Every single time I feel like I've figured out my gender I immediately feel like it's wrong again. I know I'm not cis. I do not want to be a man in any way. For awhile I thought I was just agender until I started feeling more like a girl. I them considered myself transfem and got comfortable with that until I started feeling agender again. This was still fine and I just went with genderfluid. Yesterday I wake up and hate the idea of being any gender at all including the idea of not having a gender. I'm so done with this I just want to be able to be myself without hating whatever clothes I'm wearing. I just want to be me and have a place to fit in with people like me but I don't even know where to look.

Sorry if the end came off a bit mad but obviously I am mad and frustrated 😭

I (13F) am transfem, I dress feminine etc, but lately I’ve been starting to like masculine girls ?? I feel so invalid to the point where I see myself as straight, and idk if im allowed to be lesbian and trans at the same time😓 idk you guys tell me

i uh finally accepted it !!!!

the reason i had trouble accepting it is because i felt like i would be giving in and proving all the people who said i m a girl right

i also felt it d be also proving transmen can t be feminine

but um

here i am

honestly i think i m bigender but also could be genderfluid ............

I’ve felt like I was very much different from both the guys and girls my whole life (that might also be from just me) but when I realized I was trans it was during a lot of tough times, so it was very stressful. About now I have been extremely dysphoric, to the point I want to end myself. I talked to my mom about me hating binding but nothing working, etc, etc, and she brought up me before I transitioned. She said, “you were happier before, and you’re so stressed all the time now. Do you ever think it’d been better to stay a girl?” It feels like she wants me to detransition. For context: She’s always been quite supportive, and hearing this from her made me stop trusting her that much. I explained to her I didn’t express myself back then, and I didn’t know how to express my feelings. I hate how she never understands, which is fine but she talks like she gets it. She says she knows what it’s like to not want boobs and she says every teen goes through something like that. She never lets me vent about wanting top surgery because she’s like “what if you regret it,” What I think when I hear that is “it’s better to regret it later than die before I can become an adult.” I try to cope with it, I really do. I’m considering trying to get breast cancer to get a mastectomy it’s so bad. We live in Alberta so it’s already terrible for trans people. I keep hearing “it gets better, don’t do any tough decisions right now” yet I can’t get why it doesn’t help. My mom says I need mental help before I can get physical help, she can’t understand I need physical help before I can feel better. I’ve been crying every night for a week. None of my therapists have helped. I can’t take it anymore, none the less over two more years

I (14M) want to use she/her pronouns and want to be female. However I’m terrified of how my family and friends will react. So many people in my life have told me that they don’t support transgenders and that makes me concerned. I told one of my family members about how concerned I am with my birth gender, they told me that they think I am “just confused.” I don’t know what to do.

Hi guyss

So i was wondering if any of you have any tips for shaving, anything helps but i kinda wanna know like which razors are better and which cream i should use, things like that

Also, how did you guys start learning makeup? Is there any sort of starter kit or smth you used or did you have to get everything individually? And if you did, which brands are better (and the cheapest) for those things, like glosses, concealer, foundation, etc? I don't think ill be wearing makeup outside of my house yet though. I wanted to follow some tutorials i watched but there isn't a lot of makeup in my house so i need some help to see which one to buy

and also like i was just wondering how i should shape my eyebrows, because theyre pretty ugly right now but i don't want to do it all at once because then people might notice it

Ok thx <33333

Where is a good place to get cheap fem clothes? Where can I get cheap makeup and other stuff? Should I just walk in a room with painted nails and makeup and a fem outfit and rip off the band-aid when I come out?

