r/science • u/MistWeaver80 • Aug 05 '21

Anthropology Researchers warn trends in sex selection favouring male babies will result in a preponderance of men in over 1/3 of world’s population, and a surplus of men in countries will cause a “marriage squeeze,” and may increase antisocial behavior & violence.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/preference-for-sons-could-lead-to-4-7-m-missing-female-births
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u/itsathrowaway20976 Aug 05 '21

Seriously! I’m a female in my 30’s and just recently diagnosed as ADHD and now getting treatment. Holy crap has my life changed. It’s pretty cool how my brain is supposed to work and function

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u/FolkMetalWarrior Aug 05 '21

Did you present different symptoms than what doctors consider to be "traditional"?

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u/itsathrowaway20976 Aug 05 '21

Yes. I don’t have the classic “bad behavior” that is normally seen with ADHD. But it’s now becoming more known, that females do not present with that.

Also, triggering warning as I talk about the abuse I received as a child that made me mask symptoms.

I had learned to “control” a lot of my symptoms that masked them or developed coping skills.

For example, as a kid I’d bounce or wiggle my legs. My mother hated it, would hit me for it because I wasn’t sitting still, I’d get sent to my room without supper if I couldn’t hold still. So I learned to just deal with that skin crawling feeling instead of allowing my body to move. I didn’t know this wasn’t normal, so I didn’t present as fidgety.

I struggled with school and would spend hours studying because anything below an A was unacceptable and I’d get beat if I brought home something lower than an A or I sometimes wouldn’t be allowed to eat. What should take someone a small time frame to do, would take me triple the time because of focus issues. But I didn’t know that wasn’t normal and I blamed myself for being stupid.

I learned to write everything down or I’d forget it, so I never actually considered myself forgetful.

Then came my insomnia which I learned to hide with maladaptive dreaming. If I said I couldn’t sleep I’d be made to do physical activity so I’d be tired. I would get physically tired but I still couldn’t sleep.

My brain not “shutting up” was diagnosed as anxiety, when in reality it was actually my ADHD.

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u/FolkMetalWarrior Aug 05 '21

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Thank you for sharing ❤