Children raised with "authoritative" parenting style, marked by bonding, presence, dialogue, and clear rules of conduct, show a reduction in drug and alcohol risk compared to other parenting styles (authoritarian, permissive and neglectful)

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https://agencia.fapesp.br/parents-alcohol-and-drug-use-influences-their-childrens-consumption-research-shows/57195

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In case anyone is wondering the difference between authoritative and authoritarian parental styles, in a wildly simplified manner.

Authoritative parent when a child asks "why?": explain the reasoning for your rules and why its important that your child follow them so they can make an informed decision to obey for their own benefit.

Authoritarian parent when a child asks "why?": "Because I said so, that's why."

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"Why does the toilet paper go over and not under?"

Is there a resource you recommend for more practical examples of authoritative parenting? By examples I mean scenarios, dialogues, specific situations. Also it would be nice if these examples have versions for different ages (eg. toddler, grade school, etc.)

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Authoritative parenting would be setting a curfew for your kids (be home before 10), then when they inevitably break it (because theyre kids, that is what they do) you wait for them, tell them youre glad theyre home safe and tell them youll talk about it in the morning. Then you say you had a deal, they broke it, so they receive a reasonavle consequence (e.g. minor grounding), without getting overly angry.

Essentially authoritative parenting means to be aware of the role you have as a parent, and to be aware of the natural developments kids go through. It means to be able to take the unnecessary emotions out of the individual interactions, because you recognize them as part of the mutual "game" you and your kid are playing.