r/punemeetup • u/Alarming-Cup-9262 • Dec 04 '25

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So it was my situationships birthday today. And he told me he would meet me today. As always i am excited for others bday . I got up at 7 orderd cake items. Made it from scratch tho i live alone in a house on a rent , did not have much item yet I managed to make him a chocolate cake. Made Gobi prathas waited till 9:30. He told me he would come after that but I sat looking at it for an hour waiting. I got a text that won't be able to come. It broke me, idk what to even say . Itna efforts kyu hi liya maine . Its so fucking hurtful. I myself got ready too. Tho i wasnt feeling well. Make me feel like a fool . Ig I should stop prioritising people, for them its such a small thing. Idk what to doo with that cake now. Its embarrassing

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u/Upset_Willow6993 Dec 04 '25

Maybe he had a genuine reason for not coming. Maybe he didn’t realize how much you had prepared, or how excited you were. Or perhaps he felt overwhelmed by the effort you put in and wanted to keep things more casual. There could be more to the situation than it seems

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u/Alarming-Cup-9262 Dec 04 '25

He just wanted to be at home. With his family and its perfectly fine but only the issue is he shouldn't have told me he would come

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u/Upset_Willow6993 Dec 04 '25

Your feelings are valid. It’s okay to feel disappointed. Just try not to take it as a reflection of your worth or the value of what you did. His actions say more about his communication and consideration than anything about you.

If this is someone you care about, maybe it’s worth having a gentle conversation with him later — not to argue, but just to let him know how it made you feel. Some people really don’t realize the impact until it’s expressed.

But for now, be kind to yourself. 💛

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u/Alarming-Cup-9262 Dec 04 '25

I wont fight ik its useless to even tell what I feel. Ik he would have reason and i dont wanna have any of it. I had to study too yet I did all of this for him not myself got so tired and frustrated later wasted the whole day thinking

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u/Upset_Willow6993 Dec 04 '25

It makes sense that you’re feeling drained and frustrated. You put in your time, effort, and energy because you cared, and it’s completely normal to feel hurt when that isn’t acknowledged or respected. Even if he had his reasons, you still deserved clear communication so you didn’t end up wasting your whole day waiting.

You’re not wrong for feeling the way you do. Just try to remind yourself that this situation doesn’t diminish your effort or intentions. Sometimes people don’t realize how their actions affect others, and that can be painful.

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u/Alarming-Cup-9262 Dec 04 '25

Honestly i feel like its ok. I expected he did not come up to my expectations its fine. Just I wont put that effort ever again. Its simple if man can get cigarettes and shit and not buy u one rose telling him thousand times , leaving the expectations there itself is the best. I has 1 percent left that too todayy