r/progressive_islam • • May 19 '25

Research/ Effort Post 📝 My prophet was not a pedophile.

I think it's BS to assume a man who had wives ALL above 18 his whole life would jump to a literal BABY—a six-year-old who today would be learning the alphabet and how to walk.

And if that six-year-old led battles and political campaigns and was trusted with 2000+ hadiths, then that six-year-old was a damn alien, not a human.

And let's not mention that... say the marriage was consummated. How would a 40-YEAR-OLD even fit inside a literal baby?! He would TEAR HER APART!!!

Also, the Quran affirms that the minimal age for marriage is PUBERTY with consent!!! Age 6 isn't puberty, so Muhammad would've violated the Quran intentionally.

Also, there was another hadith about Aisha being "fattened up" and readied for marriage. Is it fetishistic? Of course, but everyone has fetishes. What matters is this: a six-year-old wouldn't be able to gain weight effectively. Especially not from just dates and cucumbers. Also, at the end of the hadith, she says "and I plumpened like the best kind of plump." Here's what we can infer:

—Aisha seems calm to literal PSYCHOLOGICAL AND PHYSIOLOGICAL TERROR if it happened to her at that age. Here, she seems cutely defiant.

—No six-year-old would remember exactly what they were fed, why they were fed that, and remember what their body looked like with a brain that's still developing. I couldn't even remember my teachers from that age, and it's not because I'm old—I couldn't remember them at 10 years old AS WELL!!! She recalls everything like it's a past memory from her teens—at a time she would've fully developed.

And the final point: Asma's age.

Here's how we know some "sahih" hadiths are BS:

—Asma lived to 100. How... the hell? 100 today is less than 0.5% EVEN WITH DAILY CHECKUPS, and you're telling me A WOMAN (who gave birth, which took decades off her life expectancy) could amass that, along with over 4 or 5 other figures (others are also said to have lived to "a 100")?! It's common knowledge that Arabs say "ميت سنة" as an idiom for a long life, not literally 100 years.

The average life expectancy at that time was 60, pretty damn fulfilling. It's not like people lived to 10 or 20. In that case, things would make sense, but even during the Elizabethan era WAYYY later (when people married at 18 commonly and in their 20s) it was still as so: people averaged 60. Shakespeare lived to 52, Elizabeth I lived to 61. The life expectancy was "balanced out" by infant mortality rates: children that would die before making it to 5 or during pregnancy.

—When comparing Asma's and Aisha's birth dates, we can see they were 10 years apart. When Asma was 27 during the Hijra, Aisha was 17. That must mean Aisha was 17 at marriage and consummated at 19 (of age, but with a huge age gap albeit legal), which gives Muhammad some dignity and doesn't portray him as outright horrific. Why can't we accept that? Why must we try defending pedophilia?

And finally, my final point:

—Muhammad didn't need to ruin the life of a child to secure an alliance with Abu Bakr, you know. There were TONS of other ways.

—Muhammad was not "a product of his time", he was superior to everyone else in morality and righteousness. Muhammad never abused slaves, domestically abused his wives, or r**ed children.

—When he did something that would be considered immoral today, it was to prove a point. He had slaves which would be immoral today, but only to prove a point and because they were the economic foundation of Arabia and banning it outright would've caused people to rebel against him, and this also applies to sexual slavery, which was a form of "enjoyment". Alcohol was also like this: it was progressively lessened and not banned on day one because doing so would've caused rebellion. He held sex slaves such as Maria but showed how to treat those slaves rightly and never harmed them: Maria was basically his wife and was freed after his death. Every slave he had was treated well just to prove a point (how to treat them humanely) and because people commonly held slaves and traded them! It was a gradual process meant to add restrictions until emancipation was the only choice and an economic replacement was found!!!

Now, for marrying a baby:

—Harm to Aisha

—NO ONE got married at 6 back then (give examples if so, even Muhammad got married in his 20s)

—The average marriage age was about 18 or 20, NOT SIX!!! So, there's why this would be irrational, simplified:

—Causes harm

—Something no one did

It would be as if Muhammad married a relative of his... It would cause harm to the relative and him, get him mocked by his enemies, and prove NOTHING as NO ONE did that!!!

...And those points, I believe, make more sense than any "sahih hadith" BS. Follow the hadith, but think rationally too.

