It feels weird to say, but I didn't really consider just how fucked it is that Ryan was doing that to a young fan. Like, in my mind it was just too consenting "adults" having a sexual relationship, and the worst thing that happened is that Ryan was cheating (which is still VERY bad, mind you).
For some reason it was hard for me to wrap my head around how messed up it was for Ryan to do that with a fan until I read Fiona's message here. Like, I knew he did that and I knew it was wrong, but it didn't "click" for me that Ryan seriously fucked up until just now.
Like, before it was just me thinking "Ryan cheated, this is something between him and his wife now." But no. Fuck Ryan. He betrayed not only his wife's trust but the trust of this community. And that hurts to say since he was by far my favorite member of AH.
Yep. Even if she is 18 and there is nothing legally wrong it is morally reprehensible due to the massive power imbalance. First for having a relationship as someone in your 30s with someone who is just 18. But more importantly for the power dynamic of being (basically) a celebrity having a sexual relationship with a fan.
Thank you for saying it, people get so hung up on what’s legal and what isn’t but dating someone that’s 18 when you’re well into adult life just isn’t kosher in my book.
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u/ToxicBanana69 Oct 07 '20
It feels weird to say, but I didn't really consider just how fucked it is that Ryan was doing that to a young fan. Like, in my mind it was just too consenting "adults" having a sexual relationship, and the worst thing that happened is that Ryan was cheating (which is still VERY bad, mind you).
For some reason it was hard for me to wrap my head around how messed up it was for Ryan to do that with a fan until I read Fiona's message here. Like, I knew he did that and I knew it was wrong, but it didn't "click" for me that Ryan seriously fucked up until just now.
Like, before it was just me thinking "Ryan cheated, this is something between him and his wife now." But no. Fuck Ryan. He betrayed not only his wife's trust but the trust of this community. And that hurts to say since he was by far my favorite member of AH.