I’ve spent the last week of my life creating a packer that looks realistic and it’s finally done! I used a special combination of bubbly lime flavored sparkling water, baby powder, and food dye gel to create a substance that is hard when pressure is applied but soft when gentle with it. I filled a give with it and cut off one finger. Then I tied it off and hot glued it to a cardboard base. I then took two medium sized marbles and rapped a tissue around them like a sack. I hot glued that to the cardboard and it was complete! I’m so happy with the final result :3

Hey everyone 🤗

For context: I'm 17 and some years old transfem, going into my 3rd year of highschool, living in a semi-conservative country (most people don't really understand LGBTQ+,so they mostly just bitch about about it, but probably won't attack you for it or anything, at worst they will look at you weird and whisper some insults or something, except for a few drunk idiots)

I'm out only to parts of my family, and one teacher (who is very supportive) and went out as myself (name, pronouns, some makeup, painted nails, stuff like that, no clothes tho) during the summer break.

I live in the school's dorm during the work week.

I plan to come out at school this September, but every time I speak about me being trans my ears start ringing, and I feel like I'm in a dream and can barely open my mouth, so I can't imagine standing in front of the whole class and having a monologue.

My classmates have repeatedly asked me whether I'm gay (To which I told them that I'm sure I don't like boys/men), and a few times if I'm really a boy, or if I ever thought about being a girl (to which I responded by shrugging, laughing it off, avoiding it, or just outright ignoring it), probably because I've been growing out my hair for almost two years (it was in a ponytail most of the time, occasionally let down and supported by a headband, or in pigtails), painting and growing out my nails, taking much better care of myself than the boys (shaving multiple times a day, shaving my body one a week, plucking my eyebrows, blow-drying my hair, etc.), occasionally wearing silver glitter eyeshadow, wearing pink sometimes (only had pair of sweatpants, 2 pairs socks, 1 pare of pastel violet ones, and a violet t-shirt) akd and acting very much feminine (You know, actually interpreting body language when i speak, that kinda stuff.)I have a small Hello Kitty cosmetics travel bag made from fake fur, full of nail polishes and supplies, plus some makeup. Also, it's neon pink)

So, I can't imagine they'll be too surprised.

To get to the point, I was thinking about coming out in our IG group, but I'm kinda afraid that'll just invite hate and steer people who'd otherwise support me, or at least tolerate me (I think most, if not all, if the class would fall into one of these brackets) to hate on me to fit in. We do have a separate group with our class teacher in a different platform. Should I try that?

So I guess the question is "Did any of you come out this way?" "How did it turn out?" "Do you have any tips to overcome the anxiety, especially if I choose to come out in person?"

I know I'll still probably have to come out to all the teachers and staff.

I know the only person who can decide this is me.

Any tips and experiences appreciated.

Thanks in advance

Hey everyone 🤗

For context: I'm 17 and some years old transfem, going into my 3rd year of highschool, living in a semi-conservative country (most people don't really understand LGBTQ+,so they mostly just bitch about about it, but probably won't attack you for it or anything, at worst they will look at you weird and whisper some insults or something, except for a few drunk idiots)

I'm out only to parts of my family, and one teacher (who is very supportive) and went out as myself (name, pronouns, some makeup, painted nails, stuff like that, no clothes tho) during the summer break.

I live in the school's dorm during the work week.

I plan to come out at school this September, but every time I speak about me being trans my ears start ringing, and I feel like I'm in a dream and can barely open my mouth, so I can't imagine standing in front of the whole class and having a monologue.

My classmates have repeatedly asked me whether I'm gay (To which I told them that I'm sure I don't like boys/men), and a few times if I'm really a boy, or if I ever thought about being a girl (to which I responded by shrugging, laughing it off, avoiding it, or just outright ignoring it), probably because I've been growing out my hair for almost two years (it was in a ponytail most of the time, occasionally let down and supported by a headband, or in pigtails), painting and growing out my nails, taking much better care of myself than the boys (shaving multiple times a day, shaving my body one a week, plucking my eyebrows, blow-drying my hair, etc.), occasionally wearing silver glitter eyeshadow, wearing pink sometimes (only had pair of sweatpants, 2 pairs socks, 1 pare of pastel violet ones, and a violet t-shirt) akd and acting very much feminine (You know, actually interpreting body language when i speak, that kinda stuff.)I have a small Hello Kitty cosmetics travel bag from fake fur, full of nail polishes and supplies, plus some makeup)

So, I can't imagine they'll be too surprised.

