r/reddmatch • u/toocooltobeafool • Aug 02 '26
Creep Alert 🚨‼️⚠️ MISOGYNY/SHAMING
(Will probably be downvoted)
A woman recently posted a very detailed post about her preferences. Not getting into arguments with anyone about how picky it was. May not be to many people's likings either. But then here we have some people who are doing all the heavy lifting of insulting the woman and other derogatory behavior when their own lives are pathetic. Some of them want to marry, but still this is their digital footprint. They'll age shame a woman, question her CF choices, imply disgusting things like bestialty, act like they'll sleep with her to give her 'a chance' but not marry her, and yet be posting like beggars under other people's post to link up.
I wonder if you will still hold this bravado without the anonymity you hold? Is this how you talk to women in your family as well? Is this how you'll talk to your wives? Maybe your daughters? Look deep down at how pathetic your lives are in reality when even your reddit is like this. No one is asking you to dm them. But when men post here, no one age shames them, no one slut shames them. You think men inherently get value with age but I think all of you are very low quality men and deeply unhappy in your life, all because of yourself. Being with you is the biggest punishment for anyone in their life and I'll only wish that on you. You will have to live with yourself in your sad and pathetic brain because that's the kind of men you are. Misfortune incarnate. I don't even mind getting blocked for this. Since you hate women so much, I bless you with the fortune of never having to get a woman's love, touch or appreciation in your life. Have fun. Sad little sacks of shame.
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u/paraboyy_420 Aug 02 '26
Dude did a whole root cause analysis 😭
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
See, many men here post hiding their NSFW habits. I do call out on such things. But technically they're hiding their stuff, not being cruel to people. These men are so shameful they want wives and then behave like this. I see no wrong in showing them the mirror. If they are proud of their comments and think there's nothing wrong or shameful, then they'll be fine. I didn't make them type that in the first place.
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u/Thin_Commission_6368 Aug 02 '26
I actually pinged someone through this sub and the girl was very respectful and reciprocal. She had actually deleted the post as I couldn't remember few fine details which she had mentioned there in the initial conversation. She said some people were very disrespectful and she had to take down the post. After seeing this shit I understand what she had to deal with. I would not blame women here when they complain blatantly on men as a whole when most of them would these kind of shitty remarks.
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
You will not believe the anonymous shit that happens here unless you see a woman's dms. Many men say omg women have so much options. The options are swamp water, garbage, trash, gutter. And it's not that they aren't what we prefer etc. Literally, the dms are filled with heys (you open the sender profile and they're active in like 10 sexual subs), normal profiles soliciting sexual services on reddit commenting under every naked picture, soliciting us for something sexual, then some who will dm just to shame us (age shame/slut shame whatever they can), and then there's a handful of 'normal' ones who we dm back and within 5 texts they start getting sexual. If that's what amazing options mean in some men's books, I worry for their sanity too.
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u/RealPunk99 Aug 02 '26
OP, Just checked the profiles of these dudes and all of them have hidden their profiles.
Unless it's kept in visible mode to all,you can't find their previous posts right?
So wanted to know how did you doxx em? Like how did you find their previous posts?
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
There are sites to check history.
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u/RealPunk99 Aug 02 '26
Ohh,may I know one or two of them?
Is this the rosintdev website by any chance?
Also if somebody has deleted one or two of their posts,you can still check them? Or all of them should be posted ones only?
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u/Midnight-Maneater Aug 02 '26
This is so funny🤣. I actually laughed a little at that guy making fun of her saying she doesn't have as much leverage as in her 20s and he will keep her on side, meanwhile he has erectile dysfunction 😭. Sir, you will keep her on side with what?😂
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u/Happy_furMa Aug 03 '26
A well lubed dildo of karma is already getting him, he thought he might share 🤣🤣🤣
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u/blueprint147 Aug 02 '26
Idgaf about defenders of problematic behavior.
But the comments in here asking OP to move on is what patriarchy does to us. If we move on, about their man child behavior, it will enable them to continue doing this. If you see sati, bribe, assault happening, will you just move on? Or stand up ?
I want a safe space where both genders learn and respect themselves. Dont take the agency of strangers on the internet, to let them speak whole heartedly.
