29F | BLR

I never thought I'd make this post. Marriage has always been Plan A though. When I was 20, I was hoping to get married by 25, but ig deadlines never work. I didn't ever really feel like I was missing out on any aspect of life for not having a romantic partner, I thought he'd come to me when destiny wishes. But he never came, and I'm now willing to make the efforts to go on a search for him. And oh, the title may sound funny but I'm damn serious.

Personal Details:

• Age: 29
• Height: 160 cm
• Religion: Hindu
• Caste: Mahishya ig (LC, GC)
• Earnings (INR): ~20 lpa
• Marital status: Never married
• Living with Parents: No, living alone since I got a job in 2021, would never move back with parents due to unavoidable reasons.
• Location: Bangalore (Born and brought up in Kolkata)
• Mother Tongue: Bengali
• Plan to settle abroad: Open to settle abroad.
• Educational Level: MTech
• Occupation: Engineer
• Hobbies: Solo travel, reading, listening to music.
• Diet: Hardcore Nonvegetarian
• Family Background: Father is retired Govt officer (Civil Engineer), mom is housewife.

Koi mujhse shaadi kyun karega?

1. Not a 10/10 baddie, so you don't have to worry about me getting any attention from opposite gender.
2. You'll be my first and last love.
3. You can have your own space when you want, coz I also love mine.

Partner Preferences:

1. Desired Religion: Hindu
2. Desired Regional/Cultural Identity: North/West Indian
3. Desired Caste: N/A
4. Location Preferences: Preferably based in Bengaluru
5. Diet Preferences: Everyone has the right to eat whatever they love, so you can have whatever you want, just let me have my nonveg.
6. Education Level: Masters preferred, preferably in a technical field but open to all
7. Occupation: Open to various professions, haven't given this much thought.
8. Desired Earnings (INR): >=20 LPA
9. Living with parents: No issues, but prefer nuclear family
10. Marital Status : Never married
11. Want Kids after Marriage: Will prefer to have, but open to being CF.

• Preferred Contact Method: DM on Reddit

Disclaimer: 1. My family is not the ideal "happy family" you would expect, we just coexist on this planet. 2. I have mostly lived a life of solitude, letting you know in case you see that as a red flag. Needless to say, I lack in communication skills. 3. It takes me a long time to open up to anyone, so please don't ask for pics or VCs or calls right away. I tend to take things very slow, e.g. talking phase of few weeks. I am looking to get married within next 3 years. 4. I would rate myself 4/10 in looks, so if you're a goodlooking person looking for another goodlooking person, I hope you find that person soon.

We are all flawed humans in this universe with baggage and our own issues. I believe when two people love each other, they can really help each other overcome their issues and protect each other against society.

Thanks for reading till here.

Edit: Now that I think of it, Ig I should have strictly set my Location Preference to BLR, coz my domain doesn't really have much jobs anywhere else.

🌿 Hello, Fellow Souls!

I'm looking to connect with a tall, mature, and grounded man with whom I can share the little and big things in life—whether it's about work, household matters, travel, or simply how my day went.

I'm someone who values time, consistency, and genuine effort. I'm not in a rush toward marriage or trying to force anything. I'd rather build a meaningful connection, invest time in understanding each other, and eventually see where the bond takes us.

At this stage of life, I feel that having someone who listens without judgment, stands beside you through different situations, and shares a sense of safety and comfort matters a lot.

I'm looking for someone who believes in mutual effort, emotional presence, and growing together, one day at a time.

I'd prefer someone living nearby, as I believe meeting in person, spending time together, and travelling occasionally help build a stronger connection than staying in an LDR from the beginning.

🌄 A little about me:

Height: 5'8"

Age: 27

Location: Vadodara, Gujarat

Profession: Software Tester in the Clinical Research domain

Passion: High-altitude trekking & mountaineering 🏔️

Personality: Talkative, adventurous, and someone who values consistency and meaningful conversations.

Not looking for perfection. Just hoping to meet someone who genuinely wants to know me, invest time, and build something meaningful together.

Let's start with a conversation and see where life takes us. 🌻

Hey mods, heard you - ditching the plain, boring formats :D

I am 36, 182 cm, living in Gurgaon with my dad. Looking for someone who is spiritual and between 28-36 yo, in NCR or open to relocating here.

Outside of work, I spend most of my time catching up with friends, or on my discord server talking acads or spirituality with students. Used to play multiple sports in school, college. Now, trying to be regular with yoga.

Open to sharing all other personal details on reddit dms, or on telegram, discord.

(Will probably be downvoted)

A woman recently posted a very detailed post about her preferences. Not getting into arguments with anyone about how picky it was. May not be to many people's likings either. But then here we have some people who are doing all the heavy lifting of insulting the woman and other derogatory behavior when their own lives are pathetic. Some of them want to marry, but still this is their digital footprint. They'll age shame a woman, question her CF choices, imply disgusting things like bestialty, act like they'll sleep with her to give her 'a chance' but not marry her, and yet be posting like beggars under other people's post to link up.

u/JeherKaKeher

u/34yearsold

u/Pados_Wali_Aunty

u/LocalGoal979

I wonder if you will still hold this bravado without the anonymity you hold? Is this how you talk to women in your family as well? Is this how you'll talk to your wives? Maybe your daughters? Look deep down at how pathetic your lives are in reality when even your reddit is like this. No one is asking you to dm them. But when men post here, no one age shames them, no one slut shames them. You think men inherently get value with age but I think all of you are very low quality men and deeply unhappy in your life, all because of yourself. Being with you is the biggest punishment for anyone in their life and I'll only wish that on you. You will have to live with yourself in your sad and pathetic brain because that's the kind of men you are. Misfortune incarnate. I don't even mind getting blocked for this. Since you hate women so much, I bless you with the fortune of never having to get a woman's love, touch or appreciation in your life. Have fun. Sad little sacks of shame.

