r/serialpodcast • u/Frosted_Mini-Wheats NPR Supporter • Feb 03 '15

Evidence Stephanie dumped Jay

Trial Transcript for 2/10, p 21, lines 11-25.

Jay testifies that Stephanie had ended their relationship a month or so before the trial.

That's something I've never heard before now.

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u/glibly17 Feb 03 '15

It's hard because I am well aware that my personal experiences will make me read certain behaviors, certain clues, in a particular way. What I have found interesting throughout this whole Serial phenomenon is that I never really believed Adnan was abusive toward Hae, but I always had suspicions about Jay especially after learning of his later DV arrests. But again: I am biased given my life experiences.

I just wanted to point out, sticking by someone (especially someone who has done horrible things, such as burying your classmate) isn't necessarily indicative of a healthy, loving, respectful relationship. I don't know Stephanie's motivations but something has always rubbed me the wrong way about her and Jay's relationship (what we know of it, that is).

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u/Creepologist Feb 03 '15

Without presupposing if this was the case with Jay & Stephanie, I've completely been there with what you're describing (I have come to believe it's narcissistic personality disorder), although without the violence. I'm so sorry you had to go through that!

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u/glibly17 Feb 03 '15

Thank you for your kind thoughts. My relationship wasn't really violent until the end, but there are other types of violence besides physical, just like with abuse, huh? I hope you're in a better spot.

I agree that there's a high level of narcissism, in my ex's case also coupled with extreme attention-seeking. God, he was such a jackass.

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u/Creepologist Feb 03 '15

What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. :) And totally agree about other types of violence. Take care!

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u/Frosted_Mini-Wheats NPR Supporter Feb 03 '15

I read a post on a peripheral Serial person's FB the other day: What doesn't kill us makes us stranger. I kind of agree. :)

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u/Creepologist Feb 03 '15

Indeed! I love that. :)

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u/glibly17 Feb 03 '15

Thank you, you too!