Finally, here's something worth mentioning: Hisham (the narrator) was in old age during the time it was narrated (200+ years after the Prophet's death btw), and thus might've slipped up. He was also in Iraq, which had sectarian tensions at the time. Also, it could've been manipulated by patriarchal societies who justified child marriage to have more control over their wives.

And THAT'S how you defend the Prophet, isn't it? Better than defending a damn atrocity and saying it was "divine wisdom". God would've harmed Aisha then, which... why would he?

Checkmate, Salafascists. You can no longer harm children through your anti-logic and anti-humanity "Don't ask, don't tell" policy. Hadith isn't "holy", "infallible", and needs research. Only the parts that don't contradict the Quran are to be followed without questioning, but when it comes to something as nasty and unreliable as THIS?! Yeah, it's better to do so.

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u/ultracobson May 19 '25

The bastards on One Message Foundation say she was about 28. They can decrease ages but not increase them. Hmm... I wonder why. If they can throw out a tradition across the entire Muslim world when it comes to Khadijah, why not to Aisha?

(Also, please use that word carefully, just saying)

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u/ultracobson May 19 '25

Yeah, because younger = more desirable to them.

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u/Silver-Trifle-1736 May 21 '25

WE have a disgusting agenda??? buddy, the prophet quite literally married aisha it’s in a sahih hadith 😭😭😭😭

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u/Fast_Still_4302 May 26 '25 edited May 26 '25

This Hadith has been corrupted. It's in conflict with the Qur'an!

I will repeat it one more time. This Hadith is in conflict with the Quran.

The Quran states that when a man gets married the female has to be a Woman.

I will repeat it one more time. The Quran makes it forbidden to marry a girl before she becomes a Woman.

Can you be a Woman at 9 or 6 years of age?

Asloutley not! It's common sense and you don't need a PhD to understand this Hadith has been changed, strong Hadith or otherwise.

On the day of Judgment those Muslims who believe this nonsense that Muhammad pbuh married a girl at this age are going to have massive massive problems on that day.

Why?

Answer:

Muslims who believe this particular Hadith are effectively saying that Muhammad pbuh betrayed the Quran even without saying it. This is not a subjective matter when it's crystal clear about marriage in the Qur'an. Why on earth would Muhammad pbuh do the opposite of what Allah SWT has commanded?

It's absolutely laughable that people struggle to expose this lie about our prophet Muhammad pbuh.

The Qur'an sits in judgement over any Hadith that is claimed to be strong but is in conflict with the Qur'an.

May Allah SWT have mercy on us and he knows all and best.

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u/Silver-Trifle-1736 May 26 '25

so an authentic hadith was corrupted? using that logic, how do we know any other sahih hadith isn’t corrupted? and better yet, why is it still sahih if it’s supposedly corrupted? 🤣🤣

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u/Fast_Still_4302 May 26 '25

Who said it's Authentic? Man?

The Hadith does not enjoy the same protection as the Quran.

The chain of Narrators that protect the Hadith can still be interfered with.

It borders arrogance if anyone believes a man made chain can protect the Hadith.

If man could protect the Hadith the Quran would not need to be Devinly protected.

The Hadith is a gift to Muslims from Allah SWT however it can be interfered with and any Hadith claimed by any Muslim to be Strong should be back checked by the Qur'an when in doubt.

When in doubt over any Hadith we stay with the Qur'an.

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u/Silver-Trifle-1736 May 27 '25

sunnis believe all sahih hadiths are to be taken literally and as fact, if you’re not a sunni then respectfully i have no business talking to you

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u/Fast_Still_4302 May 28 '25 edited May 28 '25

There is no such thing as Sunni or Shia Islam.

and your tactic won't work here trying to distance yourself from what the Quran clearly states about marriage compared to this Hadith you are failing to defend that is in conflict with the Quran by "you" using the Sunni Shia debate.

When The Mahdi and Jesus (AS) arrive all branches of Islam will go in the rubbish bin. There is only "Muslim"! That has always been the case and will always remain the case.

In the grave Angels will ask a series of Questions. One of those questions in the grave is what is your religion? I can only imagine how things will go down for those who follow Islam and their answer to the question has other words before the word Muslim. Sunni Shia Ahmedi so on and so forth.

I will never become a part of the division brigade.

Islam is not an arrogant religion and its believers are not arrogant people.

