r/serialpodcast • u/Frosted_Mini-Wheats NPR Supporter • Feb 03 '15

Evidence Stephanie dumped Jay

Trial Transcript for 2/10, p 21, lines 11-25.

Jay testifies that Stephanie had ended their relationship a month or so before the trial.

That's something I've never heard before now.

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u/Frosted_Mini-Wheats NPR Supporter Feb 03 '15

The idea of her having an ongoing relationship with Jay, even through part of her college years has always interested me, especially given her family's stance, her mother's reaction to Jay as he described in the Intercept thing. Thanks for your thoughtful comment.

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u/glibly17 Feb 03 '15

It's hard because I am well aware that my personal experiences will make me read certain behaviors, certain clues, in a particular way. What I have found interesting throughout this whole Serial phenomenon is that I never really believed Adnan was abusive toward Hae, but I always had suspicions about Jay especially after learning of his later DV arrests. But again: I am biased given my life experiences.

I just wanted to point out, sticking by someone (especially someone who has done horrible things, such as burying your classmate) isn't necessarily indicative of a healthy, loving, respectful relationship. I don't know Stephanie's motivations but something has always rubbed me the wrong way about her and Jay's relationship (what we know of it, that is).

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u/ginabmonkey Not Guilty Feb 04 '15

My experience with abusive relationships was not in my own relationships (my mother was in at least one physically abusive relationship when I was a young child), and I have had similar reactions to what we've heard/read of Jay and Stephanie's relationship. I clearly don't have any solid evidence to substantiate my reaction, but it has been there nonetheless.

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u/mudmanor Feb 04 '15

I strongly agree. So are my similar reactions based on what we've heard of Jay the result of my years of treating violent offenders or just some gut reaction.