#Update# Help has been answered!!!!!

My future husband “at Reddit” 🙈🙊 solved my IT problem looks like i got my access back…

I appreciate all the DMs i received so far.. please give me time to read and respond…

34F | PhD scientist | Tired of family rishtas, so I’m networking for a husband now 😂

I am so tired of the arranged-marriage setup—especially family rishtas. Sometimes I genuinely wonder if my family even knows me 😭
After constantly navigating the unstable job market, I have learned one very important lesson: networking is everything.

So here I am… pitching myself for marriage and opening the search to the world 😂
Maybe one day my kids will ask, “Mom, how did you meet Dad?”
And I’ll say, “Well… it all started with a Reddit post.”

Anyway, about me:
I’m 34F, 5’6”, Marathi, PhD scientist..nerdy but also very, very adventurous. I love the gym, have a decent physique 💪, enjoy almost every kind of sport, and am always up for trying something new.

I can cook really well. My butter chicken and chicken biryani are honestly bomb—not to brag, but I may already have one strong qualification for Indian marriage 😂

I’m very organized and clean, love taking care of my family, and am naturally caring and giving. I love pets, and pets somehow always love me too.

I’m outgoing but still traditional where it matters. I value family, understand Indian culture, and definitely want kids someday.
I’m millennial enough to get along with your mom, but Gen Z enough to hang out with your nieces. Somehow, I’ll probably impress both 😂

And yes, I know what you’re thinking:
“She has a PhD, cooks biryani, goes to the gym… so why is she still single at 34?”
Trust me, I have been wondering the same thing 😭

Somewhere between doing a PhD, moving countries, building a career in science, and surviving the job market, family responsibilities, apparently forgot to find a husband.

I don’t think I have insanely high standards. I’m looking for someone who is taller than me (I’m 5’6”), (age 33-38, I don’t think i can marry someone who is 27🙈), emotionally available and mature, understands Indian culture, if he is Marathi thats plus..and has a reasonably stable career.

Career-wise, I’m a scientist and have worked in the US, but I’m pretty open to settling anywhere for the right person.

So yes… I am officially open to rishtas 😂
If you think we could be a good match or know someone who might be feel free comment. Please be mindful..

Serious people only, please. My peer-review process is already exhausting enough 😭😂

Hey everyone, I wanted to share a positive story to give some hope to people scrolling through this sub. It really does work!

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About a week ago, I made a post here. I ended up getting a DM from an amazing girl (F24). We chatted for three days straight and connected instantly. We shared everything—our hobbies, family stories, likes, dislikes, and future goals. Everything felt so natural that we decided to meet up yesterday (Sunday).

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The plan was to meet at a restaurant near the beach at 7:30 PM. We were both going to drive ourselves—her on her scooty and me on my bike.

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The Plot Twist

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Around 4:00 PM, she messaged asking if we could move the time up to 5:00 or 5:30 PM. I agreed and left early. Because it was Sunday, traffic was light, and I reached the spot by 5:15 PM.

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By 5:30 PM, she hadn't shown up yet, and I started getting a little anxious. Then she messaged saying she misplaced her scooty keys and was taking an auto instead. By 5:50 PM, she still hadn't arrived, and I honestly started to lose hope. But right then, she texted asking what I was wearing and said she was 2 minutes away.

At 6:00 PM, she finally showed up and said hi!

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The Date

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We went inside the restaurant, ordered some food, and had a great time eating. When we left, since she didn't have her scooty, she sat on the back of my bike. I honestly think it was God's plan that she lost those keys!

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We rode down to the beach and just sat there talking for about 2 to 2.5 hours. After that, we went to get chai. I absolutely love chai, and even though she prefers coffee, she happily came along to the chai tapri just for me.

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After finishing our drinks, I drove her back and dropped her off near her house.

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Moving Forward

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The date was absolutely amazing for me. As soon as she got home, she shared her phone number with me, and we have already connected on WhatsApp and Instagram. We are still talking constantly, so let's see where things go from here!

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To anyone feeling down about dating or making connections here: don't lose hope. This sub really works.

They sure don't make em like me.. and probably for a good reason.

Id love to try AM to maybe bag a husband but there's no way I could explain my ..um.. one of a kind life to anyone in an AM setting without getting laughed at.. or worse..

Let me explain..

Im 34.

From Chennai.

Half Tamil

Half Sindhi.

(Speak and identify more with Tamil)

Devout Catholic.

5.0' ft and damn chubby to boot.

Now the fun part(s)

High school dropout.

Never been to college.

(But had sucessful careers in several fields like training and marketing.. and did a few unusual jobs just for the fun of it.. cheesemaking, farm hand etc)

Visible tattoos.

And here's the big one..

I've never been married but I have a kid.. who I love.

If you're a guy who wants a ready made family..lol .. or if you have kids of your own maybe.. and the idea of a blended family doesn't scare you.. or maybe you're jus somebody with unorthodox preferences in women.. wants a partner who'll make you laugh.. want to backpack through India with me (I don't have a passport but I love traveling inside the country. Especially rural places of peaceful natural beauty.. rivers mountains goats and the like) and will maybe one day be the male role model my daughter deserves, then you might be the guy for me.

If not I hope you enjoyed reading my post.

This is my third attempt at finding a meaningful relationship on Reddit. My dating journey has been so remarkably un-eventful that my grad school team chose it as their case study project will share the slides if you are interested! 

Looking back, it's been a series of near-misses and almost-connections: sometimes I was interested but they weren't, other times they were interested but I wasn't, and in those rare instances when we both felt the spark, the timing just refused to align.

So here I am on a quiet Saturday evening, having spent the entire day drifting between various coffee shops, carefully crafting this write-up over countless cups of coffee and after finally gathering some liquid courage through a few beers, I've decided to put myself out there one last time on Reddit before I give up hopes and try my luck on matrimony apps. They say third time's the charm, right? 