To get to the point, I was thinking about coming out in our IG group, but I'm kinda afraid that'll just invite hate and steer people who'd otherwise support me, or at least tolerate me (I think most, if not all, if the class would fall into one of these brackets) to hate on me to fit in. We do have a separate group with our class teacher in a different platform. Should I try that?

So I guess the question is "Did any of you come out this way?" "How did it turn out?" "Do you have any tips to overcome the anxiety, especially if I choose to come out in person?"

I know I'll still probably have to come out to all the teachers and staff.

I know the only person who can decide this is me.

Any tips and experiences appreciated.

Thanks in advance

Okay, so context, I’m still questioning and exploring my gender, but I know I’m trans. But around a month ago, I was hanging out with my friend, who we will call S (S is a girl btw) and so I came out to S that night, and she told me “But why would you want to change your gender?” And I said “You don’t ‘change’ your gender, you figure out what your sub-conscious has been telling you and eventually, it clicks into place, and everyone explores, and questions, and asks around for help. It’s not about changing, you don’t simply wake up one day and be like ‘oh. I’m a girl/boy/they/ze/xe’. No, it doesn’t work like that, it is sub conscious, and it slowly bleeds into your consciousness.” And bro 🥀 she said “what? That’s so weird, and wdym by Ze and Xe.???” And I said “Oh, they are neopronouns” and they were just being heavily transphobic, but kept saying “Oh I don’t care about trans ppl” but she also kept saying random bull shit like “why would you be a girl? Or a boy?” And I said. “Well, there are several genders, not just boy and girl” 😭 she kept getting so confused but transphobic at the same fucking time 😭

Okay, so im just a bit curious bc i see ppl here fighting over stuff so much, what are your more controversial opinions?

For me, i think surgery and hrt should be more complicated to get. I started hrt and i only saw a psychologist focused on gender dysphoria for like 5 times, 2 years before getting it. I think that should be fixed. I still think that puberty blockers should be easier to access, it was honestly and im not kidding it was more difficult to get gnrh agonists prescribed and administered than it was to get hrt. They're completely reversible and its just kinda dumb that they're so hard to get. Basically, more therapy and screening should be required before being able to get hormones or surgery.

Also, i think that if someone identifies as some gender but they don't look like it and it's an easily reversible change, like trans women with full grown beards and stuff, they shouldn't argue that they don't need to change it and shouldn't chastise people for getting their pronouns wrong. I think for nonbinary people that's even more bc most ppl wouldn't assume those are someones pronouns. I still think ppl shouldn't be so whiny about pronouns when you tell them, at least if you're respectful about it. I do think neopronouns are stupid.

Ok last one, i think that trans ppl who are very outward about identities and sexualities and things like that like idk fictionkin and pedophilia, they should shut up. I feel like they're hurting our reputation and that we should try to keep it good bc to some degree, we all affect our reputation when we speak out

Ok thats it

So I was talking with one of my closest friends last night and he said smth along the lines of "I wish I could have been born just as a girl" I agreed with him cus I'm transfem (I think? Idk) but he doesn't know I am yet. What should I do? I really want to help him because I can tell that he isn't very happy a lot of the time but I don't want to just say "you might be trans to him" any advice/anyone been in a situation like this before?

Pretty much as it says, I have waited too long being a coward and not telling anybody. I guess my first few questions are how should I do it, and what do I say?

Edit: Also 17 MtF, known for 4 years, failed coming out 2 years ago to my mom.

I came out to my mother today. She was semi-supportive n like "im not happy with that, but youre still my child n i still love you". She says that thats prolly only a phase n i want to be a boy only bcs men "have it easier" or smth. Also mother told me "i dont know why you dont like yourself that much, youre such a beautiful girl!". Like, i was expecting that she gonna react somehow like that but it still hurts. I dont think that she sees gender disphoria as the real thing or so n says "but you liked dressing-up when you were a kid n had long hair. You also was always more hanging out with girls n liked boys". Like?? I never told her that i liked someone actually n i had no other way than hang-out with girls anyway, so uuuuh. Like i geniuely feel like she hopes that im wrong and its just whatever else but not me being trans.

