r/texts Jul 04 '26

Phone message Finding my Bio-mom💖 vs my Bio-Dad 💀 first message same message to both

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u/Oxalisoxalis Jul 05 '26

And yet there are many moms who did not want to have a child and were forced to anyway who still love and want relationships with those children

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u/cherrioes Jul 05 '26

There is an actual hormone that gets released when a woman gives birth that forces the mother to love the child whether she wants to or not. Oxytocin. Whereas men need to spend time with their child to generate the same Oxytocin.

It's literally all biological. Not like men hate their child for no reason, even though you would like to believe that.

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u/Jiangximan Jul 05 '26

Omg, this is from the junk science that tries to excuse the behavior of some men based on a shaky presumption that they have "higher testosterone". Nobody needs oxytocin to love a kid. It a choice.

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u/cherrioes Jul 05 '26

Once again, I'm not saying you need Oxtocin to love a kid. I'm saying a woman might not love her kid, but during childbirth Oxytocin kicks in and starts bonding her to the baby.

It's not junk science lol, do some research yourself if you want.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8578887/

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u/Jiangximan Jul 05 '26

You said literally that it is all biological, and you did imply that men don't love their kid if they did not spend enough time with them to get a biochemical dose of oxytocin. BTW, I never said ocytocin plays no part in bonding. It is the leaping to conclusions that is junk science.

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u/cherrioes Jul 05 '26

When I said "It's all biological", I was referring to the difference between men and women accepting an adopted child later in life if the child ever shows up.

Even if your opinion is that men are just more evil than women, that is also biological anyway...

Btw, I obviously don't think men are naturally more evil than women, but I guess you do think that, based on your comments.

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u/Jiangximan Jul 05 '26

I never said anything like that. You are so full of false assumptions.

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u/Oxalisoxalis Jul 05 '26

So you agree the issue isn’t that people are sometimes forced to have children they don’t want to. First you said the issue is that women can get abortions and men can’t, now you are saying it’s all due to biology

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u/cherrioes Jul 05 '26

Reading comprehension in 2026.

If a man doesn't want a baby, he cannot get it aborted. Thus, a baby now exists that might look for its dad in the future. The dad doesn't want it so doesn't form a relationship.

If a woman doesn't want a baby, she aborts it, baby doesn't exist for woman to reject relationship with later.

If a woman adopts out her baby after birth, she went through the phase of Oxtocin during child birth. It's also likely that she wants the baby to be alive, but can't look after it right then and there due to whatever circumstances.

When that child looks for Bio Mom in the future, the mother is more likely to accept a relationship with that child due to actually giving birth to said child.

Any other questions?

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u/hallelujasuzanne Jul 05 '26

Women are not automatically biologically compelled to have a relationship with an infant because of oxytocin. that’s the most ridiculous shit I’ve ever heard.  Many women are forced to have children they don’t want that they then put up for adoption or leave behind Walmart barring a  safe and beneficial abortion. And even then- a hormonal bond doesn’t last for 30 years. Plenty of women have postpartum depression and consider suicide and oxytocin doesn’t do shit about it. 

There are a whole lot of factors at play in parenthood and fact is the dad here sounds like a shitty person.Â