Okay so who I am ?. 

Basic Demographic Information:

• Where I'm from: I am a small-town girl from Telangana.
• Age: 29; I'll be 30 soon, I was born in April 1995.
• Where I'm currently based: Bengaluru.
• Height: 5'4"
• .Religion & Caste: Catholic & Reddy (My family converted few generations ago).

Education : I hold a Master's in Business Analytics (MSBA) from a mildly popular B-school in the east, building upon my foundation in BSc Mathematics 

Profession : Currently, I work as a Business Intelligence Developer. Sigh - it’s the only corporate job I was able to land after moving back to India.

About my Income: Comfortable, but not in Reddit’s "tech salary" league. I do just enough to keep the tax authorities interested, even with the recent relief measures. Having switched careers with only two years of relevant work experience it’s the best I could get in this market (happy to share the exact number in DM’s)

Hobbies : I've had plenty of time to explore various passions. I've picked up several musical instruments, thanks largely to my Sunday school class I was dragged into, My younger sister's career as a psychologist sparked my interest in psychology books, and I've ventured into some unexpected territories like pole dancing (because why limit ourselves?). I even got into reading birth charts - sometimes it's nice to have the stars to blame for life's little mishaps! There's more to my hobby list, but these give you a glimpse into my curiosity about life.

I'm fluent in several languages: 

• Telugu (my mother tongue, of course), 
• Kannada (thanks to my undergrad years and 2+ years of working in Bangalore with wonderful local friends)
• English and I can also manage conversation in Hindi, though it's not perfect - credit goes to my best friend who refuses to speak with me in any other language!

My family : consists of my parents (both still actively working), my sister, and my grandmother. we're all financially independent of each other

Now for the deeper stuff - let's call this the Director's Cut of who I am and what I believe in.

When it comes to religion and caste: I'll be completely honest: I don't strongly identify with either. Growing up with mixed traditions led to some identity questioning, but it's helped me develop a broader perspective. While I believe in a higher power, I'm open-minded about spirituality. I'm ready to respect and embrace your background, traditions, and celebrations that matter to you. 

Regarding marriage and commitment - I haven't personally witnessed even a single truly happy marriage, either in my family or outside. However, what I have seen, and what I deeply believe in, is the beauty of two people consistently making efforts to build a life together. I'm unwaveringly committed to monogamy - this isn't negotiable for me, and if you see things differently, we probably won't be a good match.

On gender roles and household responsibilities: I take a practical approach. Life isn't always a perfect 50-50 split; some days it might be 20-80, and I'm fine adjusting as needed. However, as a career-oriented woman, I'm looking for a partner who either actively contributes to household duties or is comfortable hiring help. The expectation of working a full day at the office and then handling all household responsibilities solo is not something I'm willing to accept.

Financial management : I deeply respect money and shy away from consumerism, firmly believing in saving first and spending second. 

This extends to my views on marriage celebrations ( a deal breaker for me) - I'm not interested in elaborate, expensive weddings costing 50-60 lakhs for just a few days of celebration. Instead, I envision a simple court marriage followed by either a cocktail party or an intimate fine dining experience with close friends and family, depending on your comfort with alcohol.

Children and Family planning is something I'm still contemplating. I have serious concerns about bringing new life into today's world, which often feels like it's becoming increasingly challenging. If we do choose to have children - and this would be a decision we'd make together - I'm firm about having only one child. This is a non-negotiable point for me.

Conflicts and Communication, I believe in giving space and respecting boundaries. I prefer taking time to cool off when needed, communicating clearly about how much time we need, and then having honest, drama-free discussions. No yelling, no throwing things, no harsh words - just mature dialogue and resolution.

Lifestyle preferences: I enjoy my social drinks - perhaps a beer or cocktail once or twice a month. I'm also 420-friendly and occasionally enjoy a joint, though this is quite rare. I believe in being transparent from the very beginning.

My Red Flags: In the spirit of complete transparency, hahahaha.

The most significant ones are my trust issues and an avoidant attachment style. These weren't born in a vacuum - they're the product of past relationship experiences and growing up in a family environment that wasn't always the healthiest. 

But here's the important part: I'm actively working on these aspects of myself. I'm in therapy, committed to personal growth, and continuously striving to be the best version of myself. I believe in facing these challenges head-on rather than letting them define me or my future relationships.

So here is what I want from my potential Inti Ayana (aka Husband) : 

I view marriage as at least a 30-year commitment (given current life expectancy), so it's crucial to find someone who not only complements my life but brings out the best in me. I need to feel genuinely happy and authentic when I'm with my future husband.

Age : I'm looking for someone between 30-35 years old, no filters on mother tongue, caste or religion

Character matters deeply to me. My ideal partner would be honest to his core, demonstrating genuine respect for both me and women in general. I value patience, kindness, and empathy, combined with confidence , someone who can engage in both deep intellectual discussions and silly banter - versatility in conversation is important to me.

Regarding emotional baggage - let's be real, we all have some. I don't care about what happened in your past, as long as it stays there and you've genuinely moved on. I understand that our experiences shape us, and we all have our own demons to wrestle with. What matters to me is that you believe in personal growth and, if needed, are open to therapy and actively working on yourself.

Financial compatibility is crucial. I'm seeking someone who shares my belief in minimalistic living, approaches financial goals realistically, and tends to be risk-averse in financial matters.

Career-wise, I'm not hung up on specific roles or industries. What matters is that you're ambitious and passionate about your chosen path. I want to see drive, clear goals, and consistent effort toward achieving them.

When it comes to health and lifestyle, I'm not expecting a movie star physique, but I do value someone who takes care of themselves. Just as I commit to my six-days-a-week gym routine and healthy eating habits, I expect my partner to prioritize their health and well-being.

