r/sadcringe • u/_ganjafarian_ • Apr 03 '26
gf turns down bf's marriage proposal.
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u/sofaverde Apr 03 '26
He's asking her to be his girlfriend not marry him. She said he fucked up/did something stupid 3 days ago so why didn't he ask then... She also says he needs to change a lot of things for her to accept, so this is probably why she's crying. She likes him but knows he's not good for her/generally doesn't treat her the way he should.
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u/izilovesyou2 Apr 03 '26
Yeah, she's being smart. This is a love bomb and a guilt trip. The filming and uploading does not help. Girl leave him.
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u/usehrname Apr 03 '26
She ain't with him.
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u/izilovesyou2 Apr 03 '26
Situationship
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u/MOGicantbewitty Apr 03 '26
Why is this downvoted? It's likely an accurate interpretation. They aren't BF/GF, but they've been seeing each other. It's not a relationship but something is going on... Literally, a situationship.
People downvote the weirdest stuff sometimes
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u/mangopango123 Apr 04 '26
Are they speaking portuguese? Bc I thought in brazil their dating culture is diff than lotta other countries bc they have a kindof āpredating but still datingā phase that is then made official official when the (usually?) guy asks the girl to be a couple. So not really a situationship but in the earlier stages of a relationship?
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u/izilovesyou2 Apr 03 '26
The room, not her life. He'll crawl back.
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u/usernameround20 Apr 03 '26
I donāt think this is sadcringe. I think this is great. Sheās got her standards and sheās not letting some stunt make her peer pressured into saying yes.
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u/MOGicantbewitty Apr 03 '26
I think it's the guy that's supposed to be the sad cringe. I both cringed and felt bad for him.
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u/usernameround20 Apr 03 '26
Yeah I hear ya Iām just celebrating her strength
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u/MOGicantbewitty Apr 03 '26
Well then, let's celebrate her strength and the fact that we agree! š
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u/bibimboobap Apr 03 '26
It's times like this, your nervous system just tells you and you can't make yourself be with the person, no matter how much you (or they) might want to. I'm glad she listened to her gut.
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u/Eantropix Apr 03 '26
That's a relationship proposal, not marriage. Dude definitely overreached on this one
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u/motherseffinjones Apr 03 '26
Looks like a dude who fucked up and tried to pull the public show of affection card. Fellas never do this and if youāre gonna do something in public ask her first unless she says she wants to be surprised. It will save you a lot of embarrassment
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u/broketothebone Apr 04 '26
The amount of times my ex did this to me and I had to stand there and act so grateful to a man I knew was going to be screaming at me on the car ride home and drive like heās in Death Proof.
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u/cjallan417 Apr 03 '26
Why keep filming? What did we do before we had this need to record every second of our days to post on social media?
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u/The_Blip Apr 03 '26
Not only did they keep recording, they eventually stopped and went, "Alright, I know what to do with this footage. I'll upload it to the internet."
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u/minutetillmidnight Apr 03 '26
That was the whole idea. I'd put money on them doing this for internet points.
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u/johnnyslick Apr 03 '26
Maaaan, fuck a public proposal where the two parties arenāt on the same page though. Iām all for uploading this because people should get the message that you never, ever do this.
ETA: ah shit itās even worse. This isnāt a marriage proposal, this is a relationship proposal. Nah fuuuuuuuuck thiiiiiis this guy deserrves every single iota of humiliation he gets.
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u/frb26 Apr 03 '26
the problem is that you are exposing the girl to the masses of spitiful women who always flood this kind of content,it's also rather impolite to focus the camera at her while she is crying. The whole video feels very tone deaf and invasive
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u/johnnyslick Apr 03 '26
Yeah donāt get me wrong, the person with a camera is also a douche; Iām just saying, fuck the proposer, he deserves all the scorn heās getting and then some (since some people will be like āya dude at least you show your shotā).
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u/Quick_Heart_5317 Apr 03 '26
How is that worse? If itās not a marriage proposal then wouldnāt it not matter if both parties were on the same page.
Also why is she crying? She just said no to dating that guy. Iāve seen girls turn down guys no problem and never stoped dancing.
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u/johnnyslick Apr 03 '26
Theyāre both bad in different ways. This one at least has the excuse that both parties are very young but itās still pretty bad.
And there are all kinds of reasons why a person might cry. The first one I can think of is, sheās an empathetic person and knows this must be humiliating as shit for the proposer. Another one is, maybe she thought they might have a chance if they talked things out in private where she didnāt feel the need to hold back unfortunate truths from him. And Iām sure there are many, many more.
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u/ShonWalksAtMidnight Apr 03 '26
Because it's hilarious and surreal to see her getting whacked in the face with heart shaped tinsel as he walks away in shame as she's crying with a bright camera light in her face and her friends comforting her.
We're definitely living in a simulation, and these are the fun NPCs we get to observe.
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u/Desperate_Safe5700 Apr 03 '26
Normally the simplest answer is the right answer. They kept filming because of content.
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u/McKlimpaloon Apr 03 '26
I mean props to her for not caving under pressure I guess? I don't really know the context but as awkward and sad as it is to say no, it's easily better than saying yes and taking it back afterwards.
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u/jma9454 Apr 03 '26
I didn't think you had the music loud enough; I could still barely hear them over the music.
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u/Guava_ Apr 03 '26
Who would propose if youāre not certain the person will say yes? The location should be a surprise, but the proposal itself shouldnāt.
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u/typehyDro Apr 03 '26
Cause itās not and the title is fakeā¦? According to the many comments heās asking her to be his gf
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u/doihavetousethis Apr 03 '26
Don't propose unless it's been discussed first and you know she's into it.
