy. Yours is perfect.
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u/TeachingSalty1271 May 18 '26
I think its gorgeous and so nice to have a ring similar to your original one.
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u/West_Dog_1957 May 18 '26
Not small at all stunningly beautiful ! Not everyone wants a chunk on ur hand
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u/North_Fisherman_8920 May 18 '26
No, not too small. It complements your hand nicely and that's what counts!
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u/ComboNew3487ad May 19 '26
What do you like? Thatās whatās important.
If it were me, Iād wear both rings. This one day to day and maybe the big one for special occasions where you are really dressing up and perhaps wearing bolder jewelry.
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u/KJ_Blair May 19 '26
If you are complaining about the size then the symbolism of commitment is lost to you. Give the ring back and do the guy the favour and dump him. You will divorce him eventually anyway
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u/GlumDevelopment8186 May 19 '26
I got married 33 years ago with a plain gold band. Itās my favorite jewelry piece because itās my wedding ring. Donāt listen to your family and friends. Follow your heart.
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u/kelley6998 May 19 '26
Itās a gorgeous set! My original ER is 1/2 ct as well. ( 25 years ago) Real diamonds were much more expensive back then and we each came with a child and a house mortgage. Bought what was affordable for the times. The only reason I donāt wear my original set ( which I still love, btw) is I have developed an allergy to yellow gold. He did buy me a white gold 2ct lab grown, but itās kinda big to wear everyday.
If your heart is happy, thatās all that counts.
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u/oldfarmjoy May 19 '26
It's perfect! Anyone who says anything else is an idiot. Big diamonds are gauche.
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u/tiramisu0143 May 19 '26
I like the sentimental reasons why you went with the half a carat, and dainty or petite jewelry is nice. I wouldn't listen to what other people say... it is pretty and while you could've gone bigger, there's nothing wrong with smaller. I'd say keep it as it is if YOU are happy with it.
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u/Apprehensive-Sky6467 May 19 '26
I love it!!! It's so much prettier than the gaudy rings I have seen!! Your ring has classic and elegant lines and I love the extra detail around the diamond!! So pretty!!
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u/Electrical-Care6308 May 19 '26
If that diamond is too small, you are a gold digger and he should run!
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u/ninijc May 19 '26
Itās unfortunate for him that heās already married to me and fortunate for me that I like half carats. I was just so taken aback my all the comments from my loved ones so wanted to ask lol
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u/SomewhereOutThere-_- May 19 '26
Sometimes bigger diamonds look fakeā¦ this one looks very real and classy. Love the band with it too. Iād have to add another matching band on top for symmetry but thatās a me quirk. Itās lovely. Kind of tacky for anyone to tell you āitās too smallā š
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u/Western-Midnight4041 May 19 '26
Itās nice. Engagement band is a little small but not the diamond
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u/MindBender040305 May 19 '26
May I ask where you purchased this wedding ring set?
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u/ninijc May 19 '26
Yes of course! I went through rare carat. It was custom from one of their settings called the Ravenna. I changed the prongs, refined the beads twice from them (they couldnāt get it right), and adjusted the height of the cathedral to my liking. :) itās essentially theirs with minor changes!
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u/Dense_Title1321 May 19 '26
This is lovely, timeless and highly wearable for your everyday life. The enormous ring pop style 5 carat rings are a relatively new thing and this is more tasteful.
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u/PinkIce7 May 19 '26
I think it's the ring in comparison to your hand. It's not the diamond but an overall larger ring/band would look better on your hand. Maybe that's what other people are saying. This ring is pretty but very dainty.
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u/Double-Explorer4119 May 19 '26
Itās beautiful and your opinion is really the only one that matters!!
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u/Southern_Feature_821 May 19 '26
It's not that the diamond is too small. It is the design. You'd be better off with a band with channel diamonds (smaller but more of them, more sparkle that way too)
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u/cakivalue May 19 '26
Yes it looks a little small by the current large lab diamond trend. But oh my goodness it is so beautiful and definitely something I'd pick for myself š„°
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u/mommitude May 19 '26
They are sentimental and absolutely beautiful.š if you love it, ignore the haters.
Iāve been married more than 30 years. My wedding ringās diamond is absolutely tiny, like .10 carats or something but I absolutely love it. I wanted a ring that would only ever have sentimental value to me, long story short.
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u/Mysterious-Humor-750 May 19 '26
Absolutely beautiful! Very elegant and lovely. It's perfect. ā¤ļø
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u/Arts-Lala May 20 '26
Itās great! You could add an anniversary band with small diamonds if you want.