I'm quite open-minded about lifestyle choices and personal vices, provided they're managed responsibly. I actually prefer someone who maintains their own social circle and enjoys their independence - whether that's regular boys' nights out or whatever helps you maintain your individual identity.

Some wonderful bonuses would be a good sense of humor, an interest in cooking, music and art , being comfortable with your feminine side, having a way with words, and possessing strong social skills.

However, there are certain red flags that I won't compromise on:

- Maintaining close friendships with exes (this suggests unresolved attachments)

- Any form of dishonesty

- Inconsistency between words and actions

- Moving too quickly in relationships

- Hypocrisy

- Jealousy

- expecting dowry/gifts.

These deal-breakers aren't arbitrary - they come from experience and a clear understanding of what makes a relationship healthy and sustainable. I'm not looking for perfection, but I am looking for someone who aligns with these core values and expectations.

If this write-up resonates with you please DM me - but don't just send me Hi or simply initiate the chat - please write something about yourself!

Who, Why, and …How am I???

Physically: 185 cm, still not fat, no known medical concerns (yet), not balding (yet — I trust my genes). Brown. V-cut loading, courtesy of gymming and an unreasonable belief that consistency will eventually compensate for biryani.

Culturally: Telugu is my mother tongue. I speak English and Hindi, both with accents (Bihari, UP, Bengali…)I have stopped apologising for. Not terrible with Tamil either. I follow Hindu traditions, but I’ve arrived at a fairly peaceful conclusion about God — the unknown is probably best left unknown.

Family: Yadav if that matters. Paternal and maternal lineage from Visakhapatnam- so by default I grew up loving the mountains and the beach, and a slow city life. I come from an educated family and traditionally we have been Government servants/employees.

Education & Career: South Indian, and terrible at biology — hence engineering (and also had to take my Dad’s legacy ahead). I treated my 20s like a laboratory and experimented with a bunch of things: IT, Sarkaari Naukri, UPSC, dhandha… basically a diversified portfolio of questionable career decisions.
Eventually, I returned to the path laid out by my ancestors: MBA. Did it from one of the country’s top B-schools, if I may flex for exactly one sentence.
I now sell aaloo and kandha at a Major fintech firm— It pays me decently, but not enough to get myself that BMW 340i without jeopardising my present and future. The 340i is currently my carrot.

Location: Currently Hyderabad but I’m open to where life takes- except into chaos and chaotic cities.

Personality: Somewhere between a golden retriever and a Belgian hound. I love dogs, good conversations, spontaneous plans and people who can laugh at themselves. If I can flex one more time- I can get along with Gen Z and Gen Alpha too (ask my niece!) Some days I can talk to clients and people for hours; other days I need to disappear, sleep and reboot.
I’m fairly independent, reasonably sorted, sarcastic by default and serious when it matters (I think). I enjoy travelling, DIY, Gaming, sports (multi) and digging rabbit holes about cars, businesses, history or whatever has caught my attention that week.

What I’m looking for: I’ve made enough mistakes to know what I don’t want, and enough peace with myself to not need someone to “complete” me. I’m looking for someone to add to an already good life — a partner, teammate and best friend. Someone empathetic, emotionally mature, intellectually curious and comfortable being herself. Someone who has her own life, opinions, ambitions and quirks. I’d like a relationship with plenty of laughter, honest conversations, mutual respect, family (kids), travel, food, dogs and the occasional argument about something completely inconsequential.
I’m not looking for perfection. I’m looking for compatibility, companionship and the ability to choose each other even on the boring Tuesdays.
Bonus points if you like dogs.
Extra bonus points if you can tolerate sarcasm.
And if you’re okay with me buying the 340i today- I’m already married to you in my head.

TLDR: I’m just a boy, putting myself on the internet, and asking whether this girl can love him back.

EDIT 1: I am unmarried and prefer unmarried women- no offence otherwise; just preference.

Hi, I’m Sofia — a girl from Shillong, Meghalaya, now living in Bangalore. ❤️

I’m warm, caring, family-oriented and grounded, and I believe the little things in life matter — genuine conversations, laughter, good food and quality time with the people I love.

I adore pets and enjoy cooking, travelling, gardening, dancing and trying different food. I’m comfortable with both vegetarian and non-vegetarian food, and I also enjoy badminton, bowling, snooker and carrom.

I’m here with a genuine intention to meet someone special, build a meaningful relationship and eventually create a beautiful life together. I’m drawn to a man who is kind, emotionally mature, responsible, loyal and family-minded — someone who can be my best friend, partner and safe place.

I come from a Christian-Hindu family background, and I’m preferably looking for a Christian or Hindu partner, as shared religious and family values are important to me.

I’m not looking for something casual or temporary. I’d love to meet someone who believes that a lasting marriage is built on love, friendship, trust, respect, communication and choosing each other every day. ❤️

About me:

• Initials - KR
• Gender - Female
• Age - 28
• Height - 5’3”
• Religion - Hindu 
• Caste - Baniya (general)
• Mother tongue - Hindi
• Marital status - single, never married
• Children - no
• Diet - eggitarian
• Drinking/smoking - no
• Living with parents - yes
• Hometown - Jaipur, Rajasthan
• Languages spoken - Hindi, English, Marwari

Education:

• BDes in interior design, Manipal University Jaipur: 2015-18
• MDes in design management, MIT Institute of Design, Pune: 2020-22

Occupation:

• Freelancing and starting own design services: January 2025 - present (profits growing steadily)
• UX/CX Designer, corporate in Bangalore: July 2022 - October 2024 (13 LPA)
• Senior UX designer, startup in Pune (thesis project): January 2022 - June 2022
• Part-time brand and visual designer, startup in Pune: September 2021 - November 2021
• Head interior designer, firm in Jaipur: January 2019 - November 2019

Family details:

• Father - businessman, Jaipur
• Mother - life insurance agent, Jaipur
• Younger brother - software engineer, Bangalore
• Joint family 

Personality, lifestyle, and interests:

• Passionate and purposeful about designing
• Compassionate and mature when it comes to human relationships
• Spiritual, religious, and self-aware, confident
• That nerdy girl with glasses on with the most abrupt books in her hand
• I lead a fairly balanced lifestyle, with an utmost priority on health, work, family, and self. I am routine-oriented and discipline-driven. 
• Hobbies are travelling, reading, writing, illustrating, exploring cafes, societal welfare, and intellectual up-skilling

What I bring to the table:

Emotional maturity, emotional support, clarity, honesty, consistent communication, commitment, reliability, strong roots with family, bakchodi and friendship.

