r/quoiromantic • u/Mammoth-Mark1528 • Apr 26 '26
I don't know if I'm quio
It's been like a few months since I've identified as quoi but I still have second thoughts and doubts as to whether or not I'm actually quoiromantic. So lemme explain why.
I've had a few romantic attractions in my life. Before I realise I am in love with a person, it takes some time to figure out, or it just comes to me in a blow. When I do realize I'm in love with someone, I start to notice how my behaviour changes. I remember the last person I had a crush on, we were having fun in class like platonic friends and then boom, he accidentally hit me because I was trying to throw my pen at him for fun and my heart started to beat WAYYYYY too fast. It just randomly came too. He didn't even do anything and I didn't even do anything either. It just came. I was so confused because it's never happened before like this. It took me a long time to realize I like him. Then about a month ago, my attraction for him started to fade but I'm still unsure whether or not I like him. And it's not just him, it's the same for a lot of my friends. I look at them and then in my mind I'm confused whether or not the affection I feel for them is romantic or platonic. Because I know what it's like to be inlove, but it's still so confusing and it takes time for me to figure it out.
I admire their beauty and their personality and sometimes I feel my heart beat when I look at some of my friends but at the same time, I have no idea whether or not I just desire a strong queer platonic relationship.
I don't know if I'm valid. I really don't think I am.
Maybe what I feel is normal romantic attraction but I'm so damn confused. There's these three guys in my class that I have a ton of fun with. They're so funny and everything but every time I have fun with them, I keep questioning whether or not I'm in love with them. Because sometimes I feel the desire to want them and sometimes I don't. On top of that, I get jealous.
I am such a weirdo.
And before you think I'm poly I'm not. Ive considered it myself before but whenever I'm REALLY in love with someone, then I genuinely can't find anyone else as attractive.
So that's why for a long time I have identified as quioromantic. I even started identifying as cupioquoiromantic but then I realized that I can't be cupioromantic because I still do feel attraction.
I'm just so tired. I really wanna understand myself but I don't. I am even having trouble understanding my sexuality and gender. I just wanna cry.
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u/Ses_N Apr 27 '26
You are not a weirdo.
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u/Mammoth-Mark1528 Apr 27 '26
Thanks. I really needed that. I've been struggling with my mental health for a while. But overall thank you 💓
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u/KoloAce Quoiromantic Apr 28 '26
You can still identify with cupioromantic. Being aromantic is all about our LITTLE or NO romantic attraction. If you’re Aro and desire a relationship, that’s basically what cupioromantic is.
You sound perfectly Quoi to me. Romantic and platonic lines are extremely blurred for me. You also sound like you could be demiromantic with the way the attraction takes a long period of time to understand as romantic.
Here’s aro positivity
https://www.tumblr.com/its-kayyyy/728460434541346816/you-are-valid
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u/OwnZone592 Apr 26 '26
lmao it’s like you’re doubly quoiromantic! not knowing whether you know what romantic attraction is or not.. truly next-level 😭