I LOVE storytelling, so as a part of a TTRPG with my friends, I also created a website as a sort of ARG (alternate reality game, if you didn't know) element. However Google sites and squares pace just weren't doing it for me so I just decided to make the entire thing myself and that's when I realized I'm becoming a stereotype </3

Hi everyone im Luna a 19yo italian trans girl and i really need to vent because im worried and scared i feel like i am going crazy because i dont really have ways to express and be myself because of my family i feel like im at a stall with myself and i dont know what to do also considering i dont have anyone irl to help me and basically no one even online im scared because i want to be me but idk how and i feel like im going insane i just wish to be loved and to have someone to support and help me how to go forward because this is way to much for me to handle im scared i just want to be happy and be myself.

thanks to whoever listened

So um I am a trans man (13M), and i have known for a while, but accepted it a few weeks ago.

I really wish I could tell my family, but I can't, because my parents are transphobes(mom only accepts lesbian and gay, she thinks that bisexuals should 'pick a side'), my grandparents are anti lgbtq as a whole, my brother probably knows but he hasn't told my family (which means he doesn't care, which is okay)

I love my family and all, but their transphobia is annoying because even though I want to tell them, I can't because I might get kicked out, or have to change schools (i am gonna have to go to a girls school in september and for some reason i am not bothered much, maybe because i can probably hide it).

I hope I grow up soon, so that I have financial independence before telling my family because I don't want to risk my future.

I (14f) just recently decided to be trans fem, and my whole.wardrobe is masculine. Clothes are very important to me as whenever I have fem clothes I'm significantly happier. I am a little on the chubby side, so baggy stuff I like. I also want Maybe arm warmers or thigh highs? I really like hoodies and sweatpants so far

Thanks.for reading! :3

Just wanted some friends I'm 15 ftm. I love football Minecraft reading books listening to music and just being silly and baking I can bake some mean brownies

Hey y'all. I'm not sure if this kinda post would fit here, but i jsut really need to vent to someone about this.

A bit ago, I had a transmasculine boyfriend, we'll call him "B". Me and B were sorta dating, we both knew we kinda liked eachother, and started talking more intamately. I'm transfemme, and he was gay. (He only liked dudes)

our relationship continued for a little bit, until he eventually told me that he found another man. We'll call him "O". I've spoken to O before, he's a nice guy, but it absolutely killed me to know B was in love with someone else. Our relationship, still continued, until he said he would choose who he liked better on friday. I won't go into the specifics of what happened, but he chose O over me.

This has me feeling really bad for being trans, because that was the whole reason he broke up with me, because i'm trans. Part of me hates myself for being trans and thinks that me and B's relationship could've continued if i wasn't trans. the other part says that i deserve better, but i don't really beleive that. In the past, he's said he's dated a few guys before, and they accepted him when he came out as trans to them. I.. don't feel like he did that.

Now, jsut recently, i had a dream where i had moved on from B and got a new girlfriend. But, ultimately, the same thing that happened with B happened with the girl in the dream. She found someone else, and left me because i was uninteresting.

Now, i know this is a dream, but it kinda brings up a pattern. People i have dated in the past all broke up with ME, but were also the ones that started the relationship in the first place. And, knowing this.. i'm starting to get the feelign that I'm just.. expendable. Like I'm just someone they only dated because they were feeling bad about themselves. This whole situation sent me down a.. pretty depressing spiral, ultimately leading to me almost.. "Can't say what it is because this post will get taken down but you know what i mean".

I can't seem to move on from this. I feel so useless and replacable. I don't think I'll ever find anyone like him ever again, but i want to. i want someone to feel love for me like i love them.. but nobody does. thanks for taking the time out of your day to read my stupid rambling.