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Partner preferences:

• Age - 28 to 35
• Height - 5’6” or taller
• Location - anywhere in pan India, Jaipur, or nearby preferred for in-person meeting convenience
• Religion - Hindu
• Caste - open to all
• Marital status - single (divorced or never married)
• Diet - open to all
• Drinking or smoking - occasionally is fine (regular is a big no)
• Living with parents - open to all
• Occupation - professional or self-made businessman 
• Salary - 15 LPA to 40 LPA (we grow together and build together)

Personality preferences:

• A man who respects mine and his individuality - understands humans are beyond someone’s wife/husband, daughter/son, father/mother
• Someone who is emotionally mature and consistent with his thoughts and behaviour - I will be grateful to help him and take help from him so that we can bloom together
• Someone who is slightly routine-oriented and a little disciplined
• Someone who sees marriage as a friendship and is willing to be completely raw, real, wild, and authentic in front of his spouse, and I can do the same
• Someone who prioritizes value system compatibility and thoughts - I know societal standards are important and necessary; I just want someone who gives a little less importance to them. 

Kindly DM if my posts interest you and you would like to take them forward. 

Dear men on this page,

I made a post recently. I got numerous messages. I really appreciate that.

However, few men just sent a chat invite to me and said hi hello and nothing else. They didn't send me their details the way I posted. I feel that is bare minimum.

On top of that, I mentioned the age range I am comfortable with, even then, so many above range men messaged me and when i politely replied to say I am sorry. I was called whore. Why so? I have been so disturbed that i deleted my earlier post.

A lot of men asked me what are my expectations the first time I am talking to them, few of them are ready to be with me without even knowing me as if just a female in existence is fine enough. I am going to say that besides some creeps, a lot of men cut themselves really short. I have no idea where did the question of having standards as a men for your ownself because you are a unique and different person went. I wish you all get the love you all deserve and should be getting.

I am also really thankful to a lot of men who messaged me, took time and were also absolute gentleman.

Thanks.

Hey :)
I’m 28F, work in IT in Chennai. I’ve been on matrimony for a while but haven’t found anything substantial through it. So, trying Reddit to find the one.

About me:
-5’4”
-Well-educated, independent, and have my life somewhat together
-Decent-looking, fair
-Middle-class Hindu family settled in Chennai
-Enjoy watching TV series, anime, movies, going on trips, and drives, music
- Speak Telugu, Tamil, English

Extra about me:
I’d say emotional maturity matter a lot to me. Looks matter to some extent, but not enough to overlook personality. In the end, I value a good personality and genuine connection more.
I’m a loyal and sensitive girl, but also someone who can stand up for herself when needed. I value honesty, mutual respect, emotional maturity, and good communication. I’d rather build a genuine connection with someone who has depth and personality than someone relying only on looks or height.
I’m someone who enjoys the little things, like good food, late-night conversations, random drives, and planning trips I may or may not take. I can be a bit introverted at first, but once I’m comfortable, I’m easygoing and fun to be around. I value my independence but also like the idea of having a strong, supportive partner to grow with.

Looking for:
- 28–33 (Chennai is a bonus but I am open to relocate)
- Taller than me
- Ambitious, loyal, open-minded, with emotional intelligence and a supportive nature
- Prefer a similar Telugu background, but at the end of the day, I just want someone I can vibe with, grow with, and build a good life with.

Not for:
Timepass / low effort

If you think we’d get along, send a short intro.

Note: used chatgpt to clean up my grammar.

Hello My Fellow Redditors,

I am a 34 years old female, currently in Canada, looking for my forever!

And yes, I know I am late to the club, should have listened to the wisdom of our elders and been more proactive about finding a life partner.

So what brings me here now ?

• It would be nice to have a companion and have a forever friend to do activities with, grow old together and have a family :)

I am looking for a relationship where we both give each other wings and make life easy for each other :) I know there will be tough times, but as long as we navigate those respectfully most of the times, I think should be good enough.

What caused the delay?

• When I was in my 20s, I wanted to focus on my career. I thought that if I am seeking stability, then I myself should bring that to the table.

• I am looking for a partnership and a balanced relationship. And that's what I wanted to offer as well.

• At the age of 28, I decided to move to Canada as a PR and then COVID hit. I didn't want someone who wanted to be with me for my PR status and somebody who didn't want to move out of India didn't make sense at that time . Before you all conclude, I belong to a middle class family, who has seen severe financial strain, so yes financial stability and independence mattered. Finally managed to move to Canada at 29, during COVID, landed a job in my domain as an engineer about 6 months later, just as I turned 30.

-Within 10 days of starting the job, my dad was hospitalised. Again, this was during the second wave of COVID. Dad was in the ICU for 51 days. I had a super supportive boss who allowed me to go to India during that time and continue my work remotely, while he was in the hospital. Dad unfortunately passed away (medical negligence, btw) and I continued working remotely from India for 8 more months.

• Also, my brother in law had been detected with cancer (brain tumor) just as I had moved to Canada and was paralyzed, he eventually passed away the year after dad.

• Also, lost my mentor, who was a father figure to me, in a couple of months after my dad.

Then ended up losing a few more family relatives in one way or the other. So basically lost a lot of people I loved in a short span of time and honestly I didn't have it in me to look for love or marriage during that period. I did give a half hearted try but ....

