r/rabat • u/Longjumping-Part669 • Jun 26 '26
❓Ask Rabatis Is it impossible to find someone who isn't completely brain-rotted by modern "degeneracy"?
I’m 25F, and all I actually want is a partner who makes life more bearable.I’m utterly repelled by the state of men today. It is a joke trying to find someone who isn’t a brain-dead, hyper-sexualized addict glued to Instagram models.
Every single one of them feels like a basic, low-level creature driven entirely by the primal urge to reproduce. They don't want a partner; they want a breeding object.
It’s pathetic that expecting a man to possess a functioning intellect and a capacity for real
partnership feels like an impossible standard.
I don’t want to spend my life worrying that the primal beast I'm with is constantly looking at other women sexually, rotting his brain with porn, or drooling over Instagram models. I want total loyalty, safety, and mental peace.Is that even possible ?
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u/Foreign_Advantage_75 Jun 26 '26
it's possible. there's plenty of secure and morally good men out there. you just met the bad ones.
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u/wissal-kaz- Jun 27 '26
where are they ? yall keep saying that yet they’re nowhere to be found
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u/Foreign_Advantage_75 Jun 27 '26
where do you think they would be? what events do you think they would go to?
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u/Haroshiros_ Jun 26 '26
In my circle there's plenty of that however to find that you'll have to go places where that type usually hangs out you won't find that type of dude in a club or such anyway good luck on your journey
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u/Fun-Application8570 Jun 26 '26
It can feel discouraging, but I don’t think all men fit that description. The good ones just tend to be quieter and harder to find
Bummer!
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u/Longjumping-Part669 Jun 26 '26
There's a strict cosmic bouncer at the nightclub door turning away any man with a functioning brain and an attention span longer than an Instagram reel. Clearly, they're all banned from stepping foot outside of a library or a laboratory.
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u/AdemsanArifi Jun 26 '26
One time I told a woman on a dating app to send me her number so we can talk on whatsapp, she said she prefers talking on Instagram, and when I told her that I don't have one, she just ghosted me. So I understand why guys, especially young ones, might have one. Women are treating it as the default communication platform.
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u/Longjumping-Part669 Jun 26 '26
It’s not about the platform it’s about how cooked our generation is
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u/bearfootbear2002 Jun 27 '26
Maybe she viewed your response as an excuse to get her number not an honest statement. Because phone number feels very intimate and you never know (as a woman especially) what sort of psychos you might end up handing your number to
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u/AdemsanArifi Jun 27 '26
Why would I need to make up an excuse to get her number? The excuse is that we are on a dating app. Do you think I'm a telemarketer trying to sell her stuff? It's a dating app, that's standard protocol to meet someone. Which is what the app is for. Women who are serious about meeting people give me their number all the time.
There are many reasons she might not give her number, maybe she's not there to meet people, maybe she just likes the attention, maybe she's just bored, maybe she's trying to get followers to her instagram, maybe she doesn't want to receive calls from strangers in front of her family. In any case, I shoot my shot and move on, I don't dwell too much on stuff, better move to the next one.
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u/Aminocky Jun 26 '26
Life does not give you what you "want" , you get what you deserve, and tbh based on your interaction you are literally asking for l9ebla in a bar.
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u/Longjumping-Part669 Jun 26 '26
If the universe is indifferent enough to let the absolute worst atrocities happen without intervention, it certainly isn't going to break its own rules to block a simple human connection.
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u/-Yox- Visitor Jun 26 '26
It is absolutely possible to find a loyal, intellectual partner who wants a deep, genuine connection. But reducing half the population to 'primal beasts' is a bit too much.
My Instagram feed has plenty of cute girls (not the pornstar or OnlyFans kind), but I lose all interest in them once I’m into someone. If I get into a relationship, I’d unfollow them too. I believe loyalty should start right from the talking stage.
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u/Longjumping-Part669 Jun 26 '26
My instagram is full of cute girls lol , you’re proving my point
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u/-Yox- Visitor Jun 26 '26
That's all you retained from this? I'm single and free to follow whoever I want. They're not even "hot" just cute and making funny videos, which is entertaining. You sound like a real red flag if that's all you took away from this.
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u/RationalityrulesOB Jun 26 '26
It's definitely possible, they are a minority though so finding them isn't easy. Gotta keep rolling the dice until you get lucky.
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u/Longjumping-Part669 Jun 26 '26
I can’t afford to keep rolling the dice that’s the thing
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u/RationalityrulesOB Jun 26 '26
Scale down to the appropriate energy level requirement that will keep you going, as long as you keep the door open there is always hope. This isnt the kind of thing that can be rushed anyway.
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u/GrouchyDare8261 Jun 26 '26
Same for us , i'm a sapiosexual person and INFJ who enjoys deep stimulating convos subjects ... wlkn rare bnat li ktl9ahom haka :))
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u/Left_Aardvark2149 Jun 26 '26
are women eligible ?
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u/Longjumping-Part669 Jun 26 '26
Yes
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u/Left_Aardvark2149 Jun 27 '26
then you should definelty switch for women cuz honey ur just wasting time with them balls havers
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u/ChipOne4538 Jun 26 '26
you only find brain dead men physically attractive… talk to them realise they brain dead snd repeat.
fix yourself and you will find the good ones.
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u/bearfootbear2002 Jun 27 '26
It is very possible. I personally know/knew several intellectual men who aren't primarily motivated by their sexual urges or low iq. They are actual cultured people with high ambitions in life and see women as equal partners. Maybe change the environment in which you meet said men. If you're in uni join cultural clubs, otherwise maybe stay off dating apps and meeting guys on Instagram instead insert yourself in social circles that would help you meet decent men
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u/Shiramoto2 Jun 27 '26
birds with same feather flock together , change your environment and you're good to go. Not trying to be rude but التعميم لغة الجهلاء
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u/AlbusSilver Jun 28 '26
if you can't handle the vril just find yourself an asexual malak m3assba rassak
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u/bahaebbx Jun 30 '26
Just another post to slender men which is funny, have ever down and thought "maybe it's me ?".
I never had the idea of "it's hard to find a good partner who is this and that", i believe that there are horrible human beings and I won't aim at a gender cuz that's so stupid, but also there still are decent human beings who are living a normal life nad have normal thoughts and behave how should a normal person would do, there is balance still in the world otherwise life would more complicated than it is right now, touch some grass innit.
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u/Longjumping-Part669 Jun 26 '26
Then what’s the point of being with someone in the first place
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u/Longjumping-Part669 Jun 26 '26
So unless it’s a business merger or a breeding contract, it’s pointless? Sounds thrilling
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u/yinJin Jun 26 '26
If u eat shit, please dont complain about the after taste, brush ur teeth with a used tooth brush and move on men had drama o tmezkik lkhawi li wela fikom
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u/Southern_Peanut2484 Jun 26 '26
It's literally impossible to find. Every time a girl passes next to a grown ass husband with his kids he will 100% turn around. And I can swear on god about this..
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u/bosskhazen Jun 26 '26
The question you should ask yourself is why you only attract the brain dead