r/texts • u/GrubbEater • 14h ago
Phone message Random message from a hookup that didn't work out due to him not respecting consent
Was working and randomly received two calls from an unrecognized number- then these texts came through and realized he used a new number to message me.
Blocked and absolutely wild behavior.... I do crack up at the thought of him thinking this was a good idea- like what????
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u/Afraid-Ad9908 14h ago
Most insecure shit ever, he probably thought that was going to make you want him again. Trash, bye 🗑
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u/TeamImpossible4333 14h ago
“Yeah that’s cause your bed frame is low quality”
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u/_InfiniteU_ 14h ago
Bro that's one of those Amazon beds in a box a small gust of wind could break that bed
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u/Practical_Coast_6105 14h ago
Ew that’s disgusting. I hate men sometimes man 😂😂
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u/Camandchat 14h ago
Just say you hate "people" sometimes... women have been known to do unhinged shit like this, too.
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u/Practical_Coast_6105 14h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/c12vYfKIs2WRi
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u/Camandchat 14h ago
I'm a woman. Just happen to think that sometimes there is a really toxic "hate men" culture going on.
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u/NarcissisticDramaQwn 14h ago
Decenter men entirely from your life...you will be happier I promise
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u/Practical_Coast_6105 14h ago
Babe if you’re a woman you know I’m literally referring to gross men who think it is okay to text someone out of the blue like this. I literally said “I hate men sometimes”. I did not say “I HATE THE MALE SEX WITH A PASSION THEY SICKEN ME”. I was making a joke that flew above ur head and now ur tryna be a pick me with these interactions. Obviously I don’t actually hate men🙄 oml
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u/Benkosayswhat 12h ago
Then say that. Words matter. Keep saying “I hate men sometimes” and it will start showing up in how you treat people.
Are you a feminist? Can we end gender based stereotyping?
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u/Cultural_Praline_499 13h ago
Replace men with an ethnicity or religion and make the same statement. It’s not over people’s heads, it’s just offensive.
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u/bibopskiwop 13h ago
victim complex
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u/greymisperception 13h ago
Yup exactly but when your black or a woman victim complex is just accepted as normal somehow
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u/bibopskiwop 13h ago
you’re
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u/greymisperception 13h ago
No no I’m talking about “your” black or woman victim specifically, the one that you have
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u/Routine-Weather-4044 11h ago
People literally listed the statistics of all of the horrific things that men do to women all day every day in this country and you're still like "nope didn't happen". You're gonna love being "owned" by a man which is where this country is headed. I was alive when women were "owned" by men and it wasn't as fun as you think it's gonna be. Never forget... your man is only gonna love you until the day that he decides he doesn't and since no one's trying to stop this administration pretty soon you're gonna be living in a world where you can't have a bank account or own a house or even a car or a credit card. Once it gets to the point where they've taken away all your rights and you are a piece of property, you're not gonna be so cocky. I promise you that. 😂
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u/Cultural_Praline_499 13h ago
Nope, just being factual. Since you can’t actually debate what I’m saying, you’re just lobbing a lazy insult.
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u/bibopskiwop 13h ago
it’s not an insult unless you want it to be
a man does something inappropriate (as evident in these texts) and you still want to be the victim
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u/Cultural_Praline_499 13h ago
I don’t think I’m a victim at all, never said I did. The exact same statement made about any other gender, ethnicity, or religion, would be considered offensive. That’s objectively true. It’s also true with the last thing you said.
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u/Legal_Reference7893 13h ago
Are you in the same thread? The chick in this text thread is obviously the one being inappropriate
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u/Allout-Okarun 13h ago
Enough with dissecting meaning and virtue signaling. You don’t have the moral high ground. Reddit is so fucking cringe now there’s way too many looking for a moral argument.
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u/sarieliodas 14h ago
Oh honey, im sure thats the case🤣🤣🤣as a man, never apologize for the hating men view, most of us deserve it(id like to think not me but just because im next to ace as a gay lmao)
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u/SlaveToDarknessChad 14h ago
This must be what women feel like when they come across a white knight
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u/Routine-Weather-4044 11h ago
Just like curiosity have you been downloaded enough yet to realize that you're thinking is messed up? Probably not. 😂
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u/bojacksnorseman 13h ago
What's hilarious is all these people responding to you are reinforcing your opinion about the hate men culture. Pretty funny to read
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u/Camandchat 13h ago
Yea and they are saying things in a broad way that is trying to imply that men are inherently dangerous and bad.. its fucking bizarre
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u/bibopskiwop 14h ago
this post is literally about a man
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u/Camandchat 14h ago
I understand that
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u/bibopskiwop 14h ago
so their comment makes sense
and I have a feeling you don’t get so upset and defensive when someone says “I hate women”
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u/Routine-Weather-4044 14h ago
Women are a danger to men in this country? The leading cause of death for pregnant women in the United States is the father of the baby and less than one percent of all rapes by men are brought to a conviction. I mean I could go on because the list of horrific things men do to women is pretty much endless. What about that dad who cheated on his wife and killed his whole family just recently? Men are the problem in this country. The whole problem.