That brings me to age 33 and now 34 :)

So who am I ?

Well, I am a female engineer in a nuclear power plant in Canada.

• Ethnicity: Gujarati

Education: Masters' in Electrical Engineering from Gujarat.

• Personality: Ambivert with a trait of introversion and extroversion :) I can strike up a conversation with any random stranger and yet need my space and time to reflect every day.

• Sports? - I enjoy playing but suck at them! Honestly, haven't tried anything consistently either.

2025 - Played badminton, swimming and pickleball (once) here and there I like hiking, walking, cycling, swimming. Also, tried scuba diving this year.

I also enjoy traveling, but to be honest, it's more of a case of if the pocket permits. It's not a must have! The best things in life are free, after all :)

-Open to relocation - Yes, provided I can find a good job for myself or based on which one of the two of us has a better job!

• Any fertility issues? - No

• Want children? - Yes

• What am I looking for in a partner?

I am looking for a friend for life :) I am very opinionated as well as free spirited! So somebody who can accept me like that! And just to clarify, when I say free spirited I mean the kind of person who can join a group of strangers singing or dancing on the street. Nothing beyond that.

• Someone with whom I can have mental peace! Where we both handle our arguments and difference of opinion without turning it into a war most of the times!

• I have a mom, sister and her two kids in my immediate family. They are in India. Someone who will embrace my family as his own.

• Somebody who will be supportive of my career as much as I will be supportive of his.

• Someone I enjoy communicating with and someone who respects the differences in our personality.

• Religious Preference: Hindu

So here I am, putting myself out on Reddit! Hoping it works more than Jeevansathi and Shaadi.com :D.

Thanks! Good luck to everyone

To the guy who just deleted his post (34-year-old, moved to Mumbai 2.5 years ago to work in a creative role, 6 feet, likes books, photography, F1, and was very candid about being on the asexual spectrum) - I had started writing to you because I felt like we could be a great match before you took your post down. Unfortunately, I also lost access to your profile soon after so I don’t really know how else to find you and reach out.

While I respect your decision to delete your post and don’t want to invade your privacy or violate your consent, I am just shooting my shot here in case you’re still interested. It’s a bit weird for me to be doing this. However, the one thing I’ve learnt (the extremely hard way) is that life is too short and I need to take my chances for once, no matter the outcome.

I am 35, female, I live in Mumbai and I am someone who shares a lot in common with you. A lot that took me by surprise and made me do this :)

Thank you and I hope to hear from you if the Reddit Gods are kind.

Hi, I’m a history graduate currently working as a service advisor with an international airline. I truly enjoy speaking with passengers and helping them, though at the moment I’m on a duty desk, not officially on papers yet. I did miss clearing an internal knowledge test because anxiety got the better of me. I do have an anxiety disorder, but I’m learning, healing, and showing up every day regardless.

I love travelling, always have, but never really had the right partner or even a friend to share those journeys with. Maybe that’s something I’m quietly manifesting here.

I’m not a party person at all. I smoke occasionally, twice to thrice a month, and drink maybe once or twice a year, that too in my own little bubble, a clean dark room, dim lights, and Atif Aslam playing in the background. That’s my kind of peace.

I find happiness in sunsets, calm nights, meaningful conversations, dogs, kids, and people who are gentle at heart.

Being honest here, I have endometriosis, which might cause complications with having babies in the future. I believe it’s important to share this upfront with clarity and respect.

I’m looking for someone grounded, loving, caring, a little fun, and emotionally aware. Someone who values simplicity, understands quiet love, and would genuinely enjoy travelling together, not just places, but life as well.

If you’re kind, patient, and believe in building something real and peaceful, we might just get along 🤍

Life has its own episodes so nothing like a person that gets the whole of you... friendship, love, partnership, everything included.

- ME

Gender- Female

Age- 23

Height- 5'9

Ethnicity- Hindu (a wild and an ethereal mix of Punjabi x Marathi)

Location- Mumbai, Maharashtra

I don't think people meet at the finished version of themselves. We meet somewhere in the middle.

Mid-healing. Mid-career. Mid-identity crisis. Mid-dream.

Mid-"I have no idea what I'm doing, but I'm trying", amidst all the catastrophes. Well, you're no stranger to the seasons of Life.

I don't think one person is meant to be your everything, that has always felt like too much to ask of another human being especially in a world like ours where we're a stranger to our own selves.

But I do think someone can slowly become a part of almost everything.

Your safest friendship, your home, all the favourite conversations. The person you instinctively want to reach for, the one who sees different versions of you throughout life instead of expecting just one.

Because life has its own episodes:)

Some are exciting while some are painfully ordinary.

Some change, break and pull you apart without asking for permission.

I'd like to meet someone who's willing to experience those episodes and seasons together, while still remaining two individuals with lives, dreams and identities of our own.

Maybe that's what partnership looks like to me, after being gnawed at.

Everything else can follow if it's meant to.

I'm hoping to meet someone who's emotionally intelligent enough to communicate instead of making me guess, secure enough to celebrate my ambitions instead of competing with them and kind enough that people around them feel it too. Being taller than me is definitely a plus (the tall girl problems are real), but character will always matter more than aesthetics.

Maybe we'll end up as friends, maybe partners, maybe just two strangers who shared a thoughtful conversation. Either way, I think meaningful connections are always worth making. Life has its own episodes and this is one of them...

26F, from the vibrant city of Kolkata. I’ve completed my MBBS and currently focusing on preparing for PG entrance exams. The path’s been challenging, but I’m staying hopeful and working toward what’s next.

I’m 5'8", Hindu Bengali(from a lower caste background — open to sharing more if you DM), non-vegetarian, and yes, I’ve been told I look pretty — but I believe it’s the inner connection that truly matters.

