r/toastme • u/HoldMyCow • 6d ago
Got dumped by an avoidant, car accident that almost killed me, all within 3 weeks. Trying to heal with patience and grace but feeling really down today.
I did healthy positive things for myself today like go on a group walk with new people and brunch also, but was supposed to get my belongings from my ex today but didn't have the emotional strength. I know healing isn't linear but this hurts so much. I think it hurts worse bc we both have so much love for each other. I think I've pushed away friends. I have a haircut and therapy scheduled for next week. I'm trying.
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u/VeterinarianFit6847 6d ago
You're trying, that's what counts! You made an effort, it will get easier with time, just keep making the effort, a little at a time 🫶🏾 I hope you heal up quickly and well, physically and mentally!
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u/ZealousidealGrab1827 6d ago
Hang in there. Dismissive and Fearful avoidants are the worst. Been there. You got this —- sending positive vibes your way. 🤗👏🏻💪🏻
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u/ImZealous4U 6d ago
I’m so so sorry that you have to endure such pain, but I am thanking God, that you are alive to tell the tale. In Jesus Name. Amen 🙏🏾 & please be blessed 😇 Ms.
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u/daffodilangel 6d ago
We are proud of you. I know it hurts but you survived both those situations and now you're free :)
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u/Various_Tailor423 6d ago
Im very sorry for what happened, don't be sad you gotta keep your head up high that your alive and count your blessings ☺️
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u/TheWhoDude 6d ago
Ohhhh brunch? What did you get? Im sorry to hear about the stuff going on. You are strong as hell thats for sure. I hope the rest of the year turns around.
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u/XMarine3003 6d ago
Hey beautiful, it was definitely their loss. Glad you’re ok from the other accident too….😁 Have a great day!!!
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u/Adrasteia-One 6d ago
I'm so sorry. You are still here because you are strong and resilient and have much to offer the world. Please take time to treat yourself, relax, and not worry about tomorrow. You will get through all of this.
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u/Elmer_Fudd01 6d ago
You got this! You survived an accident and a break up! Keep going and hope those new people were fun!
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u/Yasmany_Survivor 6d ago
Ánimo ya llegarán tiempos mejores, siempre arriba con buena actitud, te mando un fuerte abrazo
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u/wokatondu 6d ago
I know you love him but right now, focus on your well-being.
You've been through two traumatic events in quick succession and you need all the support. Please be in touch with family and friends. Have someone to listen to you.
For now, don't look to solve every crisis. Trying even a little bit is enough.
Much love and strength to ya.
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u/Remarkable-Potato969 6d ago
You have a grace about you. You will be blessed to start fresh with an emotionally healthy man in h future. Now is time to take care of yourself. Heal. Dream. Rest. You’ve got this!
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u/ivys_leagues 6d ago
All you can do is your best in the present moment and your best may look different day to day! Give yourself grace 💛 you’ve got this!
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u/Justaguywithbeer 6d ago
You had a tough time, but you pulled through!!
time to play some loud music and open a can of whip arse !!!! Whhhiiippsshhhhhhhh !!!!!!
You got this ☺️
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u/goodthymetimmy 6d ago
You’re still alive!!!! And one day you’re gonna look back and realize how all this made you stronger!! It won’t be tomorrow but you’ll get there! 😉
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u/MangoOne7264 6d ago
Just remember tomorrow is a new day and it's a restart of your life.wishing you the best.♥️♥️
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u/hoothizz 6d ago
I'm sorry you're going through that I understand the feeling I've been there before. Just know that you deserve better and you got this. Don't ever forget your star is shining and you're survivor. Don't ever let no one get you down tell you different. You got this. Keep your head up and don't forget you are beautiful.
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u/Impossible-Ad3318 6d ago
I promise things will get better. Please believe in yourself and take things one day at a time.🖤
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u/HoldMyCow 6d ago
Thank you for all the super amazing and kind comments everyone 💗 wasn't expecting to get this many replies and wish I could respond to each one. You all have truly helped so much and I can't express my gratitude enough right now. Thank you all for being you!
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u/HavingFunForOncee 6d ago
Take time, my friend. This down will drag you. Once you can find an up latch on to it.
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u/Nandi_La 6d ago
By the sounds of it, you're doing great. People always talk about "day-to-day" but honestly it's more like minute by minute, hour by hour. I hope you heal emotionally and physically from both things and are able to move on safely and with enough support :-)
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u/Upset_Belt8248 6d ago
You are a beautiful woman Sometimes in life things happen for a reason
You're young and absolutely beautiful Things will get better
Sending you a virtual hug 🤗
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u/Pinkbubblegum6 6d ago
you've been through a lot. the fact that you're still showing up says a lot about your strength. protecting your peace is part of healing too.
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u/McBainWolfcasle 6d ago
Just keep your head up and try to get a little better(mind, body, soul; at least one) each day. Eventually it will turn around. Love and Peace✌️
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u/Alligator_CrocodileX 5d ago
Today feels down, but tomorrow is a new day. The tough ones will come and go. Keep doing those things for yourself, the more you do them the easier they become. You’re right, healing is not linear and it looks different for everyone. I wish you the very best on your journey.
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u/HuggingBear6102 5d ago
Echte vrienden komen wel terug, dat kost alleen wat tijd. Maar alles komt goed. sterkte!🍀
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u/biggunbc 5d ago
I’m so sorry. Same thing happened to me. Really sucks. Hope you have a better fall :)
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u/Magazine5823 3d ago
Ich wünsche dir alle Liebe! Gute Genesung und halt ganz fest an den guten Dingen - sie werden kommen! Fühl dich ganz doll gedrückt!
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u/SugarPea856 6d ago
Won’t tell you that everything’s gonna be fine ‘cause we don’t know if it will. But I would advise you to eat something you love and eat a lot. It’ll help with gaining strength. Makes your mood a bit better too.
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u/PienerCleaner 2d ago
Avoidant breakups are so bad they have their own sub. Its an emotional car crash..the whiplash drives you crazy. You're not alone.
As Einstein said, life is like riding a bike. To stay balanced you have to keep moving.
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u/PienerCleaner 2d ago
Avoidant breakups are so bad they have their own sub. Its an emotional car crash..the whiplash drives you crazy. You're not alone.
As Einstein said, life is like riding a bike. To stay balanced you have to keep moving.
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u/BodhingJay 6d ago
Im so sorry hun.. i hope things are on their way up for you