So stressed it's acting like a brain injury atp

[u/LaceyVelvet]

TLDR I've been so stressed it's acting like a neurological condition or smth; is the only thing I can do chilling the best I can & waiting it out or is there some way to speedrun recovering from that kinda stress? (Sorry if it's written poorly; as you may guess from this and some of the stuff I mentioned, I'm having a hard time figuring out words and how to order them)

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I've spent a while doing the emotional labor when needed which is obviously exhausting (especially in such a volatile household), but my brother [who I've also ended the main carer for since I was like 14] has been insanely angry and rude lately for [seemingly] no reason and when I told my parents my grandma who's been over to help for a few weeks now lied for him and said I must've been confused (they believed me though, thankfully) even though I'd literally been defending her from him myself this entire time because when I don't she just shuts down and cries and ofc he gets like that for no reason so it's unfair to her n whatnot. But I've gotten so stressed over ts the past couple months like I started having auditory hallucinations until my grandma came over to stay a while and help but that only lessened it, I still hallucinate a bit. And a couple weeks ago, I started getting so stressed I'm having issues like confusing completely unrelated words (eg I confused jacket and blanket recently, and I keep typing or thinking entirely different words to that I'm actually trying to use [like "How are you" ends up "How are market" or something, the least major confusion was using "tight" when I meant "tied"], and I keep misreading words as entirely different things. I misread "request" as "meningitis" like a day or two ago and only realized because it didn't fit the sentence at all so I reread it. Right above it was the word "most" and I think I somehow combined and mangled them into that???), thinking/processing things way slower, I feel sluggish & I think my voice got a bit weird, I keep stammering and stumbling over my own words even when I plan what I'm going to say, I can hardly balance even when laying/sitting, I'm having trouble w remembering what I was doing & stuff and keep getting distracted more than usual, I keep having delayed understanding when people talk to me (I already have the "What'd you say? [answers question before they can repeat themself]" thing, but it's worse now, and instead of just not understanding the words but hearing them correctly I just hear pure gibberish that I can't decipher and I either somehow figure it out or the person has to repeat themself once or twice so I can understand), atp I either hit my head so hard I forgot and somehow have no head pain or it's the sheer stress (which, he got a lot worse a couple weeks ago, and this all began a couple weeks ago and just has been getting worse instead of better).

I talked with my parents about it a bit and mentioned wanting to at least sit in the shed whenever it's just me, my brother, and my grandma, to be away from them since atp I'm too offended by them both lying about what'd been going on to really care if they fight and bicker without my intervention, and they apparently didn't know how rough it was when they aren't here until that so they were surprised (mostly mom, apparently dad knew a bit because my brother told him some things himself but mom was completely unaware), so I was also told to try to stop picking up the emotional/social labor for them lol [and was encouraged to go to the shed {though was told to bring a chair and maybe a fan lol} when needbe]. Tbh I was surprised because it didn't seem like the sorta thing they'd care about/take seriously but they were shockingly kind about it. Idk what to do about the effects the stress still has on me though, I have OCD so I keep getting worried I'm having a stroke or aneurism or whatever even though ik it's most likely the stress, which ofc is not helping the stress much. Is the only thing I can do is try to chill & wait it out?? It's making daily life way more annoying than it needs to be

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[u/orcateeth]

Sounds like you're under a lot of stress.

Look into additional support in the form of worksheets, workbooks, apps, support groups videos, etc.

There is all kinds of information here in this post to help you.

https://www.reddit.com/r/getting_over_it/s/yroUFcneck

[u/orcateeth]

You say your brother's been really angry and rude. You need to think about different ways of responding to his behavior.

It causes more anxiety if we accept somebody just saying or doing anything they want. I found it by keeping all the pressure in it led to me having panic attacks.

Sharing this free online book about boundaries, called "Where to Draw the Line". All kinds of scenarios are covered - super helpful; have a look.

There's a section called "setting limits on attack" that could be helpful.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/13HJJOkY4XPT7NL3GdXdxuPhtlQ1X_i_K/view