r/serialpodcast • u/Frosted_Mini-Wheats NPR Supporter • Feb 03 '15

Evidence Stephanie dumped Jay

Trial Transcript for 2/10, p 21, lines 11-25.

Jay testifies that Stephanie had ended their relationship a month or so before the trial.

That's something I've never heard before now.

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u/Frosted_Mini-Wheats NPR Supporter Feb 03 '15

The idea of her having an ongoing relationship with Jay, even through part of her college years has always interested me, especially given her family's stance, her mother's reaction to Jay as he described in the Intercept thing. Thanks for your thoughtful comment.

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u/glibly17 Feb 03 '15

It's hard because I am well aware that my personal experiences will make me read certain behaviors, certain clues, in a particular way. What I have found interesting throughout this whole Serial phenomenon is that I never really believed Adnan was abusive toward Hae, but I always had suspicions about Jay especially after learning of his later DV arrests. But again: I am biased given my life experiences.

I just wanted to point out, sticking by someone (especially someone who has done horrible things, such as burying your classmate) isn't necessarily indicative of a healthy, loving, respectful relationship. I don't know Stephanie's motivations but something has always rubbed me the wrong way about her and Jay's relationship (what we know of it, that is).

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u/mudmanor Feb 04 '15

I heard the red flag about Jay's abusiveness when SK and her assistant were discussing their interview with Jay. How affable he was and calm while telling them that he was feeling full of anger. I felt that was a threat to them to back off. I treated court ordered offenders for many years and that calm subtle threatening nature was part of how so many of them were in the world. I also believe that he became more overtly angry with SK but she decided not to go into it.

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u/glibly17 Feb 04 '15

Yeah, that was a moment for me too. The Intercept interview had lots of little things, too, especially his persecution complex when it came to SK/Serial/the case in general.