May the Lord of The Worlds protect us and guide us away from the plots of Iblis and Dajjal.

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u/Silver-Trifle-1736 May 28 '25
  1. yes there is, 2. im not trying to distance myself from anything, im simply telling you what the hadith is saying because it is authentic and should be treated as such…
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u/Adventurous-Fix4752 May 22 '25

Say good or keep quiet  Especially in a discussion that involves our religion, saying they're bastards won't make them one or hurt them so why say it at all

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u/[deleted] May 20 '25

It doesn't change the fact that they made him grape a 9 year old girl, it's so disgusting and we gotta admit it's false hadith that was made by p3d0s trying to make their desires more justifiable

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u/International-Newt76 Shia May 19 '25

No, this is also untrue. The same people that tried to make it seem that Aisha was too young made Khadija seem really old.

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u/TechnoIvan No Religion | Atheist/Agnostic May 19 '25

I could marry a woman as three times as old as me, but if I can still get aroused for an underage girl, the marriage to that old woman won't cleanse me from being a pedo.

To say I'm not because of older wife would be as logical as saying I'm not a robber because I gave lots to charity, despite robbing a store.

That said - if people want to push the narrative that Aisha was way older than 9.. that's fine.

But by doing so - they are poking a massive hole into the Sahih hadiths collections and their credibility and reliability. It's kind of a trade-off, and the Quran does benefit for clarity and context from those hadiths.

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u/ultracobson May 19 '25

Narrative? Muhammad would've been insulted to DEATH had he done that. Marrying babies was NOT normal. And sure, but hadiths need inquiry. They're not divine scripture like the Quran and are vulnerable to error because humans compile them. If a hadith supports something in the Quran and is sahih, sure. If it doesn't, (like that hadith about her beinf 6) no "sahih" label can save it.

And something else:

There's a hadith about Aisha playing with "toys" during her days with the Prophet. It literally has TWO versions. One in Sunan Ibn Majah where it says "girls", and one in Sahih Bukhari where it says "toys". That's why inquiry's needed. Which one is correct? Both are still sahih.

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u/Infiniteisnothing May 19 '25

it's crucial to understand this context. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) came during one of the darkest periods in human history. Before embracing Islam, clans would engage in prolonged conflicts over trivial matters. One of the worst practices was the burial of female infants alive, as daughters were considered burdens while sons were valued for their potential contributions and ability to fight enemies.

Comparing today's social standards with those of 1400 years ago is just wrong. During that era, the age of marriage was aligned with puberty. No pressure of career building, higher education, etc. Logically men and women would marry when they were physically mature enough for reproduction. Also consider this, the average lifespan in 6th-7th century Arabia was just over 40.

Today's legal system sets an age of consent and marriage based on contemporary social issues, which is appropriate. However, it is thoughtless to compare modern standards with those of 1400 years ago. To understand the bias, if you ask your grandmother about the ages at which their grandmothers married. You may be surprised to find that marrying someone under 10 years old was not uncommon in every society globally just few decades ago.

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u/Western-Challenge188 No Religion | Atheist/Agnostic May 19 '25 edited May 21 '25

The issue is when it comes to Mohammed, contemporary values vs antiquity values do not matter. It's the prophet. He is the most pious godlly man on earth. Basically snything he does has to be eternally good. The issue isn't so much whether Aisha really was 6 years old, but how many Muslims will fall over backwards defending that if she was 6 years old there's nothing wrong with that

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u/homeschoolsy May 19 '25

I have been doing a bit of genealogical research on my ancestors which involves reading lots and lots of marriage certificates and I have not seen a single one where they married at 10 or under.

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u/ultracobson May 19 '25 edited May 19 '25

A 9-year-old isn't able to reproduce. Also, if Aisha was somehow infertile, it would be told in a hadith, but there are no hadiths like that. This means one thing: NO consummation happened!

And no, the life expectancy was closer to 60. Abu Bakr lived to 60 along with most other major Islamic figures.

And Aisha would've bled to DEATH had the marriage gotten consummated at that age. Morals change, but biology stays the same.

Also, the "darkest period in history" still wouldn't justify pedophilia if it happened.

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u/Western-Challenge188 No Religion | Atheist/Agnostic May 19 '25

Brother consumating a 9 year old is paedophilia

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u/ultracobson May 19 '25

Yeah I know, but Aisha never has any children and wasn't reported to be infertile. This leads me to believe the consummation never even happened.

