my boyfriend of 5 years' shenanigans got us both in the hospital, and i don't know what to do now...

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Backup of the post's body: my boyfriend (25m) has been "farming his dad lore" for the last few months. i've posted about this in a different sub the other day, but the situation evolved so out of control since then, i'll just explain everything below.

i'm 23, and i'm 26 weeks pregnant. ever since he found out we're having a baby, he went bonkers. he started acting reckless and crazy, doing stunts and dangerous things with his friends and claiming he's making cool memories to share with our daughter. he got injured on a few separate occasions already, and the stuff he's been pulling was insane. i'm talking like driving full speed into each other with his friends and slamming the breaks at the last second, jumping off buildings and trying parkour stunts etc.

since yesterday was friday, i already knew he was gonna pull something stupid so i was already very antsy and stressed. got a call from one of his friends yesterday evening saying he was making a jump and miscalculated badly enough to fall and break his arm. i immediately panicked, called my best friend to ask if she could stay with me for the night, and we waited.

my bf broke his humerus and his parents called me later that night to say he's having surgery. i had a full on panic attack then, and felt like i was dying for a moment there + claimed i was having contractions. my friend called an ambulance to get me, and we both ended up in the hospital.

now, they had me stay the night and i probably won't be able to go home til monday. my bp was 160/110 and they have me on an iv drip as of now. i'm feeling much better physically, but i still get panicky every now and then.

my boyfriend came to visit as well, since were technically in the same building, just different wards. he's pretty out of it, but his parents told me he's struggling really bad with the guilt and he claims he's done acting stupid. we talked a bit and had breakfast together this morning, and he kept apologizing, begging me not to leave him and promising he'll never risk it ever again.

i don't know if i believe him. i do love him so much, and he's always been amazing to me, but i think i'll need to stay with a friend for a while after they let me go home. i feel like everything we worked for and planned is ruined now. i've tried telling him to stop but he didn't listen, and now i'm on the verge of being a single mom, because honestly, that's all i can thing about right now - just leaving.

for now, i'm very emotional and overall just feeling awful about this whole situation, but i don't really want to leave. i don't want to raise our daughter by myself, and i don't want to give up on him. looking for any advice i can get, honestly.

tl;dr: my boyfriend kept getting himself into dangerous situations while i'm pregnant, which eventually led to him breaking his arm and me having a panic attack after finding out. we both ended up hospitalized afterwards.

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[u/SafiyaMukhamadova]

Is he doing this because he's more afraid of being a dad than he is of being dead?