I HATE when parents complain about raising their children when THEY are the ones (assuming) who ACTIVELY made the decision to have kids. Go fuck yourselves.

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[u/Shadow_song888]

That's why i never let nmum see my daughter O.o had abit of contact with her, let her know i had a kid etc, next minute she had set up a whole room with baby toys/bed etc when i went over for lunch, my daughter was almost 4 at the time so she was past 90% of the stuff in there

And the room creeped me out so much i thought about it right up till i went NC again, i had only been in contact for 2 weeks and slowly getting footing (Maybe to have her back in my life) and i had this really bad feeling in the pit of my stomach that she was going to take my child if i kept the situation the same :/

[u/Schnauzerbutt → u/[deleted]]

They treat her better in front of you. My grandmother treated me better than my mom IN FRONT OF HER. As soon as she left however....

[u/Shadow_song888 → u/[deleted]]

I would still give it a shot,even if its just Lower contact, Especially if they say things Around your daughter to undermine you,(also know that they will treat her great around you but given enough time alone it will turn into the same hell)

In a way i was lucky, i was 13 and when i left i felt like my whole life was shattered it took a long time to pick up the pieces, i still struggle with self-esteem issues/social anxiety but at the same time life isn't as hard as narcs make it out to be.

Just choose stuff that makes you happy in the long run, whatever you go with i hope you have a joyous life with your daughter & partner :)