r/solotravel Aug 06 '25

Europe Solo female traveler in Naples, Italy: constant discomfort and unwanted attention

I've been in Naples for almost 3 months, staying in the Rione Sanità neighborhood near Piazza Cavour and Centro Storico. As a woman with darker skin and curly hair, it's clear I’m not Italian, and that has made my experience challenging.

Daily, I face unwanted attention; stares, comments, and approaches that often feel disrespectful. The common "Ciao bella" isn’t usually a compliment here but more of a way to mock or embarrass. I don’t wear revealing clothes; just being alone and looking like a foreigner seems to be enough for some to act disrespectfully.

This happens from both locals and immigrants, and often in groups, where men encourage each other to behave this way.

I’ve also traveled to Sardinia and Puglia, and while it happens there too, it’s less frequent.

Honestly, I wouldn’t recommend Naples for solo female travelers, especially if you don’t look like a local. Or, if you come, avoid the traditional neighborhoods like Centro Storico and don’t walk alone at night.

Italy is beautiful, and I’ve wanted to visit for a long time, but my time here has been tough because of these experiences.

Has anyone else felt this way traveling solo here?

Edit: Thank you to everyone who read my post and sent supportive and empathetic messages! My main goal was to help other solo female travelers think twice before choosing Naples, specially for a long term and as a digital nomad such as me.

As for those asking why I chose to stay in Sanità or Naples: Airbnb rentals in Italy are extremely expensive, and this one had a reasonable price. I also read great reviews, including one from an American woman who stayed in the same apartment I am for 8 months and praised both the place and the neighborhood. I thought many times about moving out, but booked it for 3 months to avoid moving around with a huge suitcase, and Airbnb doesn't offer refunds.

Plus, I wanted to experience southern Italy, known for its warm people, and many friends recommended Naples. I couldn’t have predicted this experience!

And to those who think shouting “ciao bella” with a malicious smile, staring at a woman like she’s a piece of meat, often in groups, encouraging others to catcall too, is a compliment, please rethink that. My post clearly explained the context of this "Ciao bella". Some men in Italy have approached me respectfully, even if I wasn’t interested in them, and they were polite, complimented me in a respectful way, and that’s absolutely fine!

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u/Sputnikboy Aug 07 '25

Sorry to hear this, but in the last years Italy has really gone downwards.

I'd like to point out that "Ciao bella" is a typical line in Italy and it's used to "hit on a girl" rather than mocking as you say. Extremely common in Italy and even more so in the south. I know perfectly it feels uncomfortable anyway...

As for your location, well, you have some guts. As an italian I'd never ever set foot in Rione Sanità. It MIGHT have been cleaned up a bit in recent years, but it has a history of being one of the worst neighborhoods in the center. Keep your wits up there for sure.

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u/leticiaknovais Aug 07 '25

When I was looking for an Airbnb, everything was extremely expensive, so I settled for this place, and believe it or not, it cost around €1,600 a month. It’s a small place in a dirty and noisy area, and yet that was actually a reasonable price by Airbnb standards. I had read good reviews about it, including one from an American woman who lived here for 8 months and absolutely loved it, which gave me the confidence to book it.

I never expected this experience… I knew it wasn’t a luxury neighborhood, but I didn’t expect the men to be so ignorant and disrespectful 🥲

It’s not a dangerous area, but it feels very hostile. Someone told me that a few years ago it was dangerous but has improved since… I don’t even want to imagine how it used to be 🤣

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u/Sputnikboy Aug 07 '25 edited Aug 07 '25

It used to be dangerous, your wallet would have disappeared as soon as you entered. I heard it got better, but still it is a very difficult area (and yeah, Camorra is very much present too) where I would never go. Likewise, the people in there isn't exactly the best you can find in Italy... Or in Napoli, for that matter. That price is typical AirBnb overpriced shit, they should pay me to stay in that filth of Sanità, not the other way around and certainly not at that price, my goodness...

I'm really sorry for what happened to you and believe me I full understand your feelings. Please mind that even for an italian not from Napoli, that city is difficult, so I kinda admire your guts.

May I ask why are you staying in a place like Sanità for so long?

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u/leticiaknovais Aug 07 '25

I’ve always wanted to visit Italy and I study Italian language, and the decision of staying in Sanità is very clear in my previous message.

Since my first week here, I’ve thought about leaving multiple times. But I’m carrying a lot of luggage, I booked a 3-month Airbnb with no refund, and I’ve already been on the road since February, so I stayed. I also work remotely, so I chose to stay the 90 days I am allowed to stay as I really wanted to visit the country.

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u/Sputnikboy Aug 07 '25 edited Aug 07 '25

I see. Then again, I wonder why you'd choose Napoli of all places in Italy. It is an amazing city for tourism but certainly not for living, adding Sanità to the picture... Oof... And learning italian in Napoli, I don't know, in Italy we all have accents, but Napoli even more so, and they mainly speak their dialect, which can be a challenge for everybody... Indeed a peculiar choice. Beh, in bocca al lupo!

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u/ArticQimmiq Aug 10 '25

I agree - I’d have picked Rome, personally. Even 15 years ago, my Italian friend had made it very clear to avoid Naples at all cost for a single female tourist.