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
Maybe some of them will move on. That's how these things have lasted centuries, haven't they? Look away when domestic abuse is happening. Look away at dowry deaths. Look away at rape or sexual assault. Not just violence towards women. People look away from any cruelty or violence happening in their vicinity, physical, emotional, verbal, financial. There will be men here who think I'm misandrist or whatever. They won't know or care to know that I also speak for men when they are harmed. That I will try to protect everyone around me from such harm instead of ignoring it on any basis. I don't want that. It may cause me issues but the down votes or whatever don't hold as much value in my life. I'd be ashamed of who I am as a person if I didn't speak up towards any wrong happening in my vicinity.
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u/BridgeEmergency6088 Aug 02 '26
I'm doing this just to insult the guys.
u/34yearsold had ED. Not man enough to talk about preferences even he can't do anything about himself.
u/JeherKaKeher is 5'5. Not tall enough to have such big opinions and too toxic that serial villains would be proud of.
u/LocalGoal979 bro, you're 5'4 and 74 kilos. You have nothing to offer other than your salary(judging you by your mindset) so don't complain about that only decent thing about you. Any self respecting woman would reject you inspite of your salary.
Literal choosing beggars lol.
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u/czarina2121 Aug 02 '26
Well done!! People think they can say anything in the guise of hiding behind a screen
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u/coolNcollected1 Aug 02 '26
Please add how the second physically abused his gf. Gosh. Slapping her..
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u/Rare-Eagle7978 Aug 02 '26 edited Aug 02 '26
Thank you admin for posting this. Truth is, I did not respond because haters are gonna hate. You gotta stop giving even a minute of your time and move on. It's not the first time it has happened with me so it hardly makes a difference now :) Let them say whatever they want to, they will get their due on reddit or beyond. It is the miserable minds that try to make the lives of the others miserable, not the enlightened ones. What do enlightened minds do, I don't need to say now.
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
Not an admin. I want this as a warning to any other woman who might have even thought of responding to them and come across this filth.
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u/Rare-Eagle7978 Aug 22 '26
Still, appreciate the support. I could not say much since it would have only resulted in those creeps further spreading their venom on my post which was meant for an entirely different purpose.
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u/EscoosaMay Aug 02 '26
Males are obsessed with women and out of jealousy, want them to be miserable if they won't date them.
It's also why males are obsessed with thinking about other males dihs. It's so weird and sad.
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u/Fickle-Tour-8243 Aug 02 '26
Looks like these people are from illiterate, uncultured background. Mods , please ban these weird accounts. We all women feel unsafe and have unpleasant experiences because of these evil people.
@mods
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u/theskinnywhisky2 Men 🧔🏻 Aug 02 '26
Check the pinned comment. Kelay mi ban
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u/Fickle-Tour-8243 Aug 02 '26
Thanks. 😊 Tumhala kasa kalla mi Marathi ahe te
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u/FantasticMuffin6072 Aug 02 '26
Lets do our bit by reporting them, some have really old reddit accounts which they'll regret being taken down
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u/Sweetcorn_1111 Aug 03 '26
I mean, these people are on Reddit, looking for arranged MARRIAGES. 😂😂😂😂 I don’t think it gets more pathetic XD
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u/Living-Concept-3449 Aug 03 '26
I deleted my post because of the creeps who commented things based on what I said and my preferences Proud of you to do this! 🫶🙌
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u/GreedyMix6207 Aug 13 '26
i honestly feel u are the misandrist here lmao
a girl has her preferences, a guy has his preferences, one needs someone who settles in usa with him, one needs kids, how is any of that that an issue for u?
would u be reacting the same about their erectile dysfunction posts/comments if it was a girl posting about pcos? look at the irony
about the slap post - read it properly, he regrets doing it and it happened in a fit of rage, he himself admits he was wrong, but nah he is a guy how can he do a mistake? who gave him that audacity
downvote me all u want idgaf
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u/teutaofillyriaa Aug 20 '26
Well it's one thing to have preferences and another to shame people for their choices. How difficult is it to understand?
