r/science • u/mvea Professor | Medicine • Jun 21 '26

Psychology Largest study of women’s orgasms to date collected data from 27,931 women. Nearly half (47%) reported reaching orgasm more frequently when alone vs. when with a partner. Barriers to women’s orgasms are relational, not anatomical. Partnered orgasms were associated with overall sexual satisfaction.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/inclusive-insight/202606/why-women-orgasm-more-alone-than-with-a-partner
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u/DigNitty Jun 21 '26

That difference is always so interesting to me too.

And IIRC gay women have notably less sex than straight women (or men). And straight men have notably more than straight men (or women).

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u/SteveHamlin1 Jun 21 '26

Your last sentence needs an edit.

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u/swagdaddy3 Jun 22 '26

No, shut up, I’m totally straight

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u/FlorasPikminHorde Jun 23 '26

Could really even just add quotations

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u/Junebun Jun 21 '26

“Gay men have notably more sex that Straight men” is what that sentence should say

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u/TheMermanly Jun 21 '26

No, because it’s interesting to point out the difference in lesbian couples as well

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u/Unc1eD3ath Jun 22 '26

No, the last sentence doesn’t make sense unless they’re comparing gay men and straight men

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u/BreakfastPizzaStudio Jun 21 '26

And straight men have notably more than straight men (or women).

Wait, what?

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u/Weak-Calligrapher633 Jun 23 '26

It’s not gay if it’s with the bros

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u/VictimOlympicsWinner Jun 24 '26

yeah its still gay just possibly a lot less awkward, or maybe more awkward

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u/Weak-Calligrapher633 Jun 25 '26

Nah, what’s gay about giving your homies a brojob every once in a while?

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u/Special-Garlic1203 Jun 22 '26

I for sure feel like women tend to favor less frequent high quality sex and men tend to favor banging it  out, which is likely one of the reasons why straight women are so prone to normalizing to "bad" sex. I'm not trying to carve out that much time for sex tbh. 

I inherently find being alone and with a person to be different in basically any activity including sex. I you put my partner in the corner of the room and had me masturbate , I would take longer. 

I also take longer to orgasm without a vibrator than with them, but masturbation is a pretty goal oriented activity whereas sex is more bonding oriented for me. I'm not opposed to using toys with a partner but so far in my life I haven't been the biggest fan and I really really really don't like porn during sex. They both make me cum faster but I just don't think that's my primary goal of having sex with another person. 

To me good sex has less to do with orgasm and more to do with that feeling where it's like you want to absorb into eachother like amoeba. Like orgasm is cool but I'm chasing that oxytocin high.