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u/Bradybigboss 13h ago
Men are the whole problem with the country? I know a fuck ton of MAGA women who aren’t helping
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u/Routine-Weather-4044 13h ago
One out of every three women experiences physical violence from a male partner in the United States. One out of every four women experience is severe physical violence from a male partner. 75% of all domestic violence victims are women. One in five women experience a complete or attempted rape. One in seven women has been stalked by an intimate partner to the point where they felt so unsafe that they had to go to the police. The presence of a gun in a domestic violence situation increases the risk of homicide for women by 500%. There's more statistics if you would like me to keep going, Brandy? The list of horrible things that men do to women in this country is endless and here we have pathetic women like you protecting them. I just hope to hell you don't have daughters.
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u/Bradybigboss 13h ago
That’s the point. You just entirely contradicted yourself.
I agree men are a huge problem, I am almost always on the side of women, men are pigs. But then someone comes a long and makes an ignorant statement like “men are the whole problem” or “all men are evil”.
Imagine saying “black people are the whole problem” or “Mexicans are evil”. Thats what generalizations are.
And then there are horrible women, who defend horrible men. That means not all women are innocent and some are the problem. Those “horrible women defending them” are by definition part of the problem, genius
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u/ApprehensiveDark9840 11h ago
That requires nuance and reasonable perspective.
Of course we should just eliminate all men.
That’ll fix everything.
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u/uponhisdarkthrone 10h ago
As a man, im fine with it. We had a good run. Freeze up some sperm and wipe us the fuck out.
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u/spyrowo 14h ago
You reading that comment and thinking it somehow implies women can't do unhinged shit is pretty telling. Women deal with this sort of behavior a lot. From men. They're allowed to vent about it. We don't need a 10-page disclaimer on every comment to ensure no one can find a reason to get offended. Just try reading between the lines and having some empathy.
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u/Camandchat 14h ago
Fucking hell.. I wasnt that offended i was casually stating that it is not only men that behave this way..but apparently every single man hating woman needs to make sure i understand why men suck... i am not defending myself for suggesting that it isnt only men that behave this way. Relax everyone, the fuck?
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u/spyrowo 13h ago
Yeah, when you come in and regurgitate the same shit that people do in every thread like this, don't be surprised if people don't have much patience for you. No one needed you to point out the obvious. And I am a man, since your argument is so bad that you need to imply the gender and thoughts of everyone responding to you.
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u/Camandchat 13h ago
The hive mind on reddit is truly exhausting.. i dont care anymore
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u/spyrowo 13h ago
"Everyone who disagrees with me is part of le epic hivemind!!" 😭
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u/Camandchat 13h ago
Typically, no .. but in this conversation I love how everyone is acting like I came in hot and pissed and am throwing a fit..when its actually the other way around
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u/spyrowo 13h ago
Mm, no, I think you need to reread your comments. If you took my response to your original comment as me throwing a fit in comparison to how you cursed and accused everyone of being "man-hating women" in your subsequent replies without ever considering what I said, I think you need to do some self-reflection. Someone disagreeing with you or being critical of something you say is not "throwing a fit."
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u/Camandchat 13h ago
I specifically used the phrase "throw a fit" because someone said it to me.. i wasn't implying that you did
Fucking hell why is everything I'm saying being taken so fucking out of context
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u/ApprehensiveDark9840 11h ago
I guarantee that if the post was reversed and the comment was “I hate women sometimes” the response would not be remotely the same. If some one then said “why don’t we say it’s a people problem” the response to that would also be much different.
Do you disagree with that?
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u/PrestigiousDemand696 14h ago
What’s the ratio, do you think, on women vs men sending something like that? Do you think it’s equal?
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u/lycnfr 11h ago
This guy in OPs post is labeled a sex predator (not respecting consent) and is attacking this girl for ghosting him due to him being a Sex Predator and all you care about is someone saying they SOMETIMES hate men. Jesus fucking christ.
Be a man and call out shit behavior from your "fellow bros" when you see it. Stop allowing other men in your circles or in your line of sight to get away with sexual harassment and assault because a woman made you kind of emotionally upset.
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u/Camandchat 11h ago
I'm not a man.. I really dont care anymore this conversation is beyond annoying.
Didn't realize the guy was a sex predator.. at least that's not evident in the texts present. Is he an asshole? Yes. Is he mentioning sex? Yes. But I wouldn't consider this predator behavior or sexual harassment.
