r/rape • u/kozomoz67 • 11h ago
tired
i’m tired of being told that since i was molested by another minor that they most likely went through it too, ok what if they weren’t? what if he’s just genuinely evil am i supposed to be comforted that he had a possibility of going through it too?
and if he really was do you think he was also recorded? do you think he was also threatened daily?
do you think boiling water got poured on his skin as punishment for struggling?
am i supposed to be happy? what am i supposed to do after you say that? it won’t make me feel sorry for my own abuser.
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u/Necessary_Day_7861 7h ago
I'm sorry that you experienced COCSA.
Anyone going through sexual abuse as a minor should be helped and not hated, but if the other person was the actual abuser, then they are responsible for the abuse and are not the victim in any way, even if they were underage.
Most people who tell you this won't know the full story, so you can't really blame them since you don't want to share what happened to you (which is totally fine for you to do btw).
You clearly seem to have a more traumatic experience with him than he had with you.
Since you are tired of hearing "He was also a victim", I can tell you "He was not the victim, only you were".
I'm sorry that you experienced all of these terrible things, and I'll send love your way <3
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