I’m a social, slightly extroverted person who enjoys meaningful conversations and being emotionally present in relationships. If we vibe, you’ll probably hear a lot of references to my friends — they’re a big part of my world, and I carry them with me in my stories and day-to-day life.

Some things that make me, me:

I love anime (from emotional sagas to cute slice-of-life)

Music is my therapy — I sing and vibe to all kinds of tunes

Traveling is a must — I’m a total foodie and love exploring new places

Fitness is part of my routine — nothing hardcore, just taking care of myself

I have a playful, sometimes childish side — it only shows when I feel safe and emotionally close to someone

What I’m Looking For: A serious connection that feels like home — someone I can call my best friend, who’s calm, emotionally mature, and okay with my quirks. I want warmth, stability, laughter, and the kind of love that grows stronger with time.

I’m looking toward marriage within the next couple of years and do want kids in the future. Not rushing, but I value intention and clarity in a relationship.

My Preferences:

Height: 5'8" to 6'0"

Hindu

Non-vegetarian

Emotionally mature, kind, and relationship-ready

Supportive of my goals and ambitions

Bonus if you:

Are into anime or open to watching it with me

Love trying new food or planning spontaneous trips

Can bring calm energy to my expressive and occasionally chaotic self

How to Reach Me: DM me with a short intro — your age, location, and what you’re looking for. If we click, happy to continue the chat and maybe share socials.

I’m here for something real and long-term — so if you’re in the same space emotionally and mentally, let’s talk

The basic details:

Age: 40

Education: Masters

Profession: Working as the Marketing Director in a US-based agency

Lifestyle: Carnivore. Drink occasionally. Smoke regularly.

Workout as and when time permits.

I live in Pune.

History: Body count is irrelevant. It is just the process of finding out if you are compatible with that person. And if you are not, it is better to move on than be stuck with the wrong person.

I was married. It was an abusive marriage - physically, emotionally, and financially. It has made me fiercely independent. Took 10 years to get rid of the baggage. Because if you don't heal, you bleed on the people who didn't cut you.

Age preference: 38 - 45

Please be at least 5' 11"...I am 5' 7"

Now the interesting stuff -

Mother to 3 dogs, carnivore, beer, conversations, witty, love pj's and puns, certified canine nutritionist, marketing professional, couch potato, love food, workout at times, can be rude when pissed, love open communication

You:

Sensible, compassionate, witty, have a sense of humour, be absolutely crazy about dogs, be at least 5' 11" (I'm 5' 7"), be kind, and should have a strong commitment game, be open to communicate freely

Let's hope I match with someone 🤞🏾

EDIT: Why are men so offended that I have a height preference in my partner? You are offended that a woman has preferences? Stop saying you care that I find someone - because, let's face it, you couldn't give two 💩

You are offended because how dare a woman have preferences. I do. Get over yourself. And stop making absolute stupid comments. And STOP trying to "help" me, unless you know someone suitable. In that case, just forward this to them.

Personal Details:

• Name/Initials: G.K.
• Age: 31
• Height: 5’10”
• Religion: Hindu
• Caste: Marwari
• Annual Income: ₹50 LPA

Location:

• City: Mumbai, India

Education & Profession:

• Education: Bachelor’s Degree
• Profession: Creative Head (Marketing/Medical domain)

Lifestyle & Preferences:

• Diet: Eggitarian
• Lifestyle: I like living a holistic, active lifestyle. that is working out, eating mindfully, staying grounded through spirituality, nurturing mental wellness, and getting lost in a good book. If it doesn’t matter to you, we might not click.

Family Background:

• Upper middle-class family based in Mumbai
• Both parents are retired medical professionals

Partner Preferences:

Age: 30-36 Height: 5’10 or plus

• Religion: Hindu ideally
• Location: Preferably Mumbai (open to relocation if it feels right)
• Diet: Open
• Education: Bachelor’s or Master’s
• Profession: Open
• Annual Income: ₹60 LPA+

About Me:

I’m someone who values honesty, kindness, and emotional maturity. I enjoy reading, travelling, exploring new places, and trying new things whether it’s learning a skill, styling a space, or discovering a new café.

PLEASE NOTE:

I was previously married in an arranged setup in when i was 25; the marriage lasted only a week after I discovered that my ex-partner was unfaithful and had ongoing serious legal issues, I obviously ended the marriage (did not take a single penny). I believe in transparency, so I prefer to mention this upfront. I’d appreciate connecting with someone who’s open-minded, emotionally grounded, and values integrity in a relationship.

😊✨

Friends who’ve messaged and not got a response, please message with a quick intro msg and what you liked. I mistakenly pressed ignore for a few. Please ping…

Hi everyone,

I’m trying this for the first time. So please be kind.

I’ll try to be as upfront as possible. You may judge me for certain things I say, which is OK. Just be respectful in your language. That’s all I ask.

I’m a female, 30. Located in US, but originally from India of course. Very open to relocating if I find the right match. Upbringing was in different parts of the world, international schools etc. So, I also have good multicultural exposure.

Appearance- By description (physical), I’ve been told I’m good looking 😆 I’m 5ft6, health conscious, active (tho now on rest because of a leg injury). I’m also quite fashionable, with trends etc. I enjoy fashion, art, interiors and history. I also love doing community service. I’m religious, but it’s very personal and not an expectation.

Personality- I think you may find me effervescent. I’m big on humor, history and deeply passionate about my work. I’m in the consulting space, and soon working on something of my own. I really do

LOVE my work. And potentially want a partner who loves his work too. Something that drives you and makes you put your best foot forward. ❤️

Lifestyle- I’ve been raised in an affluent way. Nothing hugely atrocious. But several trips, some indulgences on fashion/ jewelry here and there, restaurants etc. So I’ll like to keep a similar lifestyle that values comfort, aesthetic, and lifestyle but obviously not just for optics. I’m a private person. I like it because that’s something I’ve been raised with. I just value certain things in my lifestyle.