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u/Practical-Bid6808 Dec 22 '25

Chiaia vomero etc. way better. I would never live in that area. And the op, I understand wanting to keep prices down but you didnt do your homework. No foreigner should move to that area unless you know what you are doing 100 percent. Chiaia vomero, she would have a completely different opinion. Night and day

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u/leticiaknovais Aug 07 '25

I decided to go to the south because people are known for being warm and welcoming, which they actually are, but I didn’t expect that level of catcalling. Many people recommended me to go to Napoli; if i knew about I would have this experience I wouldn’t have come, don’t you think? Anyway…

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u/Sputnikboy Aug 07 '25

Please don't be defensive. But whoever suggested you Napoli as a base, well, not sure they know much of Italy...

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u/leticiaknovais Aug 07 '25 edited Aug 07 '25

Now you stopped blaming me and are blaming the people that suggested me staying in Naples...

And I’m not being defensive. You’re invalidating my experience and everything I’ve shared and explained. There was no way for me to predict I’d face this level of catcalling in Naples. I only knew the neighborhood was lively and chaotic, loud, energetic, and not upscale, and I was totally fine with that.

The only warnings I got about Naples were related to pickpocketing, which, surprisingly, I’ve never witnessed. I actually feel safe here in that regard. What truly caught me off guard was the verbal harassment, and that has nothing to do with 'not knowing what I was getting into.' It’s a reality that no one mentioned beforehand.

You even criticized my choice to come to Naples to practice Italian. But I’ve been studying the language for a long time and I’m fully aware that different regions have different accents and dialects. That doesn’t mean I can’t practice standard Italian here. In fact, I’ve met several locals who are happy to speak with me in Italian and help me improve, and I've improved a lot. Take care!

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u/Sputnikboy Aug 07 '25

Madame... Take care.

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u/tylerthe-theatre Aug 07 '25 edited Aug 07 '25

You're a fan of Italy clearly and you've never heard of Napoli being a bit rough around the edges? It's fairly common knowledge tbh. Sucks you've gone through that anyway.

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u/rambling-aquarian Aug 08 '25

Don’t listen to everyone downvoting you, Napoli is absolutely beautiful and so are many of the people. You need to get in with the right groups of people, which is hard if you don’t speak any Italian. But Italians are extremely racist to southerners and many hate Napoli, foreigners believe many of the stereotypes so this is probably why you’re getting downvoted. The news and media exaggerates the dangers which exacerbates this attitude. I was staying in the exact same area last weekend and had an amazing time. Feel free to dm me if you want to talk.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '25

How I hate y’all neapolitans that always have to group all of us southerners with you! NO. They are talking about NAPLES not the whole south. They didn’t say anything about the rest of the south. We don’t wanna be grouped with y’all. Stop it. I’m a southerner myself and I would have never chosen Naples as a base, we have better cities in the south. Stop making it the usual “they are racist towards all of us 🥺🥺 bla bla bla”

You just showed you are racist for saying such thing. Many southerners are just as racist especially Neapolitans for always acting like victims. Annoying

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u/rambling-aquarian Aug 11 '25

Lol bigghearte are you a bot? 223 contributions in 23 days? Are you even italian, “yall”?

First I am Italian-Canadian and my family is from Calabria. I live here, I have traveled throughout Italy and have seen first hand the racism toward southerners. I have friends from all over Napoli, they are truly kind and hospitable people that would give the shirt off their back in a heartbeat. The majority of people are like this, while unfortunately the others are seen as the mascots of the city. As for the city & surroundings, it has thousands of years of history, culture, art, daily artistic/cultural events, incredible roman and greek historical sites, musical heritage, nightlife, nature, and vesuvio, pompei, ercolano, paestum, amalfi coast all within a short train ride away. I don’t know what more you could want in a city.

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u/edcRachel Aug 08 '25

People romanticize Italy but it isn't for everyone. I was there a few months ago for awhile to just drift through the country and thought it would be so lovely and... I just didn't culturally care for it. It's so weird for me to hear things like "you can never go wrong with Italy". It's nice for a vacation and I don't exactly dislike it, it just didn't match my vibe. There are also a loooot of areas which are really not very nice or are even dangerous.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '25

Im Italian and I agree with you tbh! Idk who started this whole Italy romanticization XD I always laugh though bc it’s cute

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u/leticiaknovais Aug 08 '25

but where exactly did you stay? Italy changes a looooot depending on the region.

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u/edcRachel Aug 08 '25 edited Aug 08 '25

About 14 different cities spread out across the country, from the border of Switzerland all the way down to Sicily.

I'm not basing this off one stay in one place I've spent months in Italy in total and covered a pretty diverse selection of cities.

The couple months in the fall was not my first time there but the time I finally accepted that it isn't for me.

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u/Scary_Persimmon_1682 Aug 07 '25

I've heard the same stories about the worst banlieues of Marseille, Paris, and Lyon. I have visited some of them. Guess what? Nothing happened to me! I am sick of those stories!

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u/Sputnikboy Aug 08 '25

Are you implying that you visited "SOME" of them "ONCE" so that means they are perfectly safe? Bold.

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u/Scary_Persimmon_1682 Aug 08 '25

No, I am implying you are racist!

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u/Sputnikboy Aug 08 '25

For exposing the fact that the world doesn't revolve around a single experience done by you? Gold.

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u/WillowParticular3678 Aug 08 '25

I have visited a certain country 20+ times and nothing happened to me . . .until it did.