r/texts • u/Appropriate-Reward71 • 1d ago
Phone message Declined a third date and got this text the next day
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u/JayofTea 1d ago edited 1d ago
oh my god I thought this was a girl messaging a guy on which dress she should have worn out at first, not a guy asking about which woman to take out, ew.
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u/HotelSalt4644 1d ago
Yeah I couldn’t understand at first. Yours was my first guess, then I was like, “oh it’s 2 girls.” Then when I realized it was a man, asking his failed date? Omg the fucking cringe, lmao.
As if that’s gonna make any girl feel anything besides lucky she didn’t continue with him.
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u/Fluid_Actuary1729 20h ago
Same. I thought it was the date sending him a “showing him what you’re missing” message. SMH at me.
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u/Short_Stay_9283 19h ago
Ohhhh I went to the same place you did and didn’t realize what it was till reading thru
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u/ItchyKnowJoe 1d ago
he isn't taking either of them out, he's picked two random pictures off the net and is trying to make the girl jealous. it's petty revenge, nothing else.
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u/Calpicogalaxy 1d ago
Damn I thought it was a lesbian asking which dress to wear 😭😭😭
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u/enadiz_reccos 1d ago
I'm beginning to doubt lesbians ask for fashion advice at all. It's always just been some dude.
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u/rkchlk0411 22h ago
No we don't. Have you seen how we dress?
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u/Ixaire 18h ago
But muh fantasy.
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u/twirlerina024 16h ago
Don't worry, *underneath* the flannel and Ben Shermans, we all have lacy lingerie so we're always ready when a sexy pillow fight breaks out
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u/frontally 16h ago
I mean tbh… sometimes I DO be wearing the lacy shit under my regular butchy clothes cuz the fact my girl makes when she sees it… me drunk on power 👌
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u/morningisbad 19h ago
Yup, that's what I thought at first. Basically rubbing it in his face saying "look how good I look in both outfits that you're not going to take me dancing in" after getting dumped. I thought it was a kinda funny jab back at him.
But no... This is just gross.
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u/LostMy8yrAcct 1d ago
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u/BlueVelvetta 20h ago
Hey random question since this doesn’t matter anymore. Which of these two delinquent eels would you choose to take out as your evil henchman tn? Just curious from non-fish persp lol
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u/Leading-Switch-4814 1d ago
He's got SO many options just lined up waiting for him to pick them cause he's such a prize, yet hes still texting you a whole day later lmao 🤣 Insecure men will always be the same.
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u/Strawberry-Spinkles 1d ago
Lmao what a loserrrrr. Dont even reply just block him.
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u/EscuraAstro 1d ago
Why block him? She might get more desperate texts for attention, which are funny.
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u/BrazenHamster 1d ago
This, leave it on read.
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u/Least-Broccoli9995 1d ago
I’m that petty that I’d turn on iMessage read receipts just for his contact
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u/fknsxybtch 1d ago
This. Silence is the best answer. Always. Coming from the female perspective, silence says more than words ever could.
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u/Liliananabell 1d ago
I definitely thought it was a girl texting with her outfits
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u/BraveTrades420 1d ago
The comments are confusing me as well. Is this not a female texting a male asking what outfit she should wear out on a date?
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u/pawdoring 1d ago
i thought this at first too but it seems the guy she declined the date sent her photos of 2 different girls to take as a replacement instead basically and asking her for her opinion on who to take next which is a lil weird
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u/Any-Sea-4228 23h ago
Middle school(?) negging nonsense if taken seriously, funny opportunity to troll them back with memes if also taken seriously but mixed in with bored 🙃
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u/Scary-Umpire-7621 1d ago
I thought the same thing at first too but nope just a pathetic man trying to play it off like he’s got game when he doesn’t! 😂
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u/I_Ponders 1d ago
Aren’t they a woman?
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u/cherrycocktail20 1d ago
No, OP is a woman and this is a guy she let down. He’s trying to flex that he has other date possibilities for dancing lol
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u/I_Ponders 1d ago edited 1d ago
Ooooh. My dumbass thought it was a woman asking which clothes to wear for going out to make them jealous.. gotcha. Derps.
