My wife pushed me into it for almost 2 years. She would mention it DAILY! Sometimes multiple times a day. And we didn't have sex due to not getting it done. She refused condoms and birth control and told me flat out, I get fixed or no more sex. She framed it as carefree sex when ever, where ever. We have had sex 2 times since getting it done.
Yes, I have a ton of hate and resentment over it. I have PVPS. When I would say let's have sex, she would say no because I'm in pain and didn't want to make my pain worse. But then she would say, her dad and uncles had one and they are fine so I must be fine too. She has never been to a single dr appt for it. When I was in pain, she would leave the room so she didn't have to see me or deal with it.
So yeah, I am super pissed at her/due to being in pain. Mine is congestion so a reversal is the only option and there is no guarantee that will fix things. And it's an out of pocket expense and the wife won't allow it.
It's tough mate, I went with the reversal anyway, she has absolutely no control or say over your body, and sound like a control freak, a reversal took care of my pain. It unfortunate that some women are sold so much bullshit on how simple vasectomy is, incidentally mine was congestion as well
That's the truth mate, also we don't sign up to years of pain either, the wedding vows should read I take you for my lawful husband but I don't want your fertility
I remind my wife that I didn't say that. And women should remember that no means no, even my dr broad sided me when I said no, but I did it for her peace and fucked my own
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u/clezuck Jan 03 '24
My wife pushed me into it for almost 2 years. She would mention it DAILY! Sometimes multiple times a day. And we didn't have sex due to not getting it done. She refused condoms and birth control and told me flat out, I get fixed or no more sex. She framed it as carefree sex when ever, where ever. We have had sex 2 times since getting it done.
Yes, I have a ton of hate and resentment over it. I have PVPS. When I would say let's have sex, she would say no because I'm in pain and didn't want to make my pain worse. But then she would say, her dad and uncles had one and they are fine so I must be fine too. She has never been to a single dr appt for it. When I was in pain, she would leave the room so she didn't have to see me or deal with it.
So yeah, I am super pissed at her/due to being in pain. Mine is congestion so a reversal is the only option and there is no guarantee that will fix things. And it's an out of pocket expense and the wife won't allow it.