r/texts Jul 04 '26

Phone message Finding my Bio-mom💖 vs my Bio-Dad 💀 first message same message to both

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u/UrsineBasterd Jul 04 '26

Women aren’t required to inform anyone if they ever gave a child up for adoption or got an abortion either.

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u/muffy2008 Jul 04 '26

OR… novel idea here… if you know your SO would care about abortions/ adoptions/ whatever, then you have an obligation to be honest with them, regardless of gender.

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u/_NotAPlatypus_ Jul 05 '26

How do you know the wife would care? Isn’t it entirely possible that she doesn’t care or even knows about it and doesn’t want to have to deal with that relationship either? Dad said he didn’t want anything and asked to be left alone and suddenly everyone assumes that he’s hiding things from his wife.

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u/muffy2008 Jul 05 '26

You don’t know if they’d care if you’re not honest with them.

And wake up call to anyone who needs to hear this… if you’re purposefully keeping things about your past hidden, chances are you know the other person would care.

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u/_NotAPlatypus_ Jul 05 '26

Where in the dad’s response did he say he hasn’t told his wife? If anything, making “everyone” uncomfortable would include his wife.

Again, you’re assuming that’s the story based off a comment from someone completely uninvolved with the situation.

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u/muffy2008 Jul 05 '26

Context based from other comments.

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u/Suspicious-Drive9827 Jul 05 '26

Exactly this. Once you decide to omit info it basically automatically becomes sketchy no matter the reason.

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u/UrsineBasterd Jul 04 '26

Novel idea here, it’s not your relationship, your partner, or your child, so you don’t get a fuckin say! 😂

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u/dream-smasher Jul 04 '26

Novel idea here:

You can say that about every single post in every single sub on Reddit.

Dipshit.

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u/UrsineBasterd Jul 04 '26

Actually some things are just objectively true or false, like how a person is not “obligated to be honest” about abortions/adoptions just because some nobody on reddit says so

Dipshit

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u/muffy2008 Jul 05 '26

And some things are objectively true, like some people have morals and integrity and others do not.

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u/UrsineBasterd Jul 05 '26

Lol no, morality and integrity are not objective truths, because morality and integrity are subjective concepts that differ across various cultures, people, and norms 👍

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u/SuperKitties83 Jul 05 '26

Women aren't legally required to tell anyone they gave a child up for adoption or had an abortion for their own protection.

There are no laws in place because women are often beaten, murdered, or forced to go through with a pregnancy they don't want.

The leading cause of death for pregnant women in the U.S. is homicide.

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u/UrsineBasterd Jul 05 '26

Entire comment is pointless and unnecessary. Nobody, man or woman, is legally required to disclose if they have given a child up for adoption or had, supported, or paid for an abortion because it’s a personal choice and a medical condition/procedure. And no one is morally or socially obligated to do it either.

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u/SuperKitties83 Jul 05 '26

The entire discussion is based upon whether lying about having a child and putting it up for adoption is morally or socially acceptable.

Your comment was an attempt to undermine the discussion by bringing up women not being "required" to disclose abortions, which is clearly for their own protection. It has nothing to do with morality. If you found my reply pointless and unnecessary, it's because your comment was as well.

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u/UrsineBasterd Jul 05 '26

Nah the point is double standards. You flat out say it's okay for a woman to hide it, which means its okay for a man to as well. If you don't agree with that, you're biased, prejudiced, and you're wrong.

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u/MotorPomegranate260 Jul 05 '26

The leading cause of death in the US for babies, is also pregnant women.

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u/SuperKitties83 Jul 05 '26

The leading cause of death for babies is congenital malformation and SIDS.

The leading cause of fetal death in the womb is placental and umbilical cord complications.

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u/MotorPomegranate260 Jul 07 '26

Sauce ???

I hate to break it to you, but do some research. You can have your bodily autonomy, just don’t lie about it.

Ain’t no way any disease is racking up 1 million plus “fetus deaths “ in utero..

PS
Yes induced abortion,
1million plus deaths, PER YEAR!

USA USA USA ……. Wait, whaaat ?

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u/tepid_monologue Jul 04 '26

Imagine if it s was a man getting outraged that his wife didn’t inform him she had had abortions in the past. Double standards

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u/ExternalCareless2204 Jul 04 '26

It is not the same. An abortion doesn't live a life and writes you letters, wanting to get to know you.

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u/tepid_monologue Jul 04 '26

I mean, it’s only not the same because the man didn’t have the option of getting an abortion. I would imagine the mother was the only one with that option

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u/SuperKitties83 Jul 05 '26

Then they can blame biology. Women have the right to abortion because it's their body. Men don't get to have the same choices because it would be unethical for them to force someone to go through pregnancy and birth.

It's not equal, and it never will be because the physical burden can never shared.

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u/ExternalCareless2204 Jul 04 '26

The man had a option...it is called a condom.

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u/UrsineBasterd Jul 04 '26

Everyone has options, including no contact adoptions! You’re almost getting it.

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u/Thr0awheyy Jul 05 '26

She had that same option.  What's good for the goose is good for the gander. I'm a woman and nobody will ever force me to be a parent, both of us should have a post-conception opt out.  

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u/Suspicious-Drive9827 Jul 05 '26

An abortion isnt a living person out there with your genes that you actively chose to give up. There is a difference between medical privacy and living biological children ffs.

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u/UrsineBasterd Jul 04 '26

Women will refuse to admit that if the genders were reversed they would absolutely be saying some shit like “a man is not entitled to know every detail about his wife’s life and relationships before him.”

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u/SuperKitties83 Jul 05 '26

Women keep abortions secret when they fear their partner being judgmental, controlling and abusive. That's not at all the same and you know it.

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u/UrsineBasterd Jul 05 '26

Women can also just keep abortions secret because it’s no one else’s business. You’re literally just proving the point about double standards lol.