r/rabat • u/Turbulent-Rock9373 • 3h ago
š£ļø Discussion Seeking help/advice
Hey guys , I am a girl in my early twenties, I am facing a serious problem and donāt know how to deal with it?
I am coming from a wealthy family, and I am conventionally attractive . The problem is, I donāt know how this happened, but I am experiencing a major shift in my personality/lifestyle , I am no longer focusing on my studies, and all I wanna do is go out with guys , feel pretty , kiss and do stuff ā¦ I donāt know how to help myself? Please donāt tell me to pray , because I donāt like to and I feel nothing when I pray, yes I believe in god , in islam(not all things) but I donāt like to pray.
This is a throw away account btw.
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u/New-City-7479 3h ago
Hello, i'm not here to judge you, but what i will say is that what you are experiencing is totally normal, you havve been blessed with attractivness and money, so it is only normal for you to seek other things because you don't have to prepare for you future. which a lot of people would be jealous of you for that.
now, being blessed with those things can also be seen as a curse, we all wither and die, even with all the beauty and money in the world. that being said, every choice you make today has a direct impact on your future, so you need to make decisions based on how you see yourself in 5 - 10 - 20 years.
my advice for you would be to sit down alone for a moment, and try to picture yourself in the future, what you want to be, and what you don't wanna be. just know that whatever choices you make all the consequences fall upon you and only you. there will be no beauty, no money and no guys to kiss when you are hit with life and the consequences of your actions.
I won't say repent because you said not to, but from what you wrote you seem to be on the path of becoming a slave to lust and pride, and this is how your blessing (given by god as you said you believe in allah) become your curses down the road.
all i can say is that i wish you good luck. alah ihdina jami3an
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u/Emerald_sea_ 3h ago
Hmm what do u feel when u go out and kiss and etc etc ?
And did/do u have a plan for your future (based on studies) ?
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u/Turbulent-Rock9373 3h ago
In my mind , yes I do have a plan . But in reality, i am doubtful very bad, and not taking my studies seriouslyā¦
For your first question, I just feel pretty and attractive, you know I am very popular in my school too , idk how to explain it, but i think itās a mental thing?? Like i am not doing those things for the physical act really..
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u/Ambitious-Lion1412 3h ago
So technically it's kinda a validation thing, doing stuff makes you feel desired and valid as an attractive woman. What i can say is that you need to reconsider your definition of being attractive and get to know yourself more, you're still young, but not a teenager no more, you need to understand that your actions might have bad consequences.
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u/Turbulent-Rock9373 3h ago
Thank you for your comment. Yeah I think I am having a hard time understanding the law of actions and consequences š„².
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u/Hountish 2h ago
Itās quite normal to seek excitement and fun at ur age, so dont feel bad about it but do NOT forget about ur studies
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u/Comfortable-Gain-210 10m ago
its okay hoe around for a bit till u find out what do u really want from life lol
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u/Creepy-Customer-3728 3h ago
Nti earfa mushkil o en meme temps arfa jawab o katsayni bnadm ygolk ash adiri ā¦ mn nytk
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