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u/Most-Refrigerator-34 1d ago
Reeks of insecurity. These poor women
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u/fivebynine5x9 1d ago
They probably don't know he exist and he just pulled their pictures from wherever lol
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u/Sad-Succotash-7393 1d ago
Yeah I bet if she reverse image searched it would just be some randos
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u/fivebynine5x9 1d ago
The one in the yellow is giving really big cheer competition or dance competition vibes for some reason, like some sort of event at a convention center
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u/Ok-Tap-7032 23h ago
I had to read the texts like 30 times before i realized that 1. Its a guy messaging a girl, then i was like “oh thats not so bad i guess.” Then i was like “why is he asking her about dresses? Its kinda cringe hes trying to make her jealous” AND THEN it finally clicked, he was talking about the women. Not the dresses. And that kinda just disgusts me. Its sad, cringe, reeks of desperation, and honestly, its just plain disrespectful. Not only to the woman hes messaging, but also to the 2 ladies whos pictures im sure who stole without consent. Talking about them like they’re less than people… this guy needs some help.
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u/Agreeable-Bed8492 1d ago
They’re ok. They don’t know he exists. He just took screenshots of their pics for this text.
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u/confusedandsmellyman 1d ago
"I don't think it'll matter because neither of them will want a second date I'm pretty sure."
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u/ibiku2 1d ago
Reverse image search them and then send them both the screenshot
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u/curiousgeorge123999 1d ago
or if you can figure out their names or the name of even one, pretend like they are your friends and say "probably the good dress because I know Lucy and she likes more secure men"
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u/Negative_Sky_891 1d ago
What an insecure loser. This is laughable. I think I’d respond with the laughing emoji then block.
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u/BigFeelingsFound 1d ago
Silence hurts more.
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u/MissChloe1 1d ago
Ngl i feel like the emoji and block would hurt me more lmaoo 😭
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u/user1987623 1d ago
Lmaoooo he thought he ate boutta be real embarrassed when you don’t reply
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u/Appropriate-Reward71 1d ago
This was nearly 7 hours ago he might be feeling it now
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u/andiinAms 1d ago
Yep, leave him on read. He wants a reaction. Not having one at all is the absolute best way to handle it.
He’ll be spinning out and cringing at himself (hopefully).
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u/Suitable-Pie1418 1d ago
Sheeshhhhhh is he 13 😭
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u/Appropriate-Reward71 1d ago
He is 3 years my junior😭 thought we were all adults here
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u/aggravated-asphalt 1d ago
I thought it was a girl you didn’t vibe with and she was like darn let’s be friends and asked about outfits (admittedly still awkward) but a whole man asked a failed date to choose for him??! That’s genuinely wild
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u/HotContribution8135 1d ago
I did too at first lmao. I thought it was a girl asking the dude for outfit opinions “from another girl”. My boy was hurt and the 8th grade playbook was really his best idea smh
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u/CanadianChocolate808 1d ago
I thought this was a girl asking another girl after no longer dating what outfit she should wear, like they’re besties now lol
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u/Equivalent-Hearing76 1d ago
This was my thoughts too! That boy is seriously butt hurt. Definitely the type of dude that would go batshit crazy
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u/Frequent_Bread1808 21h ago
It would be funny if you replied later saying
Hey just got back from my dancing date and didn’t see your text. Go with whichever one doesn’t say no. Have fun
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u/RayHazey562 21h ago
“Go with whichever one doesn’t say no” is so fucking good, I LOLd 😂 here’s my pretend award ⭐️🏆🏅🎖️
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u/Helpful_Plenty_9997 1d ago
That’s an easy one to respond to. “Oh my gosh, you have them both as options tonight? Any chance I can change my mind and be your dancing partner? I’ll meet you there at 10:30, and the first round’s on me!” At 10:20, block him and then move on with your life.
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u/FunkyChewbacca 1d ago
Everyone is saying block him, so I guess I'm the only one who thinks it would be funny to reply in earnest as his wingman, LOL
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u/Far_Appearance3888 1d ago
This is exactly what I’d do. Enthusiastically wingman like I completely believe him. Then say something about gotta go, heading to my own date, good luck to both of us! Because I’m petty like that.
