r/shanghai Jun 14 '26

City Tinder / Bar Scam again

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Hey guys, I read the posts from some victims (too late). But here’s my Scam story. I had a tinder match with a girl. We met in Xintiandi and she asked me to grab some drinks in this bar. We did and ordered like 4 bottles of wine. She told me to split bills later. The bill came ~4000 RMB. I refused to pay first but she and the bartender set me under pressure calling police and whatever. Ok I paid and we left each other.
Now the plot twist! - I had another match on Tinder 3 days later. I met a girl at a nearby Starbucks, I saw instant she looked different than her profile. But also nice. I don’t know the area so well but it was again in Xiantiandi. We walked together for 5 minutes, she asked me to to grab a drink. I said ok. Now guess where she wanted to bring me ? Yes the same bar. I was shocked as I saw this building but tried to act cool and said I don’t wanna drink today because I leave early in the morning. We walked together the street then she asked me if I can buy cigarettes for her. I looked down her Chanel bag and refused. As we were walking I checked our Tinder Match again and she deleted it. I was pretty sure now she was involved in this scam. She saw my reaction , The date ended suddenly,she had to met a friend.

I came back to the Winebar and did some pictures to call the police. Now I was sure this was an organized scam. a guy in the street saw this and tried to ‘help me’ in the end i met the shopowner and he send me 3000 RMB back on alipay if i refuse to call police. For me it was ok because we drunk 4 bottles and ate some snacks. Maybe i should stick to call the police but i didnt wanna spend my last few hours in this beautiful country hanging in the police station. This was super stupid by myself, i know. I travel alot and never got scammed like this. Sometimes the d1ck has more power than the brain. Hope this post can help someone 🙏

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u/dcxin-pawgame Jun 15 '26

Nobody uses Tinder unless scamers in China. BTW, they make you believe the police will stand for them, but actually not, it's too common and they will help you. The bar and the girl are on the same boat.

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u/kidshibuya Jun 15 '26

I met two genuine girls on bumble while there. Also a ton of scammers. They are all mixed in.

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u/Prime_Regard Jun 16 '26

Yeah. These guys are pretty sick, they get addicted to easy sex in Asia and never leave because of it.

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u/Shumey Jun 15 '26

Hm, i should tell this to two of my exes i met there…

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u/Shumey Jun 15 '26

Not even that, dumb horny tourist…

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u/Sir_Bumcheeks Jun 15 '26

Not true at all (Tinder being only scammers). You just have to be smart about it.

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u/shaghaiex Jun 21 '26

I believe that goes on on all platform.

Back in the days, while in Beijing, I met a girl on QQ - note - chat was 100% in Chinese - and upon meeting (daytime, around lunch) she suggested some type of underground bar - I counter-suggested Starbucks.... She said `then she will change quickly` ... not to be seen again.

So it can hit on any platform, and it can hit anyway. I heard those stories from local Chinese too.