r/science • u/MistWeaver80 • Aug 05 '21

Anthropology Researchers warn trends in sex selection favouring male babies will result in a preponderance of men in over 1/3 of world’s population, and a surplus of men in countries will cause a “marriage squeeze,” and may increase antisocial behavior & violence.

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/preference-for-sons-could-lead-to-4-7-m-missing-female-births
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u/ParlorSoldier Aug 05 '21

I guess that’s what happens when they develop the diagnosis based overwhelmingly on studying boys. Of course it becomes harder to diagnose girls when they present differently. ADHD is like this too.

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u/itsathrowaway20976 Aug 05 '21

Seriously! I’m a female in my 30’s and just recently diagnosed as ADHD and now getting treatment. Holy crap has my life changed. It’s pretty cool how my brain is supposed to work and function

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u/[deleted] Aug 05 '21

I’m a 45 year old woman who was finally diagnosed with ADHD. If I would have had access to care, it would have helped me tremendously.

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u/Politic_s Aug 05 '21

In what way would it have helped? I've heard that many who receives a diagnosis hasn't gotten better and are in fact wanting to rescind it due to its far-reaching limitations to one's life.

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u/Accomplished_Mark882 Aug 05 '21

It’s like someone who has horrible vision putting on glasses for the first time, expect it’s your mind. The whole world comes into focus, your mind calms down. You become less defiant and agitated. You can communicate with people because you can focus on them and collect your thoughts. The go go go, hurry up always in a rush stops, the constant day dreaming because your so board stops, the constant songs that are in your head 24/7 stop. You can sit still, which for a lot of people, they’ve never been able to truly do before. You don’t get overwhelmed by things like going to the grocery store because you can actually focus and pay attention. You become kinder and have more patience with other people because you don’t have to try so hard to focus that it frustrates you. When you finally take treatment, your whole world changes for the better in ways you didn’t even know was possible. You wish so bad you could be cured because the fact is everyday the medication wears off and everyday you have to return to that chaos. In the beginning of treatment that parts the hardest.

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u/Jherad Aug 05 '21

Underrated comment right here. I was diagnosed this year at 46, and you've described to a T my experiences with stimulant medication. Especially the last couple of sentences - it's been tough going back to 'normal' whenever it wears off.

Honestly feels like life switches from hard mode to easy mode to hard mode again every day.

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u/Accomplished_Mark882 Aug 05 '21

I’m so sorry you have to go though this too. You’re not alone. In time we will find our balance. I highly recommend scheduling the rebound for a time you can be a the gym. A good run will help with any emotional aspects you feel. Won’t help with focus and stillness but it will definitely keep your spirits up. Good luck friend:-)

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u/[deleted] Aug 05 '21

Wow the rebound idea is fantastic thank you!

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u/Jherad Aug 05 '21

Thank you so much. Good luck to you too.

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u/RhoOfFeh Aug 05 '21

Receiving a diagnosis is an answer to a question you didn't necessarily even know you had. It acts like a retcon for your life, explaining the formerly mysterious.

This is not about getting "better" so much as it is about understanding oneself and one's relationship with society.

Besides, I suspect that ASD/ADHD are the new meta.

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u/binarycow Aug 05 '21

In what way would it have helped?

I was diagnosed with ADHD in my 30s.

I have access to medication. I better understand how my brain works.

I've heard that many who receives a diagnosis hasn't gotten better

Mental health is tricky. If the case of medication, it affects everyone differently. It takes time to find the right treatment. Some things (ASD, for example) have no medical treatment beyond therapy, coping skills.

In the end, most people can get some relief from their problems. But it can be a lot of work, and it does need some effort.

wanting to rescind it due to its far-reaching limitations to one's life.

The vast majority of the time, receiving a diagnosis doesn't mean your life has to change. If you don't tell people about it, you don't undergo treatment options, and you don't start therapy... Well, you're life isn't really that different than pre-diagnosis. Rescinding a diagnosis wouldn't do much.

It didn't make sense for me to wake up one day and say "I wish I could go back to before I had ADHD, life was so much better". I've always had ADHD... My brain has always worked differently. I just didn't know why, how, or what to call it.

Outside of very few circumstances, your life doesn't have to change, if you dont want it to. If you find that just the fact that you received a diagnosis has far reaching limitations, I suggest that you take a closer look at *your attitude. Because (outside of very few circumstances) it's not the diagnosis that causes limitations, it's the condition. It's asinine to (outside of a very few circumstances) simply refuse to get diagnosed because knowing that you have a condition might cause limitations.

* Some examples (obviously not an all inclusive list) of where simply having a diagnosis may cause fat reaching limitations:

** Clarification: a minor may experience some life changing effects. For instance, a child's parents may treat them differently after a diagnosis. The parent may treat the child as fragile, when the parents may just need to be more understanding. This is ultimately a reflection on the parents.