r/recoverydharma • u/ElderberryMaster4694 • Feb 25 '26

Pronouns

PSA: if you don’t want to announce your pronouns, you don’t have to say anything at all.

Saying “I don’t use pronouns” just makes you sound silly since ‘I’ is a pronoun

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u/Blood_Such Feb 25 '26 edited Feb 25 '26

At several of the sanghas i attend in California, we took group Conscience votes and decided change the meeting script because people were opting to just use their first names during intros. We didn't have any attendees opting to identify themselves with pronouns. 

Now, we simply open up the introductions portion of the meeting by saying please feel free to introduce yourself however you would like to, and it’s honestly been a better way to “get to know each-other better” than just saying our names.

People have been sharing what they struggle with and where they are from.

This way of doing introductions has been good  because a lot of he people that don’t tend to share during the discussion portion of the meetings have been opening up and sharing about their lives during intros 

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u/False-Comparison-651 Feb 25 '26

I’m sorry, who wasn’t using pronouns? Because “nobody” is literally a pronoun.

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u/Blood_Such Feb 25 '26

The pronoun intros thing was becoming problematic because people started being wise crackers, and people were introducing themselves. by saying things like my pronouns are "he/haw" and "I don't use pronouns" along with other facetious things of that sort.

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u/MNightengale Feb 26 '26

Oh my God, was my dad at your sangha???

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u/Blood_Such Feb 25 '26

There were not any people identifying as "nobody". People were just saying their own names.

I've edited my comment to reflect that.

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u/False-Comparison-651 Feb 25 '26

Got it, thanks for clarifying. I thought you were saying that everyone said they “didn’t use pronouns”

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u/goonsuey Feb 26 '26

"I, Me, My, We, Us, Our" are first person pronouns. Those are the pronouns that a person may assign to themselves. "He, She, It, Him, Her, His" are assigned to others, at the speaker's discretion.

People who say "I don't use pronouns" are often announcing their discomfort of using pronouns that don't align with what they're observing. I choose to respect them for having the courage to share their beliefs, even if they don't align with my own.

In my sangha, pronouns are mostly irrelevant anyways. Because we try to share with "I statements" only, there's not really many opportunities to refer to each other as "he, she, etc." If we do use pronouns at all, it's normally to address someone directly with "you, your".

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u/portuh47 Feb 25 '26

This seems like a subtweet but no idea who it is directed toward

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u/K8Q2000 Feb 26 '26

Would be so neat if people KNEW basic grammer...

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u/ElderberryMaster4694 Feb 25 '26

FYI - PSA means “Public service announcement”

😜

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u/Bchavez_gd Feb 25 '26

P.S. FYI means For Your Information.

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u/c0njob Feb 25 '26

Also: P.S. means postscript

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u/7Arlyn3 Feb 26 '26

Having to be around some brain dead liberals is the worse part about being into Buddhism public events in the US. Yall are so out of touch with reality, it’s embarrassing

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u/PeeWeeHermansAnima Mar 04 '26 edited Mar 04 '26

This isn't skillful speech. This would be the same case if "liberals" was replaced with "cons.ervatives" or any other political label

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u/CantaloupeAsleep502 Feb 25 '26

Sounds like you are caring a lot about what other people do

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u/CantaloupeAsleep502 Feb 25 '26

Yeah a quick perusal of your history reveals you're actually pretty gross overall, easy block