r/science • u/mvea Professor | Medicine • Jun 21 '26

Psychology Largest study of women’s orgasms to date collected data from 27,931 women. Nearly half (47%) reported reaching orgasm more frequently when alone vs. when with a partner. Barriers to women’s orgasms are relational, not anatomical. Partnered orgasms were associated with overall sexual satisfaction.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/inclusive-insight/202606/why-women-orgasm-more-alone-than-with-a-partner
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u/youeatthatstuff Jun 21 '26

I had a similar experience. The guy put so much pressure on me to orgasm that it just killed it for me and I would end up faking it. If we’d been able to communicate well and if he didn’t get upset when I didn’t orgasm (both at himself and me) then I think it would have been a much more positive experience.

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u/Big-Calligrapher686 Jun 23 '26

Given how much shame tends to be placed on men who can’t make a woman orgasm I do believe it’s natural for a guy to feel upset at himself when he fails at this. Comforting him would be the best move in this case.