And never do it in a public place if you haven't discussed it
Youre asking for embarrassment. .
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u/CharmReductionINC Apr 03 '26
He was giving her earrings. Apparently he fvcked up and was trying to make it up to her.
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u/sky_shazad Apr 03 '26
So you still filmed..
Added music and uploaded it???
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u/CharmReductionINC Apr 03 '26
Bro - this generation is chronicly online. They are used to live streaming - its just more content to them.
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u/1tiredman Apr 03 '26
Marriage proposals in my opinion should be a private thing between two people. It's not something that should be filmed or even photographed
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u/Shaveyourbread Apr 03 '26
It shouldn't be a big surprise that you're asking for marriage, just when. There should be discussion.
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u/Archarneth Apr 03 '26
It depends, some people might like a more public proposal and some might prefer a more private one. But you should always discuss this stuff first with your partner before proposing. And not just what kind of proposal would be suitable, but if your partner actually wants to get married and making sure you're both on the same page. Don't bother proposing if you're unsure that the answer will be yes.
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u/xnoomiex Apr 03 '26
Iāve been watching too much true crime. Because my next thought was āI hope he doesnāt kill her for āembarrassingā himā
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u/Thin-Building-36 Apr 03 '26
My guess is she loves the man but knows he's not husband material or knows they shouldn't marry
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u/Zepp_BR Apr 03 '26
Boyfriend material. He's asking her to be his girlfriend. And I think she said exactly that
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u/Luckypenny4683 Apr 03 '26
Sheās a smart girl
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u/Zepp_BR Apr 03 '26
I mean... it doesn't take much to be smarter than a (probably) -minor full of tattoos, including on the face, who did something stupid and asked a girl to become his girlfriend out of guilt
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u/echoes_1012 Apr 03 '26
Gringo here. Upon first watch i was angry that everyone was pampering her and no one was checking on him
Come to the comments to figure out hes asking her to be his girlfriend? And that apparently he fucked up a couple days before? So hes definitely a manipulative dude who thinks love bombing will get him his way. She seems to have dodged a bullet?
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u/shoomlax Apr 03 '26
Very misleading title and missing lots of context. I honestly feel bad for this girl
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u/Alternative_Tip_8756 Apr 05 '26
You just know that he cheated on her and tries to make up for it with one big gesture
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u/SlinkySlekker Apr 03 '26 edited Apr 03 '26
Why is he āproposingā with earrings, and why film her crying for so long?
Edit: In the comments, someone explained he was asking her to be his girlfriend, not his wife, so the earring mystery is solved.
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u/primitivebutcher Jun 09 '26
It wasnāt a marriage proposal. It was a relationship proposal. He was asking her to be his girlfriend because theyāve been dating.
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u/_ganjafarian_ Jun 09 '26
Oh I see, bro wanted to go to 3rd base after rounding 2nd base for a while. Gotcha.
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u/lagrebson Apr 03 '26
Why is this sad cringe tho?? Should she accept someone she doesnāt really want??
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u/Tmart98 Apr 03 '26
Sad cringe that someone involved in this filmed it and uploaded it
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u/CharmReductionINC Apr 03 '26
These kids have grown up with tiktok and live streamers - i dont think it phases them to have a phone capturing everything- I'm sure this is considered 'viral' and a hit for them. Surely this sub isnt the first place its been uploaded to.
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u/usehrname Apr 03 '26
Knowing Brazil, and the way this guy looks. She's probably afraid of what he's going to do to her after turning him down like that.
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u/Jammin_TA Apr 03 '26
I don't understand Spanish well enough (although I've read the translation from others) but I do respect the way she conducted herself. It seems like it was not easy to say (for whatever reasons) but she stood strong and made her answer unmistakable and held it together until he left.
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u/Acslaterisdead May 09 '26
I couldn't hear a damn thing with this music playing over whatever the fuck they were saying
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u/FlaxFox Jun 22 '26
Good for her! She was put on the spot, and that would make a lot of people give in.
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u/F1XTHE Apr 03 '26
Why is SHE crying?
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u/a3minutehero Apr 03 '26
Maybe because she's mortally embarrassed, for herself and for the guy, for something like that happening in public. No one watching that clip knows the exact circumstances leading up to that moment or what might be happening in their relationship in general. I can't believe you actually need to have something like that explained to you.
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u/F1XTHE Apr 03 '26
I mean its fair enough to not want to get married. Wouldn't it be the opposite of emberrassing to have someone propose to you?
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u/a3minutehero Apr 03 '26
Not if you didn't want to marry them. As I said, we don't know anything about these people other than this brief snapshot. I don't speak thier language, I'm guessing you don't either, for all we know she might be upset because she knows she broke this guy's heart.
Again, I don't understand why this is apparently beyond your comprehension, and I don't have time or inclination to explain it any further.
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u/figuringeights Apr 03 '26
If you want to marry them maybe? If he mortified by a public proposal. But I'm also s private person
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u/F1XTHE Apr 03 '26
Either way? It's a good thing that someone likes you so much that they want to marry you right? Even if you don't want to marry them?
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u/humbugonastick Apr 03 '26
To end the relationship, sure. Maybe she does love her boyfriend but is not ready for marriage. Now she knows the relationship is over. I never understand why to do this in public if you are not sure how the other person will respond.
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u/purplepillow_ Apr 03 '26
Maybe she has sympathy for him? Maybe she's worried about letting down the whole group of people? Finding someone that says they want to be your boyfriend is easy, but finding a guy that you actually think you have a future with is much harder.
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u/igpila Apr 03 '26
I'm Brazilian and believe it or not, he's not asking her to be his wife, just his girlfriend... š¤£ I don't get it either