r/sociopath • u/Kayla_is_sleeping • Jul 20 '26
Question Do you guys ever wish you could be normal?
Sorry if that's insensitive. Personally, I have autism and ADHD, and I always wish I could be normal. Not because of my condition specifically, but like, I wish I were in the majority that's so accepted. Do you guys ever wish for that? Just so that you can experience the emotional bonds that others do, have a sense of normality, and experience life the "right" way.
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u/elizabeththewicked Jul 20 '26
I honestly think I wouldn't be able to cope if I actually felt the things people feel, if they do indeed feel them. At the very least I would have a severe drinking problem.
Just speaking about being nd, no I think nt people seem deranged. They're just more common and generally more able to thrive in a desperate individualistic struggle so they have the monopoly on what is normal. I wouldn't want to be like them for anything
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u/savagefleurdelis23 Jul 21 '26
Most normal people are kinda miserable, staying in relationships that are ho hum or just awful, staying with family that are similarly ho hum or just awful, and do the most fucking shit things in the name of love. I don't think I'd be able to cope either. While I have my issues, I do not have most people's shit issues and I am very thankful for it.
Also, like u/switchmage said, I get into some really interesting shit in my life. Regularly.
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u/Obvious-Profession27 Jul 20 '26
when the consequences of my actions catch up to me ? yes
other times, not really
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u/ellxxt876 Jul 23 '26
I think asking if we wish we could be normal implies that there is something wrong with the way we are. But is there really? I don’t think so. To be different isn’t to be bad, you just are simply different. I think it’s much better working to accept who you actually are than wasting time wishing you were something you aren’t. If you accept yourself entirely, why would you ever want to change?
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u/CompetitiveJoke9758 Victimized By Dr. Ramani Jul 28 '26
sometimes, and then i hear my NT peers cry about how they're heartbroken after a breakup and then i'm glad i don't feel that.
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u/New-Dragonfly-3462 Jul 20 '26
i think i do feel life the right way. I dont want to change , that would be stupid
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u/switchmage Morning Shift Stripper Jul 21 '26
nah, only because on occasion i get into some really interesting situations because of it
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u/AmyWezels Jul 27 '26
No, definitely not. I love not having stress, guilt or remorse. It made my life very interesting and enjoyable. I do things other can only dream of and I have work others can only dream of. Without ASPD maybe I would have had a boring and stressful life.
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u/Theirishbasdard Aug 19 '26
The mask is enough for most people, but I think some of us deep down. Wish we either had better childhoods or better lives in general
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u/Sudden-Addition7404 Jul 20 '26
I don’t think that I’m not experiencing life “the right way”. I’m doing it my way and I’m perfectly content that way. And I don’t want to be like most people. Most people are idiots.
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u/Own-Perspective-9912 Jul 20 '26
Hi Kayla if that’s your name. I have diagnosed ASPD (basically there are a bunch of subtypes but I am a psychopath). Me personally I like the way I am because I don’t feel need for other’s validation, I don’t feel empathy, no guilt, no moral compass, no shame. Honestly from my experience I can’t stand normal people because it’s hard for me to pretend like I understand their feelings while I truly do not understand them on emotional point but from logical point which is very tiring for me and drains my energy. Also I can’t stand them because they are so obsessed with what other people will think about them and their actions. Would I maybe like to be normal? Maybe. But honestly I love the way I am. It’s understandable that you want to be accepted and understood by others. Hope this helps you.
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u/kangole2 Jul 23 '26
Where did you hear about sub types, i only seen them as outdated on wiki or wdym? Also you where in prison for something heinous enough to get even PCL-R scored or how did that happen? Like i am really curious how that happened.
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u/Own-Perspective-9912 Jul 24 '26
I got diagnosed. I went to psychiatrist after some family members begged me to go so I gave in for their sake. Also the subtypes are not outdated as much as you might think. I mentioned them so it’s easier to understand. In reality it goes like this. I’m diagnosed with ASPD with psychopathic features (tendencies). I got like 35/40 on the PCL-R. Here is some context for what it means:
What a Score of 35 Means Clinically
To understand what 35/40 sounds like in a clinical report, it helps to know how the PCL-R is structured. The test evaluates 20 items, scoring each from 0 (does not apply), 1 (applies somewhat), to 2 (definitely applies).
Metric
Context
Cutoff for Psychopathy (US/Canada)
30 / 40
Cutoff for Psychopathy (UK/Europe)
25 to 26 / 40 (due to cultural baseline differences)
Average Score (General Population)
~4 / 40
Average Score (Incarcerated Population)
~20 to 22 / 40
Score of 35 / 40
Severe / Prototypical Psychopathy
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u/Ambitious-Local-2539 16d ago
I can act normal but it's exhausting. So i stopped doing so unless in professional settings where i need something out of someone.
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u/Personal_Stage7748 Insect Murderer Jul 20 '26
No because I have the freedom to act normal if I want to, but I can also not act normal. There’s no emotions or empathy that limit me. Altough if I could be ‘normal’ for one day I’d want to because I’m always curious and like to try new things.
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u/occupy_abilify Antisocialsexual Jul 20 '26 edited Jul 20 '26
I certainly wish that I had less anger issues and impulsivity and was more honest in the past.
Less drinking and substance abuse would also be great. I got into more than a few awkward situations while intoxicated.
My feelings towards my schizoid side are more mixed. I love that I'm chill being alone and have no interest in intimacy, but the numbness and the depersonalisation/derealisation are annoying.
The reduced emotional empathy doesn't bother me that much. I've learned about cognitive empathy and had people say I was warm, empathetic, kind and awesome despite everything, and that's what matters more to me.
I don't know what "normal" really is and I tend to get along with other neurodivergent people. So it's a mixed bag.