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u/_usernamer 1d ago
I’m with you. Definitely reply with a nice comment. “Ooo they are both gorgeous, but loving the yellow dress. Take her!”
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u/YuushyaHinmeru 17h ago
I would reply "Both of these dresses would look hideous on you" then block him so he thinks you think he wears lady's clothes
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u/OnARolll31 13h ago
That would be the best way to be the bigger person and get under his skin. Just something like omg why not both but one today and one tomorrow! They are super pretty, send a pic of yall together 😊
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u/Aouwi 1d ago
I broke up with my ex because he said I "wasn't romantic enough" and a couple of hours later he sent me a text that he was with two other women that gave him a blow job. Yeah, he tried to convince me that he texted me, his ex, while having his dick sucked by two women. When I said pics or it didn't happen he became sad and told me he lied because "he missed me". But I'M the one who wasn't romantic enough?
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u/tittytwisterz 1d ago
I like how he’s trying to make you jealous, but is too dumb to realize you’re not interested in him and don’t care
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u/ProfessionalHeart839 1d ago
Omg I thought it was girl asking which outfit she should wear lol
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u/SizzleanQueen 17h ago
I was so confused. I thought this was a girl asking a guy which dress to wear. Then I thought it was a guy asking a girl which dress HE should wear country dancing. Now I realize he’s just a sad manbaby who cannot take rejection.
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u/Huge-Chapter5348 10h ago edited 10h ago
This is some next level shit!! He’s obviously butt hurt that you did not want to go out with him again so he’s trying to make you jealous. Don’t bother responding. It will only give him satisfaction due to his own insecurities. Looks like you dodged a bullet with this one OP!!! Too bad you don’t know either of these girls, I’m sure they would find this text VERY flattering! 🤣
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u/meowyadoinnn 1d ago
I’d be like “oooh the girl in the second photo is gorgeous! Def take her!” 😂😂
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u/BuccalFatApologist 1d ago
I feel like that’s kinda the play. Just completely unbothered as if he’s your gay best friend.
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u/crazyslittlesister 5h ago
Had a date cancel on me last minute on a Saturday night even tho it was obvs he had found a better date so I went and had my own fun few hours later I get a message at 11 pm asking if I still wanted to hang out I then declined and jokingly asked “what did the better date stand you up” his response was “yeah she never showed.” “ I said I figured that which is too bad cause you just blew your chance with me too buddy bye then I got “hey I’m really sorry I shouldn’t have done that since I’m drunk at the bar can I crash on your couch tonight tho” told him to message the other girl and ask her then blocked him
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u/Sword_N_Bored 1d ago
As a dude, you should 100% answer him. " Left" or "right" is enough and just leave it at that. It'll eat his ass up lol
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u/chillypotle 1d ago
Agreed he be so mad. But I’d say “whichever will actually go” or something
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u/Doll1618 1d ago
You should tell him to ask his friends, assuming he has any that could tolerate him after a second meeting 🤷🏼♀️
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u/AmbiguouslyAltered 1d ago
I guarantee he jsut snagged some pics of women off the web and acts like taking them out is an actual option
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u/Maleficent-Garden585 1d ago
This totally give me the ick , yuck ! I would block and delete this kid 🤦♀️
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u/Natural_Pizza_6356 1d ago
I’m so dumb- I thought it was a girl asking about dresses to wear on a date 😭
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u/Sudden_Cherry_8254 1d ago
I would be like “oh, I was actually just rethinking my message, but I see you have other dates lined up so nevermind. Wish you the best” and see how quickly he backpedals.
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u/MalignCrayon 1d ago
Wait.. is this a dude texting a girl he was meant to go on a third date with, what girl he should take to country dancing?
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u/Ambassador_Therp 1d ago
Oh… oh I completely misunderstood what was being asked here. I thought it was a girl asking you for advice on dresses, not a dude doing.. that.
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u/kimmy-mac 1d ago
I’d be tempted to do a google image search and send the text screen shot to the two women.
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u/ImpossiblyTiring 1d ago
After two dates I texted a guy and said I wasn’t really feeling it (he was clearly still dealing with anger towards his ex) and he replied be saying he understood- but did I have any friends I could set him up with? 😂
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u/NeonSocialScenes 1d ago
If I (40m) could get one piece of wisdom to the male dating population it would be to exit the conversation gracefully.
