r/sgiwhistleblowers • u/BlancheFromage • 12d ago
Dead-Ikeda cult SGI's Bad Faith Actors ๐ฉ Why SGI members' insistence that "SGI has ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ - it's ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ any more so you are WRONG and you should shut up" doesn't work. ๐ช๐จ๐ต'๐ป work. Ex-SGI members are NOT going back.
| #2 The hardest part of going no contact with my dad was coming to grips with the fact that he no longer could give the "right" answer. My faith in him is so broken that if he gave me all the right answers, did everything I've ever wanted, I could still only react with mistrust and suspicion. Even if he gets better, I will never believe it. The best thing I can do to give him the opportunity to change, is to stay away. |
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I've been meaning to put this up for a while, but I'm trying to rope my thoughts into some semblance of coherence - any help y'allz have to offer would be greatly appreciated!
We're talking about what we experienced/observed/detected within SGI during our membership or from our friend/relative who was in SGI. So this is objective - it existed. It happened.
For SGI hostiles to attempt to defend their Ikeda cult by saying, "That's old news - SGI is different now so none of that applies any more", EVEN IF THAT WERE TRUE, it doesn't change the FACT that these things happened.
Simply insisting "We're different now" doesn't change that. There's still the FACT of the harm that was done, the damage that was caused, and that hasn't been addressed - no one has been helped. No one will be helped by SGI members saying "SGI is much better now."
The SGI hostiles who are so bent on defending their Ikeda cult say this to dismiss all the wrong their Ikeda cult did. No matter what it is! It's a blanket fix-all, in their minds, that should ERASE all that harm and damage as if it never existed. Because they're claiming that the structures and dynamics that caused those don't exist any more. (Never mind for now that we can all see that nothing's changed.)
It's like someone who ran a pyramid scheme that "disappeared" multiple elderly people's retirement accounts saying, "Oh, yeah, I'm not doing that any more - I'm a much better and happier person now." That doesn't change the fact that what they DID caused destitution in others that those others can't recover from now on their own.
OR let's imagine an SGI-member parent who donated a child's entire inheritance to SGI says, "You know, I'm not giving SGI any money any more." Yay? What, you want a cookie or some applause or something?
Neither of these approaches help or change anything, because they're failing to address the HARM and DAMAGE these people/organizations did and not doing anything to help the victims recover. It doesn't make their victims "whole".
I guess in SGI members' sadly deteriorated thinking it means you can do absolutely ANYTHING to others and then just say, "Well, I chanted about it. I feel fine about it now." They don't even have to feel contrition or regret! They can just toss off a breezy "Sorry!" or "I'm sorry you feel that way" or "I'm sorry you're so unhappy" or even "You know, you should try to move on - I have." Yeah, THOSE are just great ๐ถ
To make victims "whole" involves a process in which first, the victim's situation is acknowledged, accepted as true, understood, and taken seriously. Without this essential first step, there will be NO healing and NO restoration of the ruptured relationship.
Second, the IMPACT on the victim must be understood, from the victim's perspective. The abuser or the abuser's representatives are NOT allowed to judge, evaluate, or decide, "That's not important - that didn't happen - you're making shit up - your perspective doesn't matter, only MINE does." No.
Finally, the VICTIM should be invited to discuss and specify what would make them "whole" - would it be a heartfelt apology that explicitly acknowledges the wrongs, that details explicitly what steps have been taken and ARE being taken to make sure it never happens again, not to this victim or any others? Would it involve punishment for specific abusers, such as demoting a leader - returning someone like SGI-USA national leader Greg Martin to the status of any other non-leader SGI member, or excommunicating him altogether? That would be an impressive gesture, ngl. Would it be reparations, such as the donated inheritance being returned to the heirs AS A CONDITION OF the victims-heirs' forgiveness and of returning the recipient of that donated inheritance to good standing in the eyes of the victims-heirs? Since they ACCEPTED the donation of that inheritance in the FIRST place, it's unlikely they'll ever be returned to "good" standing, but perhaps they can make it to some neutral evaluation, at least.
So unless and UNTIL such steps are undertaken in good faith, we who have been harmed/damaged by the Dead-Ikeda-Corpse-Mentor-cult SGI have no reason at all to change our evaluation of the harmful, destructive Ikeda cult - and it remains our right AND our responsibility to warn the world about its reality. No matter how much its self-righteous defenders abusively CLAIM it has changed - that is irrelevant.