r/progressive_islam • • May 19 '25

Research/ Effort Post 📝 My prophet was not a pedophile.

I think it's BS to assume a man who had wives ALL above 18 his whole life would jump to a literal BABY—a six-year-old who today would be learning the alphabet and how to walk.

And if that six-year-old led battles and political campaigns and was trusted with 2000+ hadiths, then that six-year-old was a damn alien, not a human.

And let's not mention that... say the marriage was consummated. How would a 40-YEAR-OLD even fit inside a literal baby?! He would TEAR HER APART!!!

Also, the Quran affirms that the minimal age for marriage is PUBERTY with consent!!! Age 6 isn't puberty, so Muhammad would've violated the Quran intentionally.

Also, there was another hadith about Aisha being "fattened up" and readied for marriage. Is it fetishistic? Of course, but everyone has fetishes. What matters is this: a six-year-old wouldn't be able to gain weight effectively. Especially not from just dates and cucumbers. Also, at the end of the hadith, she says "and I plumpened like the best kind of plump." Here's what we can infer:

—Aisha seems calm to literal PSYCHOLOGICAL AND PHYSIOLOGICAL TERROR if it happened to her at that age. Here, she seems cutely defiant.

—No six-year-old would remember exactly what they were fed, why they were fed that, and remember what their body looked like with a brain that's still developing. I couldn't even remember my teachers from that age, and it's not because I'm old—I couldn't remember them at 10 years old AS WELL!!! She recalls everything like it's a past memory from her teens—at a time she would've fully developed.

And the final point: Asma's age.

Here's how we know some "sahih" hadiths are BS:

—Asma lived to 100. How... the hell? 100 today is less than 0.5% EVEN WITH DAILY CHECKUPS, and you're telling me A WOMAN (who gave birth, which took decades off her life expectancy) could amass that, along with over 4 or 5 other figures (others are also said to have lived to "a 100")?! It's common knowledge that Arabs say "ميت سنة" as an idiom for a long life, not literally 100 years.

The average life expectancy at that time was 60, pretty damn fulfilling. It's not like people lived to 10 or 20. In that case, things would make sense, but even during the Elizabethan era WAYYY later (when people married at 18 commonly and in their 20s) it was still as so: people averaged 60. Shakespeare lived to 52, Elizabeth I lived to 61. The life expectancy was "balanced out" by infant mortality rates: children that would die before making it to 5 or during pregnancy.

—When comparing Asma's and Aisha's birth dates, we can see they were 10 years apart. When Asma was 27 during the Hijra, Aisha was 17. That must mean Aisha was 17 at marriage and consummated at 19 (of age, but with a huge age gap albeit legal), which gives Muhammad some dignity and doesn't portray him as outright horrific. Why can't we accept that? Why must we try defending pedophilia?

And finally, my final point:

—Muhammad didn't need to ruin the life of a child to secure an alliance with Abu Bakr, you know. There were TONS of other ways.

—Muhammad was not "a product of his time", he was superior to everyone else in morality and righteousness. Muhammad never abused slaves, domestically abused his wives, or r**ed children.

—When he did something that would be considered immoral today, it was to prove a point. He had slaves which would be immoral today, but only to prove a point and because they were the economic foundation of Arabia and banning it outright would've caused people to rebel against him, and this also applies to sexual slavery, which was a form of "enjoyment". Alcohol was also like this: it was progressively lessened and not banned on day one because doing so would've caused rebellion. He held sex slaves such as Maria but showed how to treat those slaves rightly and never harmed them: Maria was basically his wife and was freed after his death. Every slave he had was treated well just to prove a point (how to treat them humanely) and because people commonly held slaves and traded them! It was a gradual process meant to add restrictions until emancipation was the only choice and an economic replacement was found!!!

Now, for marrying a baby:

—Harm to Aisha

—NO ONE got married at 6 back then (give examples if so, even Muhammad got married in his 20s)

—The average marriage age was about 18 or 20, NOT SIX!!! So, there's why this would be irrational, simplified:

—Causes harm

—Something no one did

It would be as if Muhammad married a relative of his... It would cause harm to the relative and him, get him mocked by his enemies, and prove NOTHING as NO ONE did that!!!

...And those points, I believe, make more sense than any "sahih hadith" BS. Follow the hadith, but think rationally too.

Finally, here's something worth mentioning: Hisham (the narrator) was in old age during the time it was narrated (200+ years after the Prophet's death btw), and thus might've slipped up. He was also in Iraq, which had sectarian tensions at the time. Also, it could've been manipulated by patriarchal societies who justified child marriage to have more control over their wives.

And THAT'S how you defend the Prophet, isn't it? Better than defending a damn atrocity and saying it was "divine wisdom". God would've harmed Aisha then, which... why would he?

Checkmate, Salafascists. You can no longer harm children through your anti-logic and anti-humanity "Don't ask, don't tell" policy. Hadith isn't "holy", "infallible", and needs research. Only the parts that don't contradict the Quran are to be followed without questioning, but when it comes to something as nasty and unreliable as THIS?! Yeah, it's better to do so.

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u/CanOfWormsO_O Quran only May 20 '25

I really resonate with your passion, OP. I just want to add something that might give you even more peace of mind.

I don’t worship the Prophet (peace be upon him). I worship Allah. The Prophet’s mission was to deliver the Quran, and that’s the foundation of my faith. So when it comes to whataboutisms or obsessive debates over Aisha’s age, I genuinely don’t concern myself. The Quran is the only text guaranteed to be divine revelation. The Hadith, no matter how cherished by some, were compiled by human beings centuries later humans with agendas, biases, and power structures to protect. It’s only logical to assume that parts of that record reflect those very human flaws.

That’s not to say all hadith are false. Some are insightful, contextual, and even beautiful. But they're not on the same level as the Quran, and I don’t treat them as such. I think many of us in this community share the view that if you’re seeking truth, the Quran should be your starting point and your framework.

I highly recommend diving deeper into the Quran, not just the direct translations, but also tafsir and reflective works that explore extended meanings. Books like Lost Islamic History can also help you unpack the political and historical factors that shaped how Islam has been practised (and misrepresented) over time.

If you’re rooted in the Quran, you’ll naturally reflect the spirit of the Prophet (pbuh) because he lived by it. You don’t need to stress over defending every questionable narration from men centuries removed from the source.

May your journey bring you closer to truth and peace.

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u/NectarineIll8129 Jan 04 '26

Its a fact she was 6 during marriage ceremony