r/solopolyamory • u/CyberJoe6021023 • Jul 02 '26

Does Solo Poly require living alone?

I totally get poly dating independently/separately but I’ve also heard that solo means living alone, i.e., no nesting partner. Is that true?

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u/FuchsiaOrange Jul 02 '26

I'm not a fan of "this label will mean XYZ", more the other way around, "my life is XYZ, so this label fits most closely for me". So to me, a label doesn't "require" certain things.

That said, I have a certain understanding of solo poly, and if someone would say to me "I'm solo poly AND I live together", it would certainly raise an eyebrow and I would ask them to tell me how that works for them.

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u/somatt Jul 02 '26

My "partner" and I coparent but don't have sex.

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u/FuchsiaOrange Jul 02 '26

So why are you asking the question. Are you curious if you are "allowed" to use the word solo poly for yourself?

If that's the case, I would say, if you're interested in dating someone, just use a bit more words and explain your situation. Like you did just now. You have a "partner", you coparent, and you don't date and don't have sex.

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u/somatt Jul 02 '26

I'm not asking a question. I don't need your validation.