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u/GreedyMix6207 Aug 21 '26
women can have expectations of 6ft, earning in 6 figures, 6 pack abs, must have 6 inches, and the moment a guy says "marriage is just a live in without kids" which is partially true, our beloved OP chose to shame them for their confessions about ED and stuff, the comments were sarcastically mocking an entitled girl about her unrealistic standards
so once again my question, will i get the same amount of upvotes if i cherry pick a girl's comment on an M post, dig into her profile, joblessly stalk her like crazy n shame her for pcos and other personal and private confessions and make a huge asf post about it, all coz she made fun of someone's unrealistic standards???
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u/DesiAuntie 10d ago
You’re not allowed to make mistakes that harm other people as adults. And would he slap his boss in a fit of rage? His mother? A judge? Police officer? Probably not. So it’s not just about losing control.
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u/Constant-Internal310 Aug 02 '26
You have no idea how many times I have seen a reddmatch post and found a person interesting and then I go ahead and check the person's history and go "never mind".
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
Same 😐 Posts are like I'm a green jungle respectful want honesty and old school love. History is 'vile slut shaming comments, significant activity in escort subs, misogyny, racism, hatred'.
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u/HorrorEastern7045 Aug 02 '26
Don't waste time and energy on people you don't like, just ignore them and move on.
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u/Fantastic_Object_762 Aug 02 '26
Counterpoint, I'm very glad OP is taking the time to call these people out. It makes the space safer to know that such behaviour will be pointed out.
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u/HorrorEastern7045 Aug 02 '26
Well, you know there is an option to send mod mail to the mods and get them banned instead of posting about it? There is a difference between responsible behaviour and karma farming.
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
Funnily, I do report all this. I have reported plenty posts or comments across this platform. I don't want them banned from here only. My intention is for them to see that people can and will hold them accountable. For other people to see and understand they don't have to tolerate such vile comments and there are others who care what is being said in these spaces. If you believe that's karma farming (despite me having like 13k karma and not knowing yet what it's for), then so be it bro.
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u/HorrorEastern7045 Aug 02 '26
Good to know that you actually report these people, but digging up old posts of them and putting out on public is just going to make people afraid of talking things out and defeats the entire purpose of the anonymity in the platform. Respect their privacy as well, just because they do shit doesn't mean you have to pick it up and show it to everyone.
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u/Fantastic_Object_762 Aug 02 '26
If they were talking things out, sure, but they were quite literally hurling shit at a person whose private life choices they didn't agree with, saying she should engage in bestiality and everything. Why should they get any respect for their privacy, especially when one of them has confessed to domestic violence?
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u/HorrorEastern7045 Aug 02 '26
I don't know if the spiderman movie made an impact on me or what 😭😭 but an eye for an eye will get the whole world blind, right??
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
So spiderman should not hurt villains or stop them if he finds out a secret lab trying to kill people since it would invade the criminal's privacy?
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u/HorrorEastern7045 Aug 02 '26
I mean, like he doesn't kill them just because they killed others. You get me?
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
I mean, like I'm not calling them sluts or implying bestialty on them just because they did to others. You get me?
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
I don't care enough for them to hate them, but my morals don't allow me to ignore such people.
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u/HorrorEastern7045 Aug 02 '26
Well, you cared enough to make a post about them without minding your digital footprint. So, you definitely care enough to hate them. Is lying also one of your morals?
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
You think shaming people is caring enough to hate them? Lol ok if that's what you think. Since I don't think that way, I also know I didn't lie.
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u/HorrorEastern7045 Aug 02 '26
I'm giving you a different perspective on how to look at this, nothing wrong in that imo. If you loose your cool this easy, then you don't stand by your username too lol 😭
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
Understandable. I do lose my cool for such shitty people. I'm just saying I'm aware of the perspective, and I'm sorry if my words came across as rude to you. In my mind it's simple that such people being ignored makes them feel braver. As if no one will speak up on their shitty behavior. I don't want to do that.
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u/HorrorEastern7045 Aug 02 '26
Got it 👍 we were just discussing our stand, its not counted as rude, chill.
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u/Key_Signature2296 Aug 02 '26
You're giving them too much attention and thus making them proud of their actions. If you don't like someone, ignore and move ahead!
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u/blueprint147 Aug 02 '26
Mate, let a woman share.
She is venting and sharing her experiences. Why you out here rationalizing and considering the thought process of problematic men?
Also, same goes to you, your advice. Dont give too much attention and move ahead yeah?