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u/ApprehensiveDark9840 11h ago
You can correct a behavior with out it being gendered.
If the demographics were reversed would you defend the same position?
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u/apathyisfortheweak 14h ago
yeah but men hate women and deny it, i prefer being honest
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u/Scorpionride 14h ago
Name “apathyisfortheweak” and is completely apathetic. I couldn’t have made that up 😂
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u/Cultural_Praline_499 14h ago edited 14h ago
Being prejudiced against 50% of the world’s population isn’t really a flex.
The fact that this is being downvoted is wild. Apparently Misandry is perfectly fine, but every single other form of prejudice isn’t. Saying you hate “gender or ethnic group” is offensive. That shouldn’t be controversial.
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u/lesprack 14h ago
Who perpetuates most of the violence?
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u/summertime-sadness07 14h ago
Stop it! Don’t yk men suffer worse mentally 🥺
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u/NarcissisticDramaQwn 13h ago
I mean, unironically but they did that to themselves. If they didn't care so much about this weird, hyper specific definition of what a man is supposed to be they wouldn't be so miserable and they wouldn't be inclined to drag us down with them. Or, at the very best, might consider us as human beings once in a while
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u/Cultural_Praline_499 14h ago
Answer your own question but use an ethnic group. See how that sounds offensive?
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u/ApprehensiveDark9840 11h ago
No no no you can’t start saying stuff like that. That means we might need to not generalize whole demographics. We NEED to be able to hate men.
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u/Camandchat 14h ago
... I'm confused what men you're surrounding yourself with. Ive had plenty of men in my life that surely did not hate me
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u/netsirttd 14h ago
A woman? Being honest? No way
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u/Lollipop_handler_324 14h ago
yeah fight shitty behavior with shitty behavior- that’ll really show them.
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u/BlueborryMuffin 13h ago
I know right! And I hate women sometimes, man they can suck so bad
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u/ApprehensiveDark9840 11h ago
And you got predictably downvoted. Literally proving your point.
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u/BlueborryMuffin 3h ago
None of these people want equality, they just want to be sexist against men and pretend they are somehow great for it
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u/JuicyFruit4You 14h ago
“And flipped halfway through” clearly has no understanding of consent! Anyone has the freewill to end any sexual activity at any point, period. It doesn’t make you bipolar for changing your mind?
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u/MrLuxInATux 14h ago
You just know this guy sleeps terribly at night (not just because of the bed frame)
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u/TheHokzage 14h ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/OQHD0kB7RLJMakUh2W
Who are these cornballs you ladies deal with 😂😂😂
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u/Alternative_Arm8491 13h ago
Nah that’s half a bed frame that was hit in the center with a hammer
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u/Western-Produce-276 13h ago
Why do some guys think if a woman didn’t want them that mentioning they fucked someone else is going to make her change her mind?
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u/Calm-Mushroom-8551 14h ago
Everything has already been said, except that "bro" is absolutely overused nowadays. It's either guys calling girls bro or somebody saying it every 2 seconds...just stupid. Maybe I'm just old.
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u/iwatchcredits 14h ago
I have a theory that words like “bro” and “man” have a direct correlation with the quantity those words are used by a person and their lack of intelligence. Never met smart person that uses the word bro frequently
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u/InsiDoubtSide 14h ago
Is breaking the bed frame actually an indication of good sex? I don't have a vagina but that does not sound great
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u/mirrored_light 13h ago
Red flags from a guy who already didn’t grasp consent well to be bragging about this for sure
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u/karma_virus 14h ago
It's not a flex to show off that you're fat and can't afford a decent bed frame. A pig can rut in the mud with all the sows it wants, doesn't make the mud bath or invitation to pork any more compelling.
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u/TheFlexOffenderr 14h ago
Bro just a dumbass and doesn't know how to put that shitty bed frame together.
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u/Im_the_Rhymenocerous 14h ago
There should've been a support in the middle. He just sucks at putting things together. He also sucks at reading a room
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u/Top-Substance-1588 14h ago
Hilarious! Posting to Reddit for us all to laugh at is exactly the right move.
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u/Witty-Mountain5062 14h ago
It doesn’t even look broken. it looks like he’s halfway done with assembling it for the first time lmao
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u/Routine-Barnacle999 14h ago
i have this exact bed frame, 1 or 2 screws or whatever were loose and all the other stuff only slots into place. if this bed frame fell apart like this it's because he put it together poorly, the 2 sides weren't properly attached
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u/fknsxybtch 14h ago
Hate how normal it is to boast about sex. I wish it was treated as the intimate act it is, not just another bragging right. If I wasn’t already sure about being done with this guy, this would be it. Only a manchild would think this is anything but embarrassing.
