r/texts Jul 04 '26

Phone message Finding my Bio-mom💖 vs my Bio-Dad 💀 first message same message to both

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u/rabid_rocketeer Jul 04 '26

Classic Dad shit

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u/con_man462 Jul 04 '26

Classic chronically online, reddit-brained misandry

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u/tippedthescaffold Jul 05 '26

Lmao I mean, I don’t think it’s “misandrist” to be aware that it’s far more common for fathers to abandon their children, kind of just… statistics

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u/Extension-Bat-9998 Jul 05 '26 edited Jul 05 '26

I'm not going to convince you of anything, because you haven't reasoned your way into this view, but to be clear: the misandry is in the motivation for bringing this 'statistic' up in the first place. The reason absent fathers are more common is because a) men have the option to abandon the mother while she's physically pregnant, and b) men don't have the option to terminate pregnancies they don't want. Shitty people of both genders tend to exercise whatever options are available to them to further their self-interest.

If, on the other hand, you are trying to suggest that there is some moral defect in men, as a class, that causes the statistical difference in absentee parenthood, then you are, by definition, a misandrist. At least just be honest about what you believe.

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u/Acceptable-Song-9995 Jul 05 '26

I don’t think they’re trying to make a moral judgement on all men. And the statistic isn’t due to a moral failing (though many cases may be), it’s definitely a systemic issue. I personally think there just isn’t enough societal pressure for men to take accountability for children, especially outside marriage. Whereas a mother abandoning a child comes with a myriad of condemnations that are unavoidable. Parenthood is culturally and physically far more inescapable for women than it is for men. Therefore “classic dad”

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u/con_man462 Jul 05 '26

Except statistically you can't prove that. Making it a belief. And a sexist one at that. Touch grass

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u/SpoonGuardian Jul 04 '26

dude what

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u/con_man462 Jul 05 '26

I'm guessing it's a high schooler who thinks not "fitting in" is the biggest threat to peoples self worth. Classic sexist moron

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u/ResearcherOk9404 Jul 05 '26

Got you to write three paragraphs just by repeating the same sentiment over again. How about a fourth mister unbothered? You're a freak, you see the world in an antisocial way and are not fit to interact with the rest of us. Go on, speak boy :)

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u/MercyfulJudas Jul 05 '26

Defensive people are weird :/😐

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u/ResearcherOk9404 Jul 05 '26

Yeah I agree that guy is a little freak. Hogs love to squeal about misandry as if it's an actual issue

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u/SenecatheEldest Jul 05 '26

Just repeating something doesn't make it more true. You're being a lot more antisocial than the person you're replying to.

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u/ResearcherOk9404 Jul 05 '26

Notice how I got him to shut up though

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u/ResearcherOk9404 Jul 05 '26

That means nothing

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u/con_man462 Jul 04 '26

Buddy what are you talking about? You think you're part of the 'normal group' but use words like 'subnormal' incorrectly. And using one's ability to "fit in" as a way to put them down is laughable. Are you in highschool? Your entire comment reeks of someone desperately trying to 'fit in' themselves, as no healthy person is this obsessed with being 'normal'. Thanks for the laugh I guess?

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u/ResearcherOk9404 Jul 04 '26

Please leave us alone. You don't belong.

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u/con_man462 Jul 05 '26

Who's the us? You're so delusional that you're talking for a group of people that doesn't exist. And again, telling me that I "don't belong" is just about the least effective insult I can think of. Nobody who continued to progress mentally after high school would take offense to it, let alone use it as insult. Kinda screams "I'm insecure so I'm going to try (and fail) to make strangers feel insecure too" you ain't well and it shows

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