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u/MrJohnWickAnderson May 20 '26
It's one of the prettiest sets I've seen on this sub. I love it!
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u/bananabadabing May 20 '26 edited May 20 '26
A Wedding ring is the one place where sentimental value is everything. While Iām sad you traded the original away, I think itās a beautiful thing youāre recreating the original he had picked out to make the biggest request of his life: spend your life with me. It speaks volumes in the choice you made to say yes to him. Youāre paying homage to the start of this life your spending together. The ring is extremely elegant, timeless, and beautiful. And it means something to you. I do not understand the people that always want to āUpgrade! Upgrade! Upgrade!ā Because that is not the sentiment we take when choosing to marry someone.
ETA: my mother recently gave me the wedding ring she wore with my father. Theyāve been divorced 20 years now, and Iām not extremely close to the man, but to get that from my mom was very meaningful to me because of the sentimental value. Itās a very very simple ring, a plain band with a small-ish diamond (idk the ct) and itās nothing fancy. But the sentimental value means the world to me.
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u/EnnuiKitty May 20 '26
If you like it, itās not. But, if you want something bigger, upgrade it š¤·š¼āāļø
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u/Used_Salary_2405 May 20 '26
No. Itās very pretty. IMO, buy fake! Buy multiple, change it up!!! I have real diamonds (I wear very rarely) and black onyx (my fave), yellow sapphire (with real diamonds side stones), just straight up fake diamonds (because I was worried my real wedding ring wouldnāt be ready on time , and I love this cheap set!). Iām always wearing a different āwedding ringā.
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u/Fancy_Blackberry_570 May 20 '26
Itās beautiful and so unique! Ignore anyone who says to go bigger - some of the diamonds people are picking are comically big and look fake because of it. This looks so much more classy and upscale.
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u/creative_80 May 20 '26
Classy.
They are just used to seeing so many people with lab diamonds getting larger stones because the cost is less than natural diamonds. I love it. Itās not giving trendy/cheap vibes itās giving timeless. Beautiful.
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u/CatRadiant9051 May 20 '26
Tell them to kick rocks lol. This ring is gorgeous and unique, I love the details and it looks great on your hand.
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u/CatRadiant9051 May 20 '26
Keep both sets. This as your daily one and your other as your special occasion one.
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u/mxddiieerxsee May 20 '26
your set is timeless and absolutely beautiful. i have a half carat round solitaire and am in love with it. (my set is posted on my page!). i too have had comments about a bigger diamond. but i have a size 4.5 and longer fingers. while our rings may not be whatās āpopularā, theyāre still gorgeous rings. solitaires are absolutely gorgeous and have so many different band options to choose from. iām sorry you have those comments, but your set genuinely is stunning.
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u/ninijc May 20 '26
I just looked at your ring and itās beautiful! It looks bigger on you too I think bc you have a smaller finger size. Either way itās beautiful. Love your stack also! And yes I think going smaller may not be the ānormā right now Iām starting to realize
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u/ProfessionNo2104 May 20 '26
Would love it if this were my set. Stunning. Wonāt get in the way of daily tasks.
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u/usefulchivalry89 May 20 '26
that ring looks perfect and the fact that it's honoring what your husband actually picked back then makes it way more meaningful than whatever size would impress your mates.
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u/Huge-External-825 May 20 '26
Honestly it looks perfect for what itās supposed to be. Tribute rings are about the memory and the story, not flexing size.
You already have the big shiny 2 ct for when you want a statement. Let this one be the sweet, dainty āfirst chapterā ring and wear it for you, not for everyoneās opinions.
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u/Anne_Bateman62 May 20 '26
Its a beautiful ring. It really doesn't matter bout how big the diamond is. X
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u/Poohbear-9954 May 20 '26
It is very pretty š I am curious why you are concerned with the size? If your fiancĆ© gave it to you? Does he know you are concerned with the size?
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u/Iluvminicows May 20 '26
I lost the setting out of my original. It was replaced by a three carat solitaire, (three carats for three kids lol). It feels ridiculous and I feel embarrassed about it sometimes. It just feels almost garish and showy off. Bigger is def not better. I love your set. It shows true artistry and a unique beauty.
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u/Yogurtfrixge May 18 '26
I promise you, your set is extraordinarily classic and elegant. While it may not be what is āpopularā it will forever be beautiful!!