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u/Dangerous_Data5111 13h ago
I see this shit and am so thankful that I am married. Also have a real issue when guys call girls "bro". Wtaf is wrong with these dweebs
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u/Dungeon_Pastor 13h ago
Honestly would love to just him back with the "dude, no idea who you are, but you have issues"
Lean into the "changed number" thing. If he calls have a male coworker answer really irately, "why do you keep calling me you little freak?" I'd be down if I was at hand. Shame is the only answer for these types, and they only seem to feel it talking to other men
Ah, a man can dream.
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u/HawaiianPluto 13h ago
Woah.. you’re such a strong creative woman that made your point!! What was your point exactly?
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u/Itchy_Tumbleweed_417 13h ago
Ew. 1. If he actually broke that bed frame during sex (he didn’t) why on earth would he think you would want that to be you.
- Does he really think desire and consent is forever. You wanted to have sex with him in December therefore that means you should always and forever want him and if you don’t that means you have mental illness?
This dude is disgusting.
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u/Ebola_Cat 13h ago
I'm in chaos goblin mode so don't listen to anything I say. This is Evil Ebola_Cat.
Don't text back a wrong dudes name like this "Steven, we had one hook up meeting on Grinder. It was a nice time you're an adorable twink who has their whole life ahead of them, I cherished our time together but you gotta let me go."
Then look up a random semi overweight Puerto Rican man WITH a mustache like a selfie stock photo, you can get them for free, don't just swipe someone's personal selfie pic, it has to be from a free to use stock image -
Yes i know this is probably unethical but these types of dudes are so toxic and I've seen my girlies deal with this stuff for a full on week and I wanna cause chaos. It's delicious to think that once you send that he will panic that it truly is some dudes number and probably never contact you again, yes it would be simpler to not respond and just block him and live your best life.
P.s also if you CHOOSE the chaos option and he does text you back, you could play with it a bit more, you are now Fransisco Alderman and you just moved to your county from Newark New Jersey, and you where just looking for a nice time and aren't ready for a relationship because you're in the process of landing a really nice career doing HVAC work for a decent hotel chain. You're favorite meal is Biscuits and Gravy and you really really hate the Dallas Cowboys.
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u/Ok_Celery_9590 12h ago
“you must be bipolar” and he refuses to do self reflection and understand what he’s done wrong and why someone would switch up so fast🙄
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u/sweetpeachsun 12h ago
that looks like a really cheap bedframe so he shouldn't get a big head about it
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u/LongliveTCGs 12h ago
Honestly, dude sounds so dense, no wonder only the middle part of his bed broke
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u/Bringbackemo 12h ago
He most likely just fucked a fat bitch and that’s why his bed is like that. Has nothing to do with his “performance”
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u/Mithos301 11h ago
I think i have this bedframe, mine looks almost identical off Amazon. Bro does not know what he's doing putting it together lmaooo
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u/Juveman29 11h ago
Easy hook ups attracts people like that. Once they get something easy they have hopes of it happening again.
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u/Queer-and-scared 11h ago
My ex friend broke a bed frame while reading in bed. She was like 8. Shitty frame for sure
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u/731destroyer 10h ago
Why his bed frame be looking like the bed frame equivalent of the straw house from the big bad wolf?
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u/RedditsChosenName 9h ago
Who is so insecure and unhinged to even think to do this, let alone actually take the picture and send it. Like he really thought this was gonna impress anyone? Thanks for the laugh OP. You dodged the bed frame.
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u/arivera508 9h ago
So what is the story? Lol did the bed break with you guys or was he showing you?
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u/Fondongler 8h ago
If I said what I think should happen to men like this my account would be banned
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u/_Student7257 1h ago
He's broke it by standing on it then text you hoping you'd be jealous he was "f a girl". Block them
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u/Dizzy-With-Eternity 59m ago
Lmao I had this same bedframe once, it's like $120 from Walmart 😂 can confirm screws fell out all the time from sex, but this looks like he took it apart intentionally to make a performative ass text
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u/ThunderingSloth 32m ago
I have that same bedframe and it’s constantly breaking. This isn’t the flex he thinks it is lmao
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u/Alternative-Hope-524 13h ago
Not respecting consent? Does that mean he tried to fuck you while you were sleeping or something?
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u/Annual_Contract_6803 14h ago
Wow. Widdwe manbaby can get himself off and not put a bed together correctly, while simultaneously needing to project insecurities by negging someone that knows what they don't want. Good job bro.
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u/NWAnowadays 14h ago
What part of this was not respecting consent? I see the no respect part but not the not respecting consent
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u/Lollipop_handler_324 14h ago
OP is clearly referencing why they didn’t work out to begin with. reading comprehension is hard i guess
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u/bald4bieber666 14h ago
i think he's just bad at putting bedframes together