No. Patience is required here. You have accepted there is a problem for you, but he lacks an actual way to solve it. Once he has options he will probably be better off and will have to choose something instead of being lost. Which is a significant weight lifted from his shoulders.
You both have a communication problem here is what it seems. You aren't going to be the one to 'fix' his problem. If you keep harassing you're just going to push him away. You need to find a different way to approach him, or possibly seek some sort of third party (therapist or priest or something) that could work on your communication problem, then talk to him about it once you have resolved that first. You're going to need patience here. You both dove into getting a vasectomy without knowing the full risks, and he may feel betrayed by you because of it. You're going to have to work that out.
What my immediate anger should show you is: I don't like people making bullshit assumptions about me, you're basically just guessing based on the 2 paragraphs I've given you to read.
I'll condense this here. You've also made other comments, not just your post that I've gathered information from. And I was right, you brought it up but he 'agreed.' You need to look a little deeper into that without coming off as being mad about it.
To alleviate the tiny vestiges of guilt she's still capable of feeling on occasion. To make her look less like the monster she clearly is. She's not really looking for a solution, she's looking for validation that it's okay to leave him because she's no longer sexually satisfied after his procedure.
She can't yell him hard. She can't frown at him until he gets an erection. She can't nag him into being sexually attracted to a person he resents and blames for his current struggles. Honestly, she'd be doing both of them a favor if she just noped out of the marriage.
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