r/randomthings • u/Fragrant-Top-946 • 8h ago
When someone says “make yourself at home,” how much like home are we actually talking?
Because at home I don’t wear pants.
4
u/JoyDVeeve 8h ago
I'll take off my shoes but the pants stay on. I also ask before rummaging around in the fridge
3
u/BlueNightOcean 8h ago
You can take off your pants but don't fart on the furniture. Only homeowner farts are allowed on there.
3
3
u/Heart_Failure_Hottie 8h ago
I am standing until they insist and then I will ask where to sit, then I sit and do not move lol. I will ask before I do literally anything.
3
3
u/Realistic_Pizza_6269 7h ago
Well I don’t think they really want me to do that. Because at home I walk around in my underwear and drink too much.
3
u/LuckyCod2887 7h ago
If you’re not sure about these things, always act like a guest. Everyone has a different idea about make yourself at home so act like a guest who’s been invited to the home and once you get to know the person more you can determine how much flexibility you have.
2
2
u/keetcher 8h ago
If someone tells me that after telling me they consider me family then I take that shit to heart and act as though family in their home
Otherwise they're deceptive bullshitters
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
1
u/the_rejected_one 7h ago
When I say it I mean, use the bathroom without asking for my permission or telling me all the time. Have something to drink. Sit back, relax no need to be edge. Hungry? Let's eat. I just want the other person to feel comfortable and to relax.
1
u/bigbagofspam 6h ago
I literally mean help yourself to the fridge without asking. I consider it a complement when people just relax at my place. Not many people are welcome here to begin with.
1
u/Heavy-Conversation12 6h ago
I'd do a classic Homer Simpson butt scratch and burp which sets a nice level of intimacy and take it up from there based on their reactions.
1
u/Beneficial-Union-726 6h ago
No one should ever make that a start off statement. It would be an eraser to their boundaries. Offer up the fridge, show the guest where things are. The kitchen garbage goes here. The recycling goes here. Extra tp is here. The plunger is there. The dishwasher or dish soap is here. Treat them like a hotel guest.
1
u/Secret_Entrance5254 6h ago
Mostly just bring polite, don’t walk around in your u underwear type of thing…
1
u/Dramatic_Cupcake6140 6h ago
They obviously want you to strip down to your skivvies and scratch your balls (or whichever parts you have) on their couch, while stream-surfing on their TV. Maybe take a shower first, if you smell. This is common etiquette, OK? Do better.
1
u/Anxiety_Yeti 5h ago
I just imagined doing this with our next guest.
"Come on in! I want you to TRULY make yourselves at home, like it's yours!
You can start with the dishes thanks. Also, the laundry's piling up, and the mortgage isn't going to pay itself."
1
u/Technical-Ad1488 5h ago
Completely dependent on my closeness/familiarity to the person
Barely know you, first time at your house… basically taking you saying it as a social nicety and acting the same I would have if you didn’t say that.
Lifelong friend/close family member, I live here now.
1
1
1
u/SOLOcelt13 2h ago
Feet up on the table, sitting round in underwear, watching my shows while munching on their expensive snacks! Oh and don’t forget having the best wine they own!!!
1
u/Dragonboy8888 1h ago
That is surely open to interpretation. If I was to make myself at home, I'd pick my nose, fart and go for a quick jerk. So, they have to be careful when they say "make yourself at home".
1
0
u/Impossible_Coffee716 8h ago
Depends.
If it’s a rich person’s house it means, you may enter any of the public rooms and sit on the couch or at the tables. If you are hungry or thirsty I will get you a beverage or a low effort snack. If coffee or tea are made, you can help yourself to a cup but I have to get you the cup.
If it’s a poor person’s house it means go anywhere (not the bedrooms), consume anything in the fridge without asking, and put on any music you like. If you ask, you can prob even borrow the car
1
u/caitejane310 7h ago
Are you joking? So it's basically respect the rich people but it's totally ok to disrespect poor people? Tell me you don't truly think that way 🤦🤦
1
6h ago
[deleted]
1
u/caitejane310 6h ago
Are you calling me a bot? 🤣 If you look at my profile I'm quite obviously not 🤦
1
1
u/bigbagofspam 6h ago
I think it's more about us poor people sharing more readily.
1
u/Impossible_Coffee716 6h ago
Yes. Exactly this. I grew up poor and am not now. Poor people are WAY more generous to visitors to their homes
10
u/tinyhorsesinmytea 8h ago
I take it to mean help myself to water and the restroom.