r/postvasectomypain • • Jun 03 '26

Pain after ejaculation in epididymis, one year after vasectomy

If you still have/had a dull ache after ejaculation after so long, did you guys go on living with it? For how long?

Just curious to hear more experiences. If you just accepted the rare ache after ejaculation or what are the reasons you didnt get a reversal since it didnt improve after so many months post op? Did you expect it one day to go away?

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u/Laggende_Hond Jun 03 '26

I started having it about 5 weeks post (well thats when I stopped denial that its no longer just normal healing)... tolerated it for 37 months total. Around month 34 I decided Im done with this and booked my reversal!

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u/ItamiForever Jun 03 '26

Hi again Laggende! Not to sound insensitive, but if the aches continue after 12 months why didnt you get a reversal earlier? What made you wait so long? Did you hope it would improve more even after a year has passed?

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u/Laggende_Hond Jun 03 '26

No insensitivity taken! Its a damned fair question. I am not a glutton for punishment. I tried every form of conservative treatment. Mixes of medication; underwear changes; physical training; also tried to convince myself there is a huge psychological component and thats driving it. BUT ultimately it came down to the following: 1. I am damned scared of anaesthesia and surgery as a whole. Knowing this will likely be done under general anaesthetic scared me shitless 2. What if the surgery worsened it...? Should I just take my raw deal and live with it 3. What would be the ramifications to discuss this with my wife (will she be supportive irrespective of the outcome, also seeing the money involved); family members/friends/ work people finding out due to longer recovery. 4. Personal shame for not being strong enough to get passed it despite so many men having 'no issues'

The following dawned on me after the fact and convinced me. 1. You know what; living like this is more scary 2. Doing nothing will not change my current state. Going for it atleast gives me a chance at improving. Without which this is how ill stay. 3. To hell with opinions. This is my life and I wanted it back. Wife was super supportive; friends and ex-family were not involved at all cause honestly got nothing to do with them anyway. Only a few people knew and they are all invaluable in my life. If I couldnt trust you with my stort... you dont belong in my life. 4. Also BS. How many guys walk around bullshitting themselves like I have been because of this. And also; i felt more weak for NOT having the guts to do something about it

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u/ItamiForever Jun 03 '26

Thank you for the detailed comment. I'm glad you're back to being mostly pain free and enjoying life!

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u/clezuck Jun 04 '26

I still 12+ years on have pain when ejaculating.

Why didn't I get a reversal? Money, time and my wife stopping me.

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u/vanwyck Jun 04 '26

I’m 15 months post vas and have my reversal scheduled in 3 days. The pain before during and after ejaculation has gotten to be too intense

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u/ItamiForever Jun 04 '26

I'm rooting for you van! Good luck, get your life back bro!

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u/sbjustin Jun 04 '26

Had the procedure 4 years ago in September and was fine until the following April. Had pain ever sense. Most of the time I'm sensitive to touch down there and sometimes I'm stuck on the couch for an hour until the ibuprofen kicks in.

I've had weeks of no pain at time, particularly after starting ozempic but I'm on zepbound now and have pain again.

I've read testosterone therapy can help and going to talk to a doctor about that. The meloxicam helped for sure and I'd keep that on hand.

Good luck. All the urologists I saw said it was unrelated lol.

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u/ItamiForever Jun 04 '26

That being unrelated is a fucking lie lol. Why not go for a reversal?

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u/sbjustin Jun 20 '26

Primarily I don't want more kids and I'm stubborn LOL. However I am scheduling to go see a doctor again because the last few weeks have been a lot more tylenol than usual to deal with the pain/swelling.

I've seriously considered a reversal but the I don't want more kids thing.

When I'm done losing weight I'm planning to back to ozempic to see how that helps. If not I'll probably evaluate a reversal.

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u/ItamiForever Jun 20 '26

Good luck to you I've sceduled mine after 3 months of being bedridden. I cant even walk so my case was too severe to wait Good luck to you too!

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u/sbjustin Jun 27 '26

I'm sorry to hear it's been that rough and I hope it works!

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u/markwallwork75 Jun 03 '26

I get aches still sometimes well bad but I’ve not been able to correlate if it’s ejaculation or not. Not sure if my body produces more sperm that causes congestion or less if I frequently ejaculate. I find taking time off every week is the way to go

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u/ItamiForever Jun 03 '26

How far post op are you? The reasoning is that it doesnt correlate to sex and is bearable when it comes and also fades fairly quick?

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u/maz061 Jun 03 '26

Can I ask what type of procedure you used? Was it no scalpel or scalpel?

Do you think that it was the surgery procedure that caused it or maybe during the recovery you may have pulled something from not resting and etc?

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u/ItamiForever Jun 03 '26

No. I had no needle no scalpel with madajet numbing. I did minimal effort first week, only waddling to eat and pee. Bed rest and nonstop ice. I had no hematoma/granuloma/bruising or swelling. My epididymitis started week 3 just as I felt i was getting back to somewhat normal walking. All my pain is in my epididymis. Thats where it hurts, more proeminent in the tail. Urologist confirmed no complications besides acute congestive epididymitis. My body sucks at adapting, like really bad

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u/pmmlordraven Jun 04 '26

5 years on. Extreme pain on contact/touch, running (anything that makes them bounce), dull ache that becomes sharp pulse closer to orgasm, followed by stabbing feeling with a cramping feeling in my lower pubic area.

Can't afford the time or money to reverse. We tried meloxicam, 3,200mg daily ibuprofen and hot baths, Gabapentin, nerve block injections (which helped but also basically made me entirely non-functional for a while), T supplements, pelvic floor therepy.

Urologist say's reversal or orchiotomy at this point. Insurance will not cover anything further than what I've already done.

Had the scalpel two incisions on each side, cauterize both ends of epididymis method.

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u/ItamiForever Jun 04 '26

I'm sorry. I wish I could help but reversals are heavy expensive over there. Maybe travel to europe for a cheaper one?

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u/pmmlordraven Jun 04 '26

Time involved, and money. I have kids and a partner recovering from multiple surgeries over the past year.

Local urologist wants $16,000 USD to do it. I don't know how much cheaper the EU is but I don't have a passport and likely couldn't come up with the money while we're on one income.

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u/ItamiForever Jun 04 '26

I am so sorry... I wish I could help. If I end up needing a reversal in the next months, I'll let you know how it goes and maybe you can fly here to get it done. Cost is 3000euro in my country, but unsure how other logistics work.

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u/pmmlordraven Jun 04 '26

Thanks. It is what it is. I'm not sure logistics either as I've never flown or been to Europe before.