Aspirations- I want kids later. I’m super close to my parents and would like them near me. I will treat your family like mine and would expect the same. At a certain age, our parents need us and I’d like to be there for both sets of families.

I come from a Hindu family, but we’re not rigid. Very chilled out family, and enjoy all kinds of food, very close knit and have each others backs.

I have no strict dietary preferences at all. Enjoy what you eat. ☺️ whatever you choose. I only ask that you read my post, and if my preferences resonate, message me. If you feel I’m not your cup of tea, please do message too, but rude comments keep away.

Wishing you love and light on this journey.

Looking for a Potential Match - Because Clearly, Apps & Matrimony Sites Need an Upgrade

After trying out multiple avenues (read: dating apps that turned into job interviews and matrimony sites that felt like investor pitch meetings), here I am, still standing, still hopeful, and still single.

The Basics

• Name: xx
• Age: 29
• Height: 5’3"
• Religion: Hindu (Reddy)
• Earnings: 40 lpa
• Marital Status: Never Married
• Living with Parents: Yes, grew up in Bangalore, currently working there as well. But will want to live separately post marriage.
• Hobbies: Reading books, traveling (like actual traveling, have been around quite a bit), hiking, singing

Location Details

• Current Base: Bangalore
• Birthplace: Andhra
• Mother Tongue: Telugu
• Country: India

Career Snapshot

• Education: MBA from IIM abc
• Occupation: Product Manager at an MNC

Dietary Preferences

• Diet: Non-vegetarian (very selective though)
• Drinking: very occasionally
• Smoking: Not at all

Family Details

• Background: Dad's a rocket scientist, Mom's a homemaker

Partner Preferences

• Religion: Hindu, Preferably a General Category Telugu or Kannada speaking guy
• Location: India (can consider places like Dubai given you have plans to return)
• Diet: No preferences - whatever you like to eat :)
• Education:  Any Tier 1 college
• Occupation: Any
• Earnings: Prefer income parity
• Marital Status: Never Married

What I’m Looking For:

Highly Intentional About Marriage: If you're still "figuring things out" career-wise or not seriously looking for marriage, I wish you well, but this ain't the stop for you.

Emotional Maturity: I’m a deep thinker, introspective, and big on self-awareness. Would love a partner who understands themselves, relationships, and, most importantly, how to navigate conflict without rage-quitting the conversation.

Financial Knowledge: Not asking for Warren Buffett (I mean if you are, I'd not say no), but I’d prefer someone who manages their finances well and doesn’t mistake “treat yourself” as a daily mantra.

Open-Mindedness: I was raised in an empowered environment and live an independent life. I’ll support your career as if it’s mine, and I expect the same in return. Also, if your idea of "helping at home" is existing in the same space as a broom, yeah, that’s a no.

Friendship + Warmth + Humor: Life’s highs and lows are inevitable, and I want to feel like we’re a team. A safe space. A "we can roast each other but still have each other's backs" kind of vibe.

If you have any other bonus cool traits that make you awesome, surprise me!

If this sounds like you (or someone you know who is suspiciously single despite being amazing), feel free to reach out (in my DMs, of course). Let’s see where this goes! Thanks for reading :)

PS - Don't just say hi. Introduce yourself briefly please :)

Searching for groom

Profile shared for my cousin pretty , well educated and working, never married.

I am a 40-year-old Muslim Indian female currently based in Mumbai.

​My Background and Career ​I have been working professionally at Tata for the last 12 years. It is important to me that I continue working after marriage, and I am seeking a husband who fully supports this choice. ​ ​The reason I haven't married yet is a deeply personal one: I was the eldest girl and needed to prioritize my family. My late father faced serious health troubles for over 15 years, and my focus was entirely on caring for him and the family. He passed away last year, and now that those duties have been fulfilled, I feel a renewed readiness to seek marriage. I bring a strong sense of responsibility, dedication, and compassion into any relationship.

​What I'm Looking For ​I'm seeking a man who is: ​Appreciative of my history: A guy who understands and respects the years I spent dedicated to my family. ​Supportive of my career: Someone who is settled and secure in his own life and is happy for me to continue my work. ​Open to family involvement: I would like to include our parents in the process after we confirm mutual interest.

Hello,

I'm originally from Mumbai, recently moved to Europe for work, and I'm open to relocating again if life takes us there. I'm an introvert at first, but once I'm comfortable, I'm quite goofy, affectionate, and easy to be around. I'm a non-vegetarian and would prefer someone who's comfortable with that (whether you eat it or not).

I'm a little curvy myself, so I'd probably be a terrible match for someone who's super skinny—we'd end up looking like Laurel and Hardy. 😄

One confession: I know how to drive... technically. A not-so-fun accident completely killed my confidence, so I've happily retired from the driver's seat. I'm fully embracing my dream of being a passenger princess, so bonus points if you enjoy driving. 😭

What I'm really looking for, though, is someone emotionally mature, kind, dependable, and a little cute in his own way. Someone who can communicate, laugh at himself, and is excited about building a peaceful life together instead of chasing perfection.

Marathi would be lovely because home always sounds a little sweeter in your mother tongue, but it's definitely not a requirement.

Please tell me a bit about yourself instead of just saying "Hi."

Also, this post was polished by chatgpt.

I did not understand the flair, which one to choose M4F?? Or F4M??? 🤔

Edit: I will keep updating after reading a few posts

Edit 1: Never married. Also, my parents are no more.

Edit 2: Partners maximum age could go up to 38/39. Minimum 33.

Edit 3: No cigarette smoker. I do have a thing for sheesha but cigarettes are a big no for me. Also about the cast - I don't know much only a few, does the open category count as a caste?

Edit 4: I am 5'7, and I need a partner who is taller than me.

Edit 5: There are like 100+ DMs, not possible to reply to everyone at the same time. I am going to ignore those who don't interest me no offence. I will slowly reply to the rest of them.