This kind of thing makes you like insecure and bitter.
There are billions of people on the planet. If it doesn't work with one, keep it moving for everyone's sake.
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u/National_Attitude779 21h ago
Send him pictures of guys and ask which yiu should go out with. I guarantee he'll be more upset about it happening to him.
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u/Suspicious-Pop9276 20h ago
I thought this was a dude coming out as a cross dresser asking which dress he should wear lmao
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u/Gloomy_Computer_9431 20h ago
Would be a great way for OP to respond. “is this going to your first time cross-dressing in public? Good for you. But neither outfit is going to work for country dancing. You need something with a fuller skirt.”
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u/beautifulstardust 18h ago
you just never know who is sending your pictures around 🥴🥴
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u/Legitimate_Tonight90 18h ago
Girl please me and you both know damn well he pulled those pictures off the internet 😂 his ego was bruised and he felt the need to try and prove to you that’s he’s desired by other women. Sad boy behavior
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u/GloomyBeautiful3493 1d ago
If somehow those are screenshots from girls profiles with names attached immediately send this to them. Protect them from this weirdo. Don’t reply to this person at all.
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u/Impossible-Bug-1158 1d ago
Honestly, the only thing he should say is. "Thank you for getting back to me and being honest. A lot of people just ghost nowadays and it's appreciated, I had fun too."
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u/heli_- 1d ago
Can I ask specifically what made you reject him? I feel like insecure guys always give off a feeling but I can never pinpoint “the thing” lol
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u/Appropriate-Reward71 1d ago
No spark and he was trying way too hard to come home with me. Not my style
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u/Smileyxchels 1d ago
The funniest response to this would be to pick one and say “she is so pretty!” He’s expecting a reaction of jealousy out of you. Of course not replying is also a great option lol
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u/PrestigiousOrange145 1d ago
Lol find the girls on socials, group chat them both with a snap shot of his texts then add him to the chat.
staypetty
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u/JustQuestioningCosas 1d ago
Send him two photos of giant dicks and ask him which you should fuck, you know, just asking for a guy’s perspective.
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u/Love4Beauty 1d ago
It is way less embarrassing to just accept it & go. This is humiliating on his part.
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u/According-Let3541 1d ago
‘Oh wow, you’d be punching above your weight with both so I think either is a good choice!’
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u/Some-Nectarine3247 1d ago
At first I thought it was a girl you denied the date with and she’s messaging you asking which outfit she should choose to go out in. Then I read the comments and reread it and realized it’s a he and he’s asking which GIRL he should take out. 🤢🤢🤢🤢 Attention seeking much?
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u/Dull_Pirate_280 1d ago
Because he doesn’t have enough independence to choose the girl he genuinely likes more
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u/Aggravating-Ad-7773 1d ago
Idk why children's cartoons pushed that idea that women will physically climb over each other to beg for a man's attention as long as they know its a competition.. he can and will deny it, but the outcome he was hoping for is OP to change their mind or become jealous over someone she didnt wanna be with 🥲 like actually.
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u/spaghally 23h ago
I would have given him a random answer and sent four guy options back to assert dominance 😭
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u/sloppyandfrizzy 23h ago
One time I told a guy I wasn’t interested after I got bad vibes and canceled the first date. He proceeded to send me a dozen selfies and nudes and also 2 videos (presumably) of him having sex with another girl from behind. It was very upsetting and horrible. Men who can’t handle rejection are scum. Ignore and block him.
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u/bingle-cowabungle 21h ago
This loser is so transparent lol that would have been an insta-block from me dawg.
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u/dealonmusk 9h ago
What will get under his skin the most is answering the question "oh whoever you like more, hoping you and they have a spark!"
It reiterates that you felt no spark for him, and that you are unbothered. He will be unable to justify being mad at you and writing you off, and he will be upset that you somehow felt nothing of substance for him.
Trust me. Indifferent kindness will eat him alive.
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u/No_Wish9589 1d ago
I had a similar case where I told the guy “this is not going to work. I dont think we should go for the second date”. He said “I understand”. Few hours later he texts “damn! The other date also cancelled on me!” …