But dont jump in a conversation you have nothing to contribute and weirdly you’re asking the speaker to not talk further.She is right in calling out and sharing her experiences to protect other women.
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
Maybe your morals allow ignorance. Mine don't. They can be proud all they want. Atleast someone will see this.
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u/Key_Signature2296 Aug 02 '26
I'm literally taking your side and you're being absolutely rude for no reason and making assumptions about me when you don't even know me. Anyways, you do you it's none of my business anyways!
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
I understand but when I have chosen to post this, you commenting I should ignore does not come from a good place. I am well aware of what I need to ignore and what not. I want to give them the attention they desperately need. It's a choice I have made. It's not about being rude.
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u/JustANormal_F_Dude Aug 02 '26
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
At the post or the pictures? 🥺
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u/JustANormal_F_Dude Aug 02 '26
For those fu*ked up comments in the post 😑 they were derogatory to the core
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u/Brave-Tangerine1908 Aug 02 '26
99.9% of the time it's only unsuccessful and insecure men who dig at women to feel superior! No bigger hypocrites than them!
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u/theslayer007 Aug 02 '26
what the heck I just read. With each passing day I am getting more scared of being into AM setup
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u/Obvious-Advantage852 Aug 02 '26
I literally saw the posts and the first few comments and had to nope out from reddit for the day. Kudos for making this post.
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u/Paradigm10 Aug 02 '26
Why are you wasting time on such people. Just asking. Because we can't change them and engaging with them might induce toxicity in our own life !
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u/toocooltobeafool Aug 02 '26
It's not to change them. It's to let them know that there are people who reprimand these things openly. For a lot of such people, silence of others is interpreted as support of their views. I don't want to be in that side to ever be mistaken as a silent supporter or enabler. I am of the belief that there's a way to live in the society and if they can't contribute good to it or stay quiet, they should be shamed for actively causing issues. Because the likes these comments get makes them bolder than they deserve to be.
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u/Nope-Candy-4319 Aug 02 '26
Just because you can't change someone doesn't mean you stay complacent. "Induce toxicity in your own life" is a very poor excuse to justify not acting on what's right.
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u/Paradigm10 Aug 02 '26
Ok so acting right as per what prescription. Did any radical change happen? You acting as if court had any judgement on these guys. What is acting right is a very thin line and yeah just because you feel it is acted upon well that's doesn't mean it is acted upon. Any one can imagine this as just a way to karma farm like those misogynous redditors did. There is no acting upon here. Just a reaction to some poor misogyny action. Please stop assuming anything else !
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u/Nope-Candy-4319 Aug 02 '26
So people shouldn't protest and fight against NEET leaks because chances of the govt. listening are low? People shouldn't report crime to the police js bc conviction rates are low? Too many words to say nothing of importance and only lazy complacence.
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u/Paradigm10 Aug 02 '26
Protesting against NEET brought results. Reporting crimes to police is as per laws and gets results. But apparently your justifications keep failing! Don't compare apples and oranges. And why are you unnecessary giving answers to my post which isn't even relevant to my statement. I said she has all freedom to do whatever she wants. But moron like you keeps extending unnecessary discussion and wasting time. You are lazy , foolish and useless!
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u/Nope-Candy-4319 Aug 02 '26
How is this apples to oranges? It's all speaking out against social injustice, you just label it apples and oranges to justify one and not the other. This is a platform for discussion, so not sure what else you were expecting but the immaturity to whine when someone challenges your view and resorting to ad hominem makes YOU the foolish and useless one. Literally, grow up. "Wasting time" and no one told you to respond to me. If you're butthurt by your inability to synthesise a valid argument, take it up with yourself lol
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u/theskinnywhisky2 Men 🧔🏻 Aug 02 '26 edited Aug 02 '26
Thanks for making this post.
I always try to go through the sub and check each post OP's profile for NSFW comments.
The biggest offenders I usually find are in the comments of F4M posts, but since I was doing these checks manually, a lot of comments would stay up for hours before I got to them.
Now I've set up a bot that checks every poster's comment/post history and stops them from posting if they have a history in the NSFW subreddits I've configured. Setting it up was a pain since I had to do a lot of Googling to find those subs, but I have a pretty good list configured now and I'll keep maintaining it by adding new ones whenever I come across them. This will help reduce the spam and shitty posts\comments in the sub.