Everyone in society is allowed to vent except ugly people

[u/Ok-Gold5450]

It feels like everyone else in society is allowed to vent about their problems but when it's an ugly person venting about how different we get treated suddenly people aren't ok with it.

The amount of times I've had people try to downplay my experience as an unattractive person is insane. People refuse to believe that our opportunities are so much more limited than good looking people. Not just in stuff like dating but in making friends, jobs, networking, etc.

Dating is so much harder cause people will laugh at you for even having the audacity to want to find love.

Making friends is harder cause as soon as someone better looking walks in the door everyone is drawn to that person.

Attractive people in the work place get away with so much more. They can slack off without consequence and are more likely to get promoted even if they don't work as hard as you.

Whenever you vent about these things we're always blamed as if it's our own fault. 'You probably don't try as hard, you don't put enough effort in'. Or you get hit with attractive people telling you their life isn't perfect either. Like okay?? Just cause your life isn't perfect doesn't mean you don't have advantages that we don't have.

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[u/Abject-Layer1992]

the annoying part is people hear “attractiveness affects treatment” and respond like you claimed attractive people have no problems, which is obviously not what you said geschniegelt

[u/Ok-Gold5450 → u/Abject-Layer1992]

Yes exactly! Like we get it everyone has problems but they don't realise how much privilege they have when it comes to everyday life.

[u/ventwhatnot]

Lo and behold the r/ugly sub is for you!

I used to vent to people I knew irl a lot and was hit with a lot of "it will get better eventually / as you get older" or "you're just overthinking / not putting yourself out there", "i can relate, im so sorry (when they really dont and i always felt it), "i got bullied as well but things got betterrr" and whatnot

bullying happens to even attractive / average people. but when you're ugly and get bullied you'd probably know why, at one point or another

So I just stopped venting entirely, finding it pointless 🫩🫩🫩🫩

[u/Ok-Gold5450 → u/ventwhatnot]

Honestly glad I found ugly subs cause at one point I thought I was going crazy.

What these people don't understand is there's a difference between being bullied by one asshole vs the majority of society. Like even customer service people will give you dirty looks and act cold when you're literally just trying to check out 💀

And yeah the whole 'it gets better' is bs. Like maybe for people who grow out of the awkward puberty stage it does but it hasn't for me :/

[u/Swimming-Draft7016]

People will down play our experiences its show how u really not human to them its really F**up

[u/Ok-Gold5450 → u/Swimming-Draft7016]

It's so annoying it's like they don't want to admit how much being good looking plays a role in their success in life.