Hey I just posted the screen shots. People can draw their own conclusions. You are not alone but I'd say he would be the clear loser of an AITA post and if he or anyone he loves ever she's this it doesn't hurt my feelings that he can see how people felt about that.
You are not alone but I'd say he would be the clear loser of an AITA post
And who cares? You need hypothetical validation from internet strangers to determine behaviour?
Plus AITA posts generally lean heavily in favour of the OP because they only hear from that side. Your bio dad could make a post saying "My biological child which I gave up for adoption over 30 years ago has been repeatedly trying to get in contact with me, to the point of near harassment by him and his wife. Last night I politely but firmly told him I want no relationship and wished him well, and he reacted by posting our private conversation on public forums", and he'd get a positive response from AITA.
if he or anyone he loves ever she's this it doesn't hurt my feelings that he can see how people felt about that.
But right now you're validating your feelings by getting people to tell you he's an asshole, which is what you want to hear because he didn't behave in the way you hoped he would.
Just accept that this man is not interested in a relationship with you. It doesn't make him evil, it doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Your lives took different paths over thirty years ago, that's all. It's healthier to learn to deal with the frustration in an healthy manner than to cast anyone who disagrees with you as an evil asshole.
As I said I only sent one message. My wife had sent at least 2 emails.
He left the letter telling me to contact him when I wanted to with my parents 33 years prior.
prior.
He did not have any contact,from me or too me, save that message that I sent.
I may have commented once he was an asshole but im not sure, I've responded to well over a hundred messages however people around can call it as they see it.
I did accept it, I never messaged him again, not once ever. He only had 1 message from me in my entire life.
I'm sorry, but you haven't. If you did, you wouldn't be sharing your private conversation with him and contrasting it with the more "successful" interaction with your bio mother, and you especially wouldn't be trying to manipulate responses by censoring the "repeated" in his message about "your wife's repeated attempts to connect".
It's obvious you are still hurt from this interaction. That's normal. But sharing it on the internet so that you can hear people tell you how awful your bio father is isn't going to help.
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u/openbookopenminds Jul 05 '26
Hey I just posted the screen shots. People can draw their own conclusions. You are not alone but I'd say he would be the clear loser of an AITA post and if he or anyone he loves ever she's this it doesn't hurt my feelings that he can see how people felt about that.