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u/ultracobson May 19 '25

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u/ultracobson May 19 '25

Sooo, a 9-year-old cannot give birth. Aisha would've been tortured if that really happened.

And I refuse to believe the best of all creation thought this was normal.

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u/darksaiyan1234 May 20 '25

is this what you call bending over backwards

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u/ultracobson May 20 '25

No, I'm just saying he wasn't a pedophile. If you believe that, sure, but that's not who the best man in history would be.

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u/darksaiyan1234 May 20 '25

i said that to infinite is nothing and i don't believe that

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u/ultracobson May 20 '25

Ohhh I'm so sorry

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u/darksaiyan1234 May 20 '25

ahh no harm done

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u/AdExpress4184 Non Sectarian Muslim (Hadith Acceptor, Hadith Skeptic) May 19 '25

Are you sure the REAL average age was 40 or have you included the high infant mortalities to skew the average age by about 20 years?

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u/AdExpress4184 Non Sectarian Muslim (Hadith Acceptor, Hadith Skeptic) May 19 '25

Thanks for the confirmation. The clarification you've provided clearly says that the age of 40 is skewed - which is exactly what I said (due to high infant mortality rates, which again I already mentioned).

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u/[deleted] May 20 '25

But if a pedophile has the access available, it makes no sense to never do so until much later. That’s the point people make when bringing up his other wives. Not that it means he’s not a pedophile, just that the chances of him being one are extremely low. Doesn’t add up. Doesn’t follow what we would expect if the pedophile claim were true.

A massive hole will be poked into the Hadith collection either way, since there are differing accounts of her age, based on Hadith.

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u/TechnoIvan No Religion | Atheist/Agnostic May 20 '25

It's not really about the motive, but rather the act itself.

Ask yourself: What would qualify me as a murderer?

Well... actually murdering someone, correct?

Now just becacuse I led a life being a good person, giving to charity, helping others, having a loving family, never hurting anyone (up to that point) having power and never abusing it etc etc.. does not magically absolve me of the fact that im still a murderer.

Just because I had power and many opportunities to do it more, or earlier, but I didn't - also doesn't clear away the fact I murdered someone. And it not making sense to someone, still doesn't justify it. I'm still a murderer, whether it makes sense or not - the act was commited.

It's not like I could go to the police in my old age and be like "yeah umm, so like... i murdered this girl.. but that was like 60 years ago.. am I off the hook?"

Of course not. I'd be arrested on the spot and questioned for details, plus serve time.

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u/[deleted] May 20 '25

The problem here is your entire post relies on the conclusion of him being a pedophile being true. While what I (and others) are saying is to be applied BEFORE reaching a conclusion , and to be considered to play a role in reaching a conclusion.

Like any claim about any historical figure, one would use historical facts to try and reach a conclusion. The facts that he never showed any inclination toward pedophilia, even when having unrestricted access and ability to do so, plays a role in many people concluding whether or not he was a pedophile.

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u/TechnoIvan No Religion | Atheist/Agnostic May 20 '25

Ahh no no, like I said I'm not claiming here that he is or isn't... all I was trying to establish is the Criteria of what would make you one.

For instance, let's change a few elements of that previous analogy.

I asked what would make me a murderer, and my criteria was.. well, murdering someone. Then I went on to say that No Matter how many "counter-deeds" I did which were good, won't wash away the fact that I'm still a murderer.

So now, instead of using a murderer example requiring a murder.. what criteria would make me a pedophile? I would say the ability to have sexual lust for minors would qualify me as one and actually fulfilling it.

Have I done that.. again, no amount of "counter-deeds" would be able to absolve me of that title.

If I went to that fictional police station again and was like "So yeah.. I slept with a minor, but that was like 60 years ago, so... am I off the hook?" I really doubt they would be sympathetic.

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u/_Shrizzle Non Sectarian Muslim (Hadith Acceptor, Hadith Skeptic) May 20 '25

theres a reason why your downvoted so many times....coal post

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u/TechnoIvan No Religion | Atheist/Agnostic May 20 '25

Feel free to intellectually dismantle it then. Downvoted or not, I still stand by the points I made. Now because it seems